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Everyone has emotions and their own joys and sorrows, and children are no exception, they will laugh and laugh, and they will also be sullen. The child is still young, the ability to manage emotions is still relatively limited, a little unhappy will be troubled, dissatisfied, unpleasant and other emotions on the face, I believe that many parents in the process of accompanying their children to grow up is deeply experienced.
That in the face of negative emotions in the face of children, some parents may not pay attention to it, thinking that it is better to let the child calm down and pass.
In fact, this is not conducive to the child's personality shaping and character development, if the child is often in negative emotions and can not get a good solution, slowly develop a negative personality, and even produce an extreme mentality, it is not a good thing for themselves and others.
There are generally several reasons for negative emotions in children:
It may be because when encountering unpleasant things, and not knowing how to express the appeal of the heart, it can only be conveyed by playing with temper;
Or because the parents' education methods are too spoiled, the children are pampered and proud, and they cry whenever they are dissatisfied;
It may also be that the parents themselves are emotionally unstable, love to lose their temper, and imperceptibly lead to the child's pessimistic and irritable personality...
In this regard, as a parent, how should we effectively channel when the child has negative emotions?
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Understand your child's emotions and help improve your child's ability to express yourself.
No matter what negative emotions the child produces, parents must first be able to understand that emotions are the common feelings of people, and since the child has appeared negative emotions, do not inhibit the child's expression, and do not rush to criticize and scold.
What parents can do is to maintain patience, slowly guide children to say their inner thoughts and needs, and teach children to use healthier and appropriate ways of venting, and they can also combine the things that children are more interested in on weekdays to divert their attention, so that children can get out of negative emotions early and avoid being dominated by emotions.
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Reflect on your own approach to education.
If the child loses his temper from time to time, parents should think carefully about whether there is a problem with their own education methods, whether they have been overly indulging in their children in their daily lives, and then they must consider changing their own education methods.
When the child is unreasonable, make the necessary criticism of his behavior, let the child recognize and correct his mistakes, of course, the premise is to take care of the child's self-esteem, rather than forcibly instilling various ideas, which is easy to stimulate the child's rebellious psychology.
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Parents should lead by example and be a good example of emotional management.
As the child's first teacher, if parents love to lose their temper themselves, I believe that the temper of the cultivated child will not be too good.
Parents should also learn to be gentle, temperamental people, encounter things and children calmly communicate, improve their understanding of each other, rather than encountering problems, whether it is for children or others, complaining and dislike, which will bring a very bad impact to children.
Growing up, negative emotions are inevitable, parents should accompany and care for their children more, notice the child's emotional changes and teach the child how to live with these emotions, help him channel negative emotions in time, and do not ignore them.
If children can learn to manage bad emotions in childhood, it is easy to form a positive and positive personality, and they can also live more cheerfully and freely.
At the same time, parents should constantly reflect on their own education methods, whether it is more positive or negative for their children, so as to make corresponding adjustments and changes, in short, all for the sake of their children's healthy and happy growth.
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