Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Time can understand love, but also can overthrow love." ”
Feelings are not eternal, and after entering marriage, you can find out whether a person really loves you.
Zhao Xiaoling and her husband have been married for 15 years, AA system for 12 years, she is waiting for her daughter to grow up, but her husband is waiting for her to serve herself.
It makes her feel funny, when you didn't answer me, why should I take care of you to the end?
Fee aA system, couples become roommates
Zhao Xiaoling and her husband are free love, in order to marry her, she turned her face with her parents.
In the eyes of her parents, Zhao Xiaoling is her own precious daughter, of course, to be closer to home, so that when there is a need, there can be a care.
But she was overwhelmed by love, and she married Liu Gang without hesitation, and even cried for her bravery, thinking that she was married to love.
After marriage, I learned how sad it is to live without savings, when pregnant, other pregnant women will supplement nutrition, and she will buy a pound of meat to compare the price.
Zhao Xiaoling is full of expectations, longing for her husband to work hard and let herself and her children have a good living environment, but since she became pregnant, her husband often stayed at home and did not work, the couple is equivalent to nibbling on the old, and the mother-in-law's face is not good.
When the child was born, the mother-in-law saw that it was a daughter, and she had no patience to cook for her, what did the family eat, confinement meal? inexistent.
Zhao Xiaoling can see the nature of her husband, laziness, no opinion, and dependence, she wants to divorce directly, but looking at the child waiting to be fed in her arms, she can't make up her mind.
When the child was more than 2 years old, Zhao Xiaoling proposed to go to work, the mother-in-law wanted her to have another son, under the dispute, the mother-in-law said to her: "If you go out to work, you have to give the family 2,000 living expenses every month, because I have no income, living expenses must be there." ”
Zhao Xiaoling agreed, she asked her husband to give part of her income every month, and the husband and wife took the pressure together, but the husband said: "You have income, why ask me." ”
Since then, the two have paid the AA system, living expenses to each other, the cost of the child to find her husband with a ticket to find half, Zhao Xiaoling also gave up the plan to have a second child, no matter what the in-laws say, make up their minds.
She had also thought about divorce, but considering that the children needed the integrity of the family, and she had chosen marriage in spite of her parents' objections, she was not embarrassed to talk about the contradiction of feelings.
The mother's brother has been married, it is not appropriate for her to go back to her mother's house to live, and if she is allowed to rent a house with her children, no one has children, she cannot go out to work, life will be more difficult, thinking about it, Zhao Xiaoling has compromised on reality, in order for her children to have a complete home, she can tolerate many shortcomings of her husband.
Her state is also the choice of many women in life, becoming a mother, life is not only their own, but more for the children to live.
Without tied feelings, it is difficult to save money
The essence of marriage is that two people who love each other jointly support a home.
If the two people are not together, it is naturally difficult to control each other's behavior, because there are many quarrels, and they feel tired.
Zhao Xiaoling is like this, she controls herself to save money, she can save about 20,000 yuan a year, but whether her husband can save money, it is not something she can influence.
The husband loves to drink, likes to eat with the children, often comes back drunk, plus loves to play cards, and the money cannot be saved.
Sometimes, Zhao Xiaoling also advised him to save a little, and her husband said, "Did I spend your money?" ”
A sentence ended the chat, Zhao Xiaoling did not want to care anymore, said too much, the husband will complain: "Other people's wives know to care about their husbands, what about you?" How much do I care about, the money I earn is still put away by myself, is it a husband and wife? ”
Zhao Xiaoling was unwilling, and also said: "Other people's husbands care about their wives, how much do you care about their wives, the AA system is what you proposed, I did not give less living expenses, how much money do you care about how much I earn?" ”
After a long time, the two tacitly avoided this topic, and Zhao Xiaoling made up her mind that when her daughter took the college entrance examination, she would divorce her, go her own way, and never want to be bound by the family again.
There is a saying that goes: "Marriage is, in a sense, a contract of love and an economic contract." ”
Couples with good feelings will cooperate with each other and contribute to the construction of small families together, while families with bad feelings will each play a small calculation, lack of overall awareness, and it is naturally difficult to have good development.
When her daughter was in junior high school, Zhao Xiaoling's husband had a serious illness, and her in-laws were old, and he could not afford to hire a nurse, so he asked his wife to serve him.
Zhao Xiaoling said: "You want me to serve you, I ask you 4 questions, if all of them are positive answers, I will come over without saying a word." First, when you got married, you said you would take care of me for the rest of my life, did you do it? Second, did you take care of me when I was confinement? Third, were you with me when I was sick? Fourth, do you remember what day my birthday was? ”
The wife's 4 consecutive questions, let the husband shut up, he can not answer one, the first half of his life in order to live comfortably, the wife "tricked" home, he has not paid the heart, the second half of his life he wants to enjoy the care of his wife, it is difficult to achieve his wishes.
Reincarnation of cause and effect, there is no reward for giving
Some people blame Zhao Xiaoling for being cruel, thinking that we should be kind, we will still have love for strangers, why can't we have a better attitude towards our husbands.
In this regard, Zhao Xiaoling was very dismissive: "The stranger has not hurt me, and he has cheated on my feelings, of course, the feeling is different." ”
Some men in normal times, ask women to be independent, and when they have needs, they hope to enjoy the dividends brought by marriage.
To tell the truth, such a person is completely self-inflicted.
Reincarnation of cause and effect, planting melons to get melons, planting beans to get beans, people's blessings are also accumulated by themselves, you have not paid for your wife, naturally it is difficult to exchange for heart to heart.
In marriage, I did not approve of the AA system, calculated the interests, and lost the feelings.
The cost of living can be clearly calculated, can the suffering of women for giving birth to children be calculated?
Marriages that are financially independent of each other lack temperature, and temperature is precisely the necessity of feelings.
Just imagine, a young girl of good age who forms a family with you is equivalent to handing over the second half of her life to you.
What she craves is thoughtfulness and understanding, and if you keep ignoring it, how can she convince herself to grow old with you?
In this way, the AA system in marriage may be the foreshadowing of divorce.
If you don't want to be lonely in your old age and want a lover to be by your side, then cherish the person in front of you.
Treating his wife well is a man's most visionary investment.
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