In everyone's childhood, they often use crying to express their dissatisfaction, some children will shed tears as soon as the wind blows, but there are also children who will encounter things and endure not to cry, and they do not know how to express emotions, and the difference will be very obvious after they grow up.
Everyone is more or less influenced by emotions, creating different personalities. Some people will even bring their negative emotions to the family, and some people will not control their emotions and cause certain harm to their families. May each of us not be slaves to our emotions and find a way to vent our negative emotions in a way that suits us.
Parents can pay attention to the cultivation of children's personality when their children are very young, so that they can control their emotions and express their emotions by crying. You can't think that crying children are more troublesome, and you can't shout loudly to make children not cry. If this is the case, perhaps parents have lost an opportunity to communicate with their children, so that when the children grow up, they will not use emotional expressions on people and things, and they will not establish trust with their parents, and they will tell their parents about any kind of things. Such an approach is not worth the loss.
What should parents do when they treat their children crying
In fact, children crying is a normal and common thing, some novice parents may be at a loss for their children's crying, and some parents will be more annoyed when they see their children crying. In such a situation, parents must control their emotions and play a role in comforting.
Whenever a child cries, parents should first comfort the child. The child's world is actually very simple. They will use crying to express their emotions, and parents can stand in the eyes of their children and analyze why they are crying. Tell them how to solve this matter, rather than just crying to make things better. Parents should play a guiding role for their children, train their children not to cry when they encounter things, let him know that they will not solve the problem at all, and must calm down to come up with the best way to solve the problem, rather than blindly bitter.
What it means to cry in a child's world
The world of children is actually very simple, they use crying to express emotions. They can cry when they are sad, cry when they are wronged, cry when they can't satisfy their desires, and so on. They cry is a way to express emotions, so that they can produce a relatively small burden on the body and psychology, although some children sometimes cry for no reason, they cry and no one's words can listen to it, this is a kind of emotional catharsis, can properly express their emotions, not in the heart of the suffocation, is also a good performance.
There are also children who think that crying will make their parents or those around them sympathize and empathize, and when they cry in front of their parents, their parents will satisfy their desires, buy him things or meet his other requirements.
Crying and not crying are just different ways of catharsis, but they may determine the child's future personality
The child who loves to cry is often a child who can express it, and he will express his inner desire and dissatisfaction through crying. He also released his negative emotions, and after crying, it may be over, and he will not be able to vent it in other ways. In this way, it seems that the child's crying is not a bad thing.
Children who do not like to cry will gradually digest and absorb a large number of their negative emotions and will not express them in front of others. When such children grow up, they may be very reticent and unwilling to tell others about their hearts, and perhaps the way they vent negative emotions has also changed.
As a child, he suppressed his emotions for a long time and was not good at expressing them. Maybe when you grow up, you still can't express it, and you will become more and more indifferent to the things around you, and you will not understand empathy. There will be a lot of unnecessary trouble in work and life, so it can cultivate children to be good at expressing their emotions and vent their emotions reasonably and effectively, rather than telling children not to cry when they cry.
On this road of parenting, as a parent, you should spend a lot of time and energy growing up with your children in order to grow into qualified parents.
Parents should observe their children attentively
Nowadays, children have a lot of ideas, and parents should carefully observe their children's every move after busy work, teach carefully, and teach according to their aptitudes. Parents can obtain educational methods by watching children's psychology books or parenting expert lectures, and according to the characteristics of their children, they can develop an education method suitable for him.