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Why do some men hide their extramarital feelings well, but they are still discovered by their wives?
There is a folk joke, "Men can't say no." ”
This is not easy to say in other fields, but in the matter of extramarital feelings, men are always confused with self-confidence and think that they are particularly "good".
In the eyes of men, as long as the hoe is well swinged, there is no corner that cannot be dug. As long as the evidence is repentant quickly, the East Window incident will not catch up.
As a result, many men who have extramarital feelings will have a precious ten minutes of "time in the car" before returning home.
These ten minutes are usually used to check themselves: to see if they have the perfume smell of other women, whether there are any strands of women's hair on their clothes, whether there are lipstick marks, whether the chat history in their mobile phones has been cleared...
After checking these, send a message similar to "don't disturb home" to the "confidant" outside the marriage to ensure that everything is foolproof before going home satisfied, even if the wife raids, she can cope with it freely.
However, although men who have always had a heart larger than the sky have done anti-reconnaissance work so watertightly, it is still difficult to escape the day when they are discovered by their wives.
Men are often puzzled: what is the problem?
Some people say that there are three things in this world that cannot be concealed: cough, poverty, and love. The more you want to bury it, the more you want to cover it.
Once a man has an affair outside of marriage, there will be three kinds of "traces", don't think that the wife can't see it.
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The first trace: more and more complaints about his wife.
As the saying goes, there is no harm without contrast.
Women outside of marriage only participate in men's eating, drinking and having fun, and they are naturally bright and cute every day. In contrast, the wife who circles around the chai rice oil and salt all day is doomed to be boring and boring.
YiShu once said a word
"When a man doesn't love this woman, it's wrong for her to cry, it's wrong to be silent, it's wrong to breathe alive, it's even wrong to die."
After men have extramarital feelings, the most direct manifestation is that they complain more and more about their wives.
Chen Duo (pseudonym) is a housewife who cooks well.
I don't know when my husband began to complain that the meals she cooked were difficult to swallow. This is salty, that is light. Even though her meals were no problem, the husband picked the bones out of the eggs.
Not only that, but on weekdays, her husband always dislikes that she will not make money, is not considerate enough, and will not dress up. Why not, shame him first.
And every time he complained, the husband always locked himself in the study and refused to come out.
Chen Duo felt that her husband was not normal. Once, she took advantage of the gap in her husband's bathroom to check the chat history on the computer. She found that every time she finished arguing with herself, her husband changed his face and begged another woman online for the attention of another woman.
Verifying the fact that her husband betrayed the marriage, Chen Duo resolutely proposed divorce. Since I don't have any children, the procedures are handled very quickly.
The second trace: less and less time to go home.
Men who have extramarital feelings usually have the following characteristics:
The company often works overtime, housework is never touched, the mobile phone is turned off when it goes home, and the information is deleted when it is returned.
Although a man's heart is big, it is big enough to fit many women at the same time. But it is not an easy thing for a man to have another woman in his heart and pretend to go home as if nothing had happened.
In order not to expose himself as a thief, men must avoid being alone with their wives at home and try to put themselves in an environment without a wife.
So, they'll find all sorts of reasons to go home late or not to go home.
Work overtime today, travel tomorrow, meet the day after tomorrow, catch up on the project the day after tomorrow. In fact, they are all in the residence of women outside of marriage, and they are entangled with her.
Even at home, men reduce communication with their wives. Afraid that a careless lie will not come back, it will be abandoned.
There are also some men, who have some contradictions with their wives in life, and it is easy to fall into the gentle township of their lovers and do not want to go home.
Xu Huanshan in "Thirty Only", because of the physical examination of fatty liver, was restricted by his wife from eating dinner and lost weight.
There is a green tea forest outside the marriage, but every day he changes the law to make him a good meal. Because she knew that in addition to work, Xu Huanshan's biggest hobby was eating.
On the one hand, he restricted his wife everywhere, and on the other hand, he was a gentle and considerate little girl who tried to cater to himself, and Xu Huanshan was completely on good terms with Lin You. Often under the pretext of work, I have dinner with each other and come home later and later.
Men think that with their wives' trust in themselves, they will never doubt themselves. As everyone knows, women also have something called the "sixth sense", which is accurate to your doubts about life.
Xu Huanshan's extramarital feelings were soon exposed, and he completely lost his wife's love for him.
The third trace: taking money more and more seriously.
As the saying goes, where a man's money is, his heart is.
When a man is bent on living with his wife, the salary card is handed in, the property is at her disposal, he never asks where the money goes, he completely trusts his wife and makes her the master of the house. If you want to change a better watch, you have to apply for many months. But men don't mind it.
But with extramarital feelings, it is different.
Flirting with a sister is a time-consuming, laborious and expensive thing. I don't have a ticket on hand, how can I move my sister?
Candlelit dinners, flower gifts, shopping and watching movies, traveling and staying in hotels, which one doesn't need money to do support?
In order to make themselves more generous, men either sneak away their private money or in order to regain financial power, they begin to complain that their wives spend money indiscriminately and will not run the family. They will even ask their wives: "Why can't I spend the money I earn, and I have to give it to you?" ”
These excuses, which men think are nearly perfect, are actually just leftover tricks for women.
I don't believe you think about it carefully, when you first got married, did your wife "cheat" the family's economic power under the banner that men would only spend money indiscriminately?
Therefore, when the husband, who usually does not need to spend money, suddenly begins to worry about money. When the money is taken and not spent on the purposes he has concocted, the woman will be alert and discover the secret of her husband's extramarital affair.
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I have to say that in the matter of catching her husband stealing, every woman is Holmes.
Probably two people have experienced love and marriage together, and have a deep understanding of each other's personality habits. So when a man has a different heart, as long as the woman is not too nervous, she can find cattiness in her husband's words and deeds.
Men should no longer hold the psychology of luck and covet feelings outside of marriage.
Although the old drivers always said that a wife is not as good as a concubine, and a concubine is better than stealing. But after stealing, I often feel that the gold nest and silver nest are not as comfortable as my own kennel.
Marriage is not easy, and it is done and cherished.
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