"Kinship is often the most vulgar, trying to dip into each other's eyes, rolling your eyes without touching the light, and even the biggest difficulties in your life are often caused by relatives, and life will also tell you that relatives are often not as sincere to you as friends." 」
This is a passage written by Lu Yao in "Ordinary World", I didn't understand this sentence when I was a child, and I especially liked to visit relatives and friends at that time.
As I grew older, I had a deep understanding of this sentence, and many brothers and sisters were not as close as they thought, especially when there was a conflict of interest.
There are families in the village who have two sons, the eldest son went out to work for nearly ten years and did not return home, and the younger son supported the family alone.
Later, the eldest brother came back to divide the house, and the younger brother also promised to give half of the old house to the old brother, and even gave the brother an extra kitchen.
But the older brother didn't do it at all, and the older brother felt that he had suffered a loss, because the younger brother's half was a new house, and his own half was an old house.
The brother asked for a new division, dividing the new house into two parts, half of each brother, but the younger brother did not do it.
Because the new house was built by him all these years, although his brother was not at home, he still left half of the homestead for his brother, who knew that his brother was so unkind.
Later, it was the elders of the village who came forward, and the matter had a satisfactory result, the younger brother took his half of the new house, and the older brother took the remaining half of the old house.
Obviously, the younger brother has his older brother in his eyes, although the older brother is somewhat irresponsible, but the brother does not have much brotherly affection in his eyes, but pays more attention to interests.
Many of us have overestimated family affection, many brothers and sisters had a good relationship when they were young, but when they grow up, they may not be so good.
Especially when a person mixes well and a person mixes badly, everyone's class is different, to say something bad, even the songs they like to listen to are different, and many things have changed long ago.
Don't overestimate family affection, being too kind to others is cruel to yourself, to let kindness have a sharp edge, overestimating family affection can only be wronged by yourself in the end.
Blood seems to give a different note to family affection, but apart from a layer of blood relations, relatives are actually no different from a stranger.
It is also necessary for both parties to operate together and communicate frequently, otherwise even the best relationship will slowly become strange.
As the saying goes, do not suffer from widowhood but suffer from inequality, sometimes brothers and sisters are close on the surface, but in fact, they are eager to step on you behind your back.
Everyone is a person who starts from the same starting line, why can you live a small life, but he is very messy.
Many people like to fight in the nest, they do not resent those who are much stronger than them, but they are wary of everyone who is similar to themselves.
You are better off than him, he flatters you on the surface, but in fact, behind your back, he hates you to fall immediately, and you are worse off than him, and you are no less ridiculed by him.
This kind of envy and jealousy between siblings will make the beautiful affection become very tacky, so don't overestimate the affection.
Parents have a few more children, in fact, in order to one day die, their children will not be alone in the world, there is a relative around.
It is reasonable to say that brothers and sisters should help each other and support each other, but when they grow up, they will have their own families, and some people will not be willing to help their relatives.
He may even have climbed up with the help of relatives, but in retrospect he looked down on the relatives who had helped him.
"The world is bustling, all for profit, the world is bustling, all are for profit."
Once there is a contradiction of interests, many things will slowly change their taste, and the same is true for feelings, it is lucky to have a brother and sister who is heavy on feelings, and it is a disaster to have a brother and sister who values interests.
Although money can bring a lot of changes to our lives and let us live a better life, no amount of money can buy a true feeling.