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Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

In the new year, I still envy people who can achieve "social freedom" in any situation...

When the adults were surfing, they saw Ye Shuhua and the members meet a set of almost greasy men in the variety show.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

Ye Shuhua laughed directly after listening to it, and bluntly said that "this is a little annoying", and the greasy man did not dare to make a second time.

I have to say, Ye Shuhua slay!

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

To say that Ye Shuhua can definitely be called a social bandit of K-POP.

Very good at standing up and acting as a spokesperson in all kinds of embarrassing situations.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

In a previous interview with the MMA backstage, the group members were asked "What is the company for (G)I-DLE"?

Just when the members looked at each other, Ye Shuhua immediately stood up, and then ruthlessly typed five words: There are still two years left (contract).

Is this what a worker is counting down to the departure date?

Frightened, Captain Tian Xiaojuan didn't even let Ye Shuhua finish typing, and he was desperately deleting it.

It's almost time to press the delete button out of Mars...

As a social terrorist, every time I see this situation, I will fiercely envy people who are outgoing and social.

After all, visiting relatives every day during the New Year has already forced the company to death.

I wanted to look for a New Year chat template on the Internet, but I didn't expect that there were many sisters with the same illness on the Internet...

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?
Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?
Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

Some sisters even hid in the toilet the whole time to avoid relatives who came to visit the door.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?
Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

I have to say, the toilet is really a good place.

Previously, Shang Wenjie said in a program that "the toilet is a shared charging treasure for social terrorists".

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?
Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?
Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?
Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?
Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

Xin also revealed his social fear moment on the variety show, I hope everyone ignores him...

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?
Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

In our lives, the reason why social cows attract everyone's attention more than social fears.

Probably because there are not so many extroverts in life, many people often need to pretend to be cheerful just to survive.

They are enthusiastic and generous in crowded situations, but their hearts may be very absent.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

We've always equated being outgoing with being good at socializing.

In fact, although many people are not social phobia patients, they can also avoid many social activities.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

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Are you a pseudo-extrovert?

The key to pseudo-extroversion is in a "fake" word, which has little to do with whether the true personality is extroverted.

Because the language behavior shown is inconsistent with his own heart, or even diametrically opposite, he feels uncomfortable and even has serious psychological problems.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

# Extroverts can also be socially distressed

Although some extroverts like to communicate with others, due to their limited social level, they are still more anxious in the face of certain groups of people, such as elders and leaders.

In order to cater to the fact that they will also say or do things that are contrary to their true thoughts, "pseudo-extroversion" occurs.

They appear happy on the surface, but in fact they are in constant tension and anxiety.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

When facing Lao Tie, he will show his true self, enjoy the feeling of being accompanied by them, and his heart is full and happy.

Many migrant workers usually look enthusiastic and cheerful at work, and when they get off work, they call themselves tired.

At this time, complaining in the group of closest girlfriends, or having a complete hi with a few friends on the weekend, the fatigue will be relieved.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

# Introverts are the hardest when forced to be outgoing

It's important to note that introverts don't necessarily have to be socially phobic, and they can even be socially adept.

It's just that this kind of pretended extroversion is a very huge internal friction for them, and every time they socialize, they will have the feeling that their bodies are hollowed out.

They never enjoy socializing, and they even want to escape crowds inside.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

Unlike extroverts, they prefer to be alone to heal themselves, and if someone comes to comfort them, it is a problem because they have to take the energy out again to deal with the person in front of them.

Alone, reading a book, or concentrating on what they like, as long as no one else disturbs them, they will feel refreshed.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

# People with intermediate personalities may be "perfect" or more ambivalent

This type of personality is a new classification proposed only in the 40s of the last century, they have both the characteristics of extroverts and introverts, but they will not be dominated by one of them, and the balance between the two is very good.

They can talk when needed or remain silent at the right time, and they can adapt to different situations with particular ease.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

It can be said that this is the personality trait that migrant workers want to have the most, but they sometimes rely on their emotions, in other words, the level of social interaction depends on the mood.

They also experience social anxiety, and unlike introverts or extroverts, who have as well-defined ways of self-healing, they often fall into exhaustion.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

Therefore, pseudo-extroverts are not introverts who are like this, but whether the self is more real, and they will not become tired in order to "pretend".

