Recently, some parents have reflected that because of the children's online classes at home, parents and children will always have contradictions because they face some problems, such as every time parents want to let their children learn well, the children have negative emotions about the parents' mandatory orders, and even rebel psychology.
Through this incident, we are told that in fact, parents and children need more communication skills to communicate, in the face of the gap between parents and children, if we can give children more routines, then children will be more likely to accept the education of parents.
How do we turn our mandatory designations into a more efficient and efficient expression in our lives? Here are three tips to teach you.
First, turn directives into recommendations
Parents can learn to turn specified commands to their children into advice in life.
Before giving advice to their children, parents must first determine what are our bottom lines and principles? For example, for some security risks and some moral principles, parents must not allow their children to question and refute, because children at this age they have not established a complete value system and moral concepts, so they need parental supervision and supervision.
In addition to the specified orders, parents can be appropriately transformed into suggestions, such as in the way of explaining the truth and principles to the child, so that the child can understand the reason and purpose of the parent to let the child do this. Then, by giving better solutions, children understand which of the parents' solutions and the child's solutions is more efficient and which has a greater direct impact.
Only this kind of education that convinces people with reason can make children truly convinced.
Second, adhere to the bottom line
Parents should adhere to their own bottom line, resolutely do not allow soft heart and easy change.
Sometimes in the attitude to some issues, parents are easy to become soft because of the child's requirements or easily change their attitude, which will greatly reduce the authority of parents, and it is difficult to establish such a parental position in the child's heart.
And because of this hesitation of parents, this mentality of swaying left and right will also make children more disobedient. Because they feel that they have room to escape from their parents, so what mistakes they have made, parents can also tolerate themselves. They will not be so firm in their attitudes and ideas about certain things.
Therefore, parents should say that no matter what problems children encounter, they must try to overcome them, rather than thinking of solving them by asking parents to help or change their mouths.
Third, the rewards and punishments are clearly distinguished
In the process of parental orders, rewards and punishments can be used in parallel ways to strengthen children's obedience.
For children, only the encouragement and praise of parents will make children more active and motivated to continue to work hard. This also tells us that in daily life, parents can make their children's education truly willing to accept through rewards and punishments.
For example, if the child's grades are good and there is progress, parents can reward the child's progress through rewards, and praise the child's daily efforts, so that the child knows that their efforts and hard work parents are in the eyes, so that the child will be more motivated in the subsequent learning process.
In fact, if the child has made a mistake of principle, then the parents should also be strict, through the way of punishment to let the child know that the parents for this kind of principle problem is resolutely intolerable, so that they dare not make it again in the future.
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