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When the teacher asked us questions when we were young, we were particularly afraid, because when we couldn't answer the teacher's questions, we would feel particularly humiliated, and at this time, we didn't want others to see our weak side, so we would have such emotions.
When we were young, we needed to learn things, so at that time we were afraid that others wouldn't know that we wouldn't. When you grow up, even if you know some things, you have to pretend not to know, because when you grow up, in order to protect yourself, growing up is the time to pretend to be confused.
Some people may think: you learned so many things when you were a child, just to make you smart, just to make you understand, why do you have to pretend to be confused?
In fact, the more people who like to pretend to be confused after growing up, the more they understand, the better they learn when they are young, this kind of person is the most intelligent person, who knows how to deal with the world.
In fact, the smarter you are in dealing with people, the more you have to pretend to be confused.
01. There are opinions, not clear
When you have an opinion about a person, you don't say this opinion, in fact, sometimes a person offends you, and you let others know that you know that others have such selfish thoughts, so you will also let others see your opinion.
In fact, when you do this, it will make the communication between two people into embarrassment, especially when the two of you are still familiar.
When you know a person's character, don't rush to say it, at this time, others have offended you, you can just take this offense of others to heart.
Later in life, if the other person encounters something, you keep an extra eye. When the other party encounters difficulties, because the other party has offended you before, you have an opinion on the other party, so you don't have to help the other party, so that the other party will know your thoughts.
What you have done is clear in your heart, and when you no longer help this person, this person also knows that he has offended you long ago.
So sometimes when you have an opinion about a person, you have to prove it with actions, not with your mouth, the mouth is easy to offend people, and you can't retaliate against this person.
02. Do not expose the hypocrisy of others
Many people in the world are hypocritical, especially when they lack something, they tend to care more about something, and even if they don't have such a thing, they pretend to have it.
When you know the hypocrisy of others, don't debunk it, sometimes others have unspeakable secrets, when you expose others, others will feel embarrassed, and they will also feel that you are not a little sympathetic, and they will remember and hate you.
Let's say your colleague bought a particularly beautiful dress, but the dress is imitation, not genuine. At this time, even if you see through it, don't say it, because when you say it, your colleague will feel particularly embarrassed.
I personally prefer to study jewelry, although I don't buy much jewelry, but I have seen each type of jewelry with my own eyes, and I have seen many people study it, so I know more about jewelry.
Once my colleague brought a piece of jewelry, and I looked at it as a tourmaline, but the level was not too high, so it should be about 800. At that time, I had just graduated and didn't understand things, and after I saw tourmaline, I said:
"Wow, tourmaline. Around 800. ”
After I said that, my colleague said:
"Ah, you see."
At the same time, it was very embarrassing, and I felt that I had said the wrong thing.
So sometimes, don't say too much.
03. If you have suffered a loss, you can also pretend to be confused
When you lose money in one thing, smart people will know how to pretend to be confused.
Imagine that you have suffered a loss in one thing, but in later life, you still have to deal with this person, so at this time you have to pretend to be confused.
Because when you pretend to be confused, others think that you are very good at cheating, and the next time they will cooperate with you, and when it comes to the next cooperation, how will others pit you? You can just pit someone else back.
But if at this time you expose the selfishness of others, then this person will have some wariness of you, and in the process of future cooperation, you will also be afraid that you will not be able to stand up to yourself, so that this person will never be punished.
Therefore, some people are like this, they have been persecuted by others, but they still regard others as a good job and show a particularly beautiful side in front of others.
When you do this, you will not offend the person, you will make the person feel that he has done nothing wrong, and after a long time the person will not pay attention, then at this time you can go and get everything you deserve.
Don't put everything in your face, so that others will be a little wary of you, because you are in the light and others are in the dark, so you are often at your loss.
04. Don't expose your wisdom
In life, don't expose your wisdom, I was particularly crazy when I first took up my job, and I always exposed my wisdom at that time, so I did a lot of things.
When I first started working, I made a lot of forms, everyone's forms were done, maybe people think that just work should run errands. In fact, the nature of my work is different from others', I am only responsible for this part of me, and the things I do for others are calculated to other people's accounts, and at that moment I realized how stupid I was.
Although sometimes there are some things, although you will do, but you pretend not to do it, you help others to do so many things, others will certainly not appreciate, others will only think that you are a very good person, again and again to use you, and finally kick you away.
When you think of this person using you again and again, you will feel very hateful, but when you want the other party to do things for you, the other party will not do it, such a person is extremely vulgar, you can only avoid it.
What you have to do is when others ask you to do things, you say you can't do it yourself, you tell others, you don't understand anything but your things, so that you don't openly offend this person, and you don't make yourself so tired.
What people are most afraid of is to do a lot of things, but they have made wedding clothes for others, many people in the world want to get something for nothing, and sometimes they use the tone of command to let you do what he should do, and he will shirk a lot of responsibilities.
When you become smart, you know how to pretend to be confused. When you are confused, you really understand a lot of truth.
The knowledge we learned when we were young did not allow us to show it in front of others, sometimes we could show our own skills, and sometimes we must know how to hide ourselves, whether it was our own temper or our own talent, we should be exposed when we should be exposed, but we should still hide when we should hide.