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We overestimate the advantages of extroversion!

An important reason for pseudo-extroversion is that we live in a more outward-looking social environment.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

Since childhood, parents want their children to be lively and cheerful, not only praised by others as smart and cute, but also more popular in group life.

In the face of introverted children, parents always have headaches, and even force changes to make their children "extroverted", such as having to greet guests who come to the house, performing shows in front of relatives at home, etc.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

When it comes to the workplace, extroverts are always perceived as more confident and competent at the job.

This is the biggest misunderstanding between extroversion and introversion, and it also forces people to choose a way of living and working that is completely contrary to their nature.

In fact, whether it is an extroversion or an introversion, it will not affect the ultimate achievement of our life, the difference is only that people with this dominant personality get energy in different ways.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

Psychologist Carl Jung believes that introverts bring energy when they are alone, so they prefer to be quietly alone.

Extroverts mainly get their energy from social activities, so they can't do without friends, like to be social, lively and talkative.

However, extroverts like to socialize but are not necessarily good at socializing, and sometimes their extroversion is a bit clumsy and hurtful.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

If you have a friend around you, she always interrupts you inappropriately, from time to time because her mouth is about to break into trouble, and then says that she can't hide things in her heart, this kind of extroversion is a problem for others

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

On the contrary, introverts are not necessarily afraid of socializing, they usually look introverted and quiet, but they think more comprehensively and deeply, and from time to time they come to a "no sound, a blockbuster".

Some people in the workplace usually don't seem to talk much, and their daily chats are a little clumsy, but when discussing business problems, their careful thinking and depth of understanding of problems are often amazing.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

In addition, pseudo-extroversion not only consumes more of our willpower and energy, but also makes it difficult to bring about the desired effect.

Behavioral economists believe that our brains usually process information in two ways, one is an intuitive effortless response, and the other is a response that requires rational thinking.

Pseudo-extroversion is the second way, it consumes more brain energy to make judgments, so it can make people feel hollowed out.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

If you're a non-social person, this exhaustion will always be noticed by people who can sense that you are not showing your true self.

Will you question whether you are still trustworthy since you are not a sincere person? In case of a thunderstorm one day, will it hurt the innocent?

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

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How do pseudoextroverts maintain physical and mental balance?

In society, especially after entering the workplace, it is impossible to fully show our true selves, so sometimes in order to achieve goals or survive better, "fake" is inevitable.

But learn to control its physical and mental consumption.

Many people have been completely ignoring their hearts because of false extroversion for a long time, and then constantly consuming themselves, the whole person collapses and falls into depression or bipolar depression.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

# Reduce occasions where "pretending" is required

How many of those occasions that always require pretending are unnecessary?

For example, do you have to get along with others so warmly in daily life? Do you have to be a pistachio when you get together at a company? Does it have to take care of everyone's emotions?

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

Then analyze whether these things have little to do with your life plan, whether they will help you achieve your goals, and if not, give up acting extroverts in these situations.

Those goals that are very important and core in your life plan and that you are trying to achieve are worth your energy.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

# Understand the range of social pressure you can tolerate

Different people tolerate social pressure differently.

For example, eating with colleagues on weekdays, some people feel that the food is not fragrant when they are not accompanied by anyone, and some people like to eat by themselves.

Even when others invite them to eat together, they will be embarrassed because they don't know what to say, and the food will not be fragrant.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

So find out how many times you can accept socializing in a certain amount of time, and find an opportunity to avoid it if you exceed your tolerance.

# Charge in time

Pseudo-extroverts also need to recharge themselves frequently and choose to leave when faced with situations that make you extremely uncomfortable.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

Or when you've coped with the necessary social interactions, create a space in time where you feel relaxed, whether it's being alone or talking to your hardest friends.

This way you can refuel yourself and be fuller the next day or week.

Like the "social bandit" Ye Shuhua! How happy is achieving "social freedom"?

Take a closer look at the more successful people, most of whom are not extroverts, and we don't have to force ourselves to become extroverted.

Pay more attention to your inner feelings, do your job well, and live your own little life, this kind of happiness is also rare.

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