Text/Moran
In the world of feelings, it may be that the initial ambiguity will make people lose their minds.
But really sober down, know that good love should have principles and bottom lines.
If you blindly obey in your feelings and follow the other party's wishes, this will only make you more and more worthless.
Many times, you don't necessarily get what you want by giving it everything you want. The more you try to please someone, the more likely they will not cherish it.
If a woman doesn't take herself seriously, a man won't take herself seriously.
In some things, the sooner you refuse, the more likely the other party will love you, cherish you well, and dare not neglect you.
Refuse to be together too quickly
I've always felt that good feelings always come slowly.
If a person really likes you, he will be willing to get to know you slowly, give each other a process of getting to know and adapting, and will not think about establishing an intimate relationship at the beginning.
Feelings that start too quickly will end quickly, because each other is only ambiguous, not sincere.
You think that the other party is because they like you, love you want to be with you, but you don't know that the other party may just play.
Especially for girls, if they don't know how to grasp the bottom line, they are easily hurt, they are trapped in it, and they have not felt it well, and the other party may want to get out.
Feelings of being together too quickly are risky, and only after understanding each other and firmly choosing, such feelings will last.
At any time, don't fall because of a momentary head, or because of the attitude of the other party, otherwise you will only be hurt in the end.
Stay sober, refuse unreasonable demands, and keep your own bottom line in order to win respect and be more worthy of being loved.
Refuse to rely on it
In this world, people are independent individuals, no one will always accompany you to the end, never put your hopes on others.
You can't see through this thing of human nature, and too much dependence will be a disaster.
People should have a sense of boundaries, maintain a comfortable distance, and get along with each other happily.
Everything is excessive and too late, only by maintaining a certain distance, each other have their own space.
Too dependent, although you can temporarily close the distance between each other, but over time will be tired, people still have to be in their own world, self to maintain independence, feelings will be long-lasting.
The best state for two people to be together is to support each other and need each other, rather than blindly giving and the other party blindly relying on each other.
Only by maintaining the independence of both parties can the feelings be balanced and can they go on for a long time.
Refuse to give up on yourself
Many people, caught in a relationship, will be easy to lose, and gradually lose themselves.
You know, a person who has no self, no one will cherish. No matter how much you love someone, you must also have yourself.
Loving someone should be measured, you give up yourself for the other party, not necessarily the other party can give you the response you want.
Good love should be two people becoming better together, not one person moving forward and the other staying in place.
Those who give up on themselves because of love, give up their own circles, so that the end result, maybe you have him, lose all. If it's a little more miserable, you lose the whole world if you lose him.
Therefore, love is never the whole of life, and no one is worth giving up on yourself.
A person who makes you worse and worse is not worth giving and loving. The real right person will only make you a better version of yourself.
Summary:
Feelings are something that still has principles and a bottom line. You can't ignore yourself just because you love someone.
Good love has always made you independent and confident, getting better and better, rather than consuming you.
Therefore, in the relationship, these requests should be rejected as soon as possible.