How many years apart is it most appropriate for a man and a woman to get married? It's worth thinking about

"Those little boys in their early 20s can only play with you, do you really think it can give you any life guarantees and happiness?" After a few years he will only hurt you, even he himself did not think about getting married before the age of 30, he did not have the basic conditions to get married. ”

Survey studies have shown that in modern times, in large and medium-sized cities in our country, it is more appropriate for a girl to marry a man aged 32 to 35 years old at the age of 24 to 25. In other words, girls are best off marrying before age 25, and it's appropriate to marry a man who is 5 to 14 years older than you. If a girl is 25 years old (26 at the latest) and does not marry herself as soon as possible, it will be more difficult to marry ideally in the future.

But the boys are fine, as the saying goes, "men 40 a flower", "women 40 years old tofu scum". Now more and more boys in big cities are getting married after the age of 30. Why do you say that, there are many reasons for this, listen to me further:

Women are like the moon, reaching a full moon at the age of 25. Why do girls grow old fast, in addition to genetic effects, but also because women will come to menstrual leave once a month, adults lose the essence of the body for many months. Boys are different, boys grow and develop more slowly than girls from an early age, do not begin to decline until about 30 years old, and are much slower than girls. An older sister in her 50s said she fell in love with a man 16 years older than her when she was 20, and her parents later said the age gap was large, but 30 years later, she said the man was younger than she looked.

As the saying goes, "Women live without getting old, and men don't live through old age", which fully illustrates the physiological difference between men and women.

We say that boys are at least 10 years older than girls, which is the truth, but the best gap is about 15 years old, and I will continue to talk about it. Reason two: from the perspective of genetics, from the perspective of procreation, the health of offspring mainly depends on the mother, because the baby grows up in the mother's body, and the intelligence of the offspring mainly depends on the father. Young mothers are able to ensure that their offspring are healthy, while only older fathers have a greater chance of being smart offspring.

Or the reason for the difference in physiology between men and women, women's IQ development to 18 years old basically no longer grow, so many very old women, still look very naïve is this truth. Men are different, men develop later than women, but men's IQ development is constantly growing, a bit like endless, the older the more intelligent, we say smart is not good memory, but the ability to analyze problems and solve problems. Modern scientific research holds that the IQ of future generations is mainly inherited by the father.

To give a few examples:

Marie Curie: 11 years of age difference between her parents, the most outstanding female scientist in Poland, who studied radioactive phenomena and discovered the two radioactive elements radium and polonium, and won the Nobel Prize twice in her life.

EINSTEIN: The smartest man in the world so far. With an age difference of 11 years, his parents were the greatest natural scientist of the 20th century, and his theory of relativity became the cornerstone of modern physics. He was awarded the Nobel Prize in Physics in 1921.

Reason three: from the economic point of view, men in their 30s have a much stronger ability to support their families, many of them have money, houses, cars, and at least a certain amount of wife, which is 24-year-old, 25-year-old boys can not be compared, 24-year-old, 25-year-old boys, just graduated from college, there is no money and no house, can you buy a house in this life? All are unknowns. Can I find a job? When will the work stabilize? Or again, even if you find a job immediately, the salary is not high at first, and it is good to be able to support yourself just now. Now that jobs are so hard to find, many college students have proposed to try them out for free without a salary.

So girls from 23 to 25 years old, married to men in their 30s, basically do not have to be poor, life is very easy, and immediately live a stable life, even a good life. At least a man in his thirties can already see the beauty and ugliness of his appearance, the fat and thin body, the appearance of young and old, and the adult jackie chan in his career.

Reason four: Men generally have a kind of pity for the weak, so the age gap is larger, women will be very pampered, men generally like to love the weak psychology. Everyone is the same age, do you still need to love?

Reason Five: Older men are mature, tolerant, and rarely argue with you fiercely, so the marriage will be more stable. The little boy is the opposite, there is no way, everyone is young and vigorous, no one will let anyone, no one will obey anyone.

Reason six: According to popular statistics on the Internet, 85% of college lovers break up after graduation, only 15% will get married, and the graduation year is the year of breakup. According to the information we saw in a Newspaper in Beijing, this breakup rate is 95%. Regardless of whether 85% or 95% is correct, it is about 90% anyway. Why break up after graduation? The reason is also simple, forced by the harsh pressure of reality. Everyone has no job, no money and no house, it is likely that the family is not in the same city, do not break up and wait for anything.

Reason seven: According to statistics, in recent years, "the smaller the age gap between husband and wife, the higher the divorce rate", and divorce within three years is quite common. According to the Wuhan Evening News, a survey of 921 couples divorced in 2004 by the Hanyang District Civil Affairs Bureau in Wuhan found that couples of the same age became the highest-risk combination with the highest divorce rate. At the same time, the white paper on marital status in Yichang City also pointed out that the divorce rate of couples with an age difference of 1 year in Xiling District of the city was the highest, reaching 19.85%, and the divorce rate of 2 years was 17.44%. A difference of 3 years is considered the same age.

The reason for this lies in the following points: First, everyone is young, very naïve, and lacks patience and tolerance. Second, economic reasons, the economy is not good, with children more nervous, it is easy to cause quarrels. Third, both men and women are busy at work at the beginning stage, physically and mentally exhausted, with little time to communicate, or unwilling to communicate. Fourth, the house slaves and car slaves spawned by the good faces of men and women repay loans every month, and their mood is not easy every day, and they are irritable when they encounter family problems. Fifth, the income of both parties is very small, the lack of material foundation, and the long-term dependence on the help of parents of both sides, and various contradictions and conflicts.

Reason eight: Men generally don't like strong women, so don't make yourself too strong, women are too strong will put a lot of pressure on men, resulting in no one wanting. Therefore, girls are best not to go to graduate school, doctoral students, when the big boss ah, can not count how many female doctors, strong women, female high-paid white-collar workers can not find objects, abound, even if you want to read, you have to get married and then read.

Although official statistics show that the total number of men in China is currently higher than that of women, in reality it seems that there are always more "leftover women" than "leftover men". The report also said that people with similar personalities are more likely to fall in love, "strong men and weak women" have high marital satisfaction, more than 20% of couples "repent" within 3 years of marriage, income and marital quality are not without significant relationship, the wife has a bachelor's degree or above, and her husband's marital satisfaction is significantly higher than that of the husband who is a husband with a college degree or below; the husband's academic qualifications are higher than those of the wife.

Those little boys in their early 20s can only play with you, do you really think it can give you any life security and happiness? After a few years he will only hurt you, even he himself did not think about getting married before the age of 30, he did not have the basic conditions to get married.

But as a girl you can't afford to play, 25 years old is close to your end, so you have to make plans for your life from the age of 20, but you can't learn to play with boys. Talk about feelings and engage in objects, don't be like engaging in any rally, 5 years, 6 years, and finally blowing what to do? What if there is no living guarantee in the end? Girls are very hurt, exaggerated, there are two or three months, can see the basic essence of a person on the line, the years are too cruel for women, the selection of objects is very unfavorable for women, only 20 to 25 years of time, but men are much more relaxed, about 28 to 38 years old has ten years.

Finally, marriage to find similar conditions is good, do not have any complementarity, complementarity is extreme inappropriate, education should not be too different, the more common hobbies the better, living habits do not differ too much, the view of things is similar is the best, in short, the smaller the difference, the better, the more stable the marriage. All divorces are caused by contradictions, and contradictions are caused by too large a gap in some aspect. Door-to-door pairing is indeed the point of marriage.

All unmarried girls under the age of 25 and unmarried boys under the age of 30 who have seen this article are lucky, and I wish everyone a happy home.