A few questions for everyone: How many friends do you have on your live chat app? How many of them have been in contact for the past three months? How many more can you help if you need help?
Everyone's answer may be different, but one thing I believe everyone agrees with is that there are not many people who are in regular contact, and even fewer can help themselves when they are in difficulty.
How did we add so many friends?
There may be a one-sided relationship, some are former colleagues, and some are former classmates. At the beginning, it may be because something needs to be added to WeChat, and then I think there will always be a connection, so there is no deletion, in fact, we all know in our hearts that there will be no more contact, but some people are lazy, and some people are nostalgic for the past and have not deleted it.
In fact, socializing is exchanging the value of oneself with the value of others. And those who have not chatted online for months or even years, they can't bring any pleasure and progress to your spirit, feelings, work, and life, which is an ineffective social interaction.
There are three ways to build effective social interactions with your experts, and if you can do one of them, you will have good interpersonal relationships, which will also improve your work environment, get the resources you need, and let you reach your goals faster.
01
Have the same wealth as the masters
In life, we can see whether the friends of the poor are poor, the friends of the rich are still rich, and it is often difficult to truly be friends between the poor and the rich.
Two people with equal wealth have a great possibility of socializing. First of all, they have the same concept of consumption, eating, drinking and having fun are at the same level, and there will be no situation of who can't afford to play with whom. Second, they will always have an intersection and it is easier to meet and become friends. In the end, they have financial difficulties and the other party can give generously.
In reality, if the gap between rich and poor between two people is too large, the chances of getting effective social interactions are very small. They may not meet at all, nor will they become friends, because people with more wealth cannot get much from people with lower wealth. So the first way to establish an effective social relationship with a master is to have the same wealth as them.
02
Have the resources that a master needs
The psychologist Hohmanns said: "Interpersonal communication is essentially an exchange, consistent with the principle of exchange of goods, in which people want to receive no less than to give." If what is gained is greater than what is given, people's psychology will begin to lose balance. ”
So, the second key way to build an effective social network is through the sharing of resources, where you can get what you want from someone else, and likewise, someone else can get what they need from you. Just like the cooperation between two companies, only when both parties reach a win-win situation is the perfect ending, otherwise there will always be problems.
So what are resources?
The individual has a lot of resources, such as connections, funds, professional technology, unique news, unique craftsmanship, etc., if you don't have these, then your vision, thinking logic, the eyes of finding beauty, the high-mindedness of the chamber of commerce, etc. Personality charm, can also be counted as a resource.
Only if you have resources that are different from others and make others desirable, then others will be willing to give you his resources, so that your resources can reach a shared state and will be effective social.
03
Have the wisdom to be on the same frequency as the masters
As the old saying goes, "Things are clustered in groups, and people are grouped." "The chance of ordinary people encountering a master is very small, and the encounter is only a one-sided fate, and there will be no follow-up interaction."
However, when you have the same thinking and opinion as him, you can intersect, because people of the same frequency will always meet, so the third way to want to interact with the master is to have the wisdom of the same frequency with the master.
Someone on the Internet did a survey: what are the important factors for everyone to build a good social relationship with each other? The results were unexpected. Most say the same wisdom, which they think is consistent with the laws of attraction and similarity.
Yes, when two people have the same frequency of wisdom between them, no matter what they do, they are on the same dimension, such two people will definitely be attracted to each other and establish an effective social network.
In life, when we are socializing, if we just blindly talk to each other, and we don't have any kind of use value in ourselves, then why do others give your resources to you for no reason?
IQ is not in the same channel, lack of reciprocal resource exchange, so it is definitely an ineffective social, so the master will not pay attention to you at all, and deep friendship with them is delusional.
In short, if you want to establish effective social interaction with the master, you must do any of the above three ways, when you have a good social relationship, no matter what you do, it will make you feel that you have done more with less. Because good social relationships can broaden our horizons, help us get more resources, and make the road to life smoother and smoother.
Author: Mr. Senmei
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