As the saying goes: "A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June." ”
People can not exist independently in this world, from the landing to adulthood, this life must deal with people, so the four words "human feelings and sophistication" run through everyone's life. It is not easy to integrate these simple four words, which is a science and a necessary quality.
Especially in today's humane society, human affection is particularly important. Some people who do not know how to deal with interpersonal relationships will run into walls everywhere in society, and they will not be able to grasp good opportunities when they come, and they will always be bruised by this society.
And those who are proficient in human feelings and sophisticated, know how to exchange feelings between people, they can relax freely, and good luck is always with them.
Human nature is complex, not all people are good people, learn a little more, let yourself have more skills, to show more value of themselves, our lives will become more happy and happy.
So, how can we become popular in society? In fact, no matter who you interact with, learning to use these people's sophistication can often make you feel at home.
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Do not make a head bird
As the saying goes: "When a gun shoots a bird in the head, it will only attract people's eyes." ”
"Wood shows in the forest, and the wind will destroy it." Always like to be the first to do things, which will only cause unnecessary jealousy and right and wrong. It is said to be a low-key person, if you often like to come out of everything, you will put yourself in a difficult situation, too positive people, will often make mistakes.
Be humble to act, learn to bow your head at the right time, there may be unexpected results, not all things need to be made head bird, bow your head when you are happy, you will go further, look up in adversity, self-confidence is the most precious.
Be low-key, when others do not pay attention to themselves, it is the best period for growth, do not focus on hypocrisy, even if you have a body of skills, do not be proud, muffled in order to make a fortune.
02
Don't easily show your hole cards
As the saying goes: "Keeping the mystery makes you more valuable." ”
Don't let others feel that you are too simple, no matter whether we mix well or badly, don't hang anything on your face, don't let others see it easily.
When you are very strong, if you show obviously, you will attract a lot of white eyes, if you are not strong enough, easy to expose the bottom card, will make many unkind people despise themselves, painful things one after another.
Sometimes we do need to disguise, even if we are nervous, even if we are panicked, even if we are in pain, we must show others an unaffected posture, which is not false, nor deceitful, but the best means of protecting ourselves.
In today's society, there are always more people who laugh at you and hit you than people who support you, don't be transparent easily, and maintaining a certain sense of mystery will make yourself more smooth in interpersonal communication.
03
Praise is more powerful than criticism
In interpersonal communication, being good at appreciating and praising others is a kind of wisdom.
Not everyone can say praise for people, there are always some people who like to pick and choose, a person who knows how to appreciate others will also win the appreciation of others, and a person who criticizes and accuses others often makes his interpersonal relationship deadlock and makes things worse.
Everyone loves to listen to praise, and when praising a person, it's a big step closer to relationships. Sometimes, perhaps an inadvertent word of appreciation and praise will bring confidence and hope to others, and even save a person's soul, change a person's life, and bring more pleasure to yourself.
Being good at appreciating and praising others is a kind of wisdom.
Everyone longs for recognition and encouragement from others deep down, there is nothing more pleasant and happy than hearing the praise of others, when we explore the merits of others with a kind heart, praise others with a sincere heart, we will find that interpersonal relationships become so simple.
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Do not judge good and evil in vain, and do not mess with right and wrong
Speaking is an art, words can be said, but can not be "casually" said, do not provoke right and wrong, do not spread right and wrong.
Especially in interpersonal communication, talk is particularly important, before making a judgment or conclusion on anything, we should first objectively conduct a full investigation, understanding and analysis of things, and be reasonable and well-founded in order to make a correct judgment, so as not to let ourselves get into trouble.
Prudent speech is the first meaning of self-discipline, and only when a person is cautious in his words and deeds and is not a communicator of right and wrong can he talk about self-cultivation.
Before speaking, think clearly about the two situations of "can be said" and "cannot be said", and for those who have sincerity and trustworthiness, "can be said", but if the other party is untrustworthy, then "cannot be said".
People have a common problem in interacting with each other: there is a little thing, they always want to talk to someone; what's more, regardless of time, object, occasion, seeing who spits out their hearts, which is typical of talking but not brains. It should be noted that words can be said, but not "casually".
Meditation often thinks about oneself, and gossips about others. When dealing with people in the world, we must blame ourselves more, forgive others more, maintain a kind heart, do not judge good and evil in vain, and do not provoke right and wrong in vain.
Zhu Ziqing once said: "Life is not a word, in addition to moving, there are only words, the so-called human feelings are sophisticated, half of them are in speech." ”
Want to work life become simpler, not only to improve yourself in ability, but also to learn more things in the human world, and the development of things have universality, learn the above four points, you will be invincible in interpersonal communication.
Author: Mr. Senmei
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