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Introduction: In the workplace, why do some leaders always like those who are incompetent, but they understand people's feelings and sophistication?
No matter which company or department, no matter before and after the promotion, the promotion is not young or old.
Because in today's workplace, "ability" can solve work problems, but understanding human feelings can solve problems on the scene, including difficult things such as teamwork.
If a person wants to mix well in the workplace, not only must his business ability be strong, but also he must be a high emotional intelligence workplace person who understands human feelings and sophistication.
Understanding people is an essential skill in the workplace
In the real workplace, there are often such situations, those who understand the sophistication of people, but they do not have the real ability to always be promoted to the position, while honest people who work sincerely and sincerely frequently suffer losses.
In fact, people who understand the sophistication of human feelings are indeed more likely to get the approval of leaders, which is not entirely achieved by patting themselves on the back.
It is because human emotion is an extremely important ability to survive in the workplace, and even for some special positions, understanding human conditioning is more critical than other capabilities, and it can create value for the company.
A brief understanding of the history of the Qing Dynasty will show that Hezhen was an insatiable person, but the Qianlong Emperor knew that Hezhen's greedy nature was still very fond of him.
The root of it lies in the fact that Hezhen is well versed in human nature, and despite his greed, he understands human nature and knows how to handle things decently.
One year, the locust plague in the whole country was serious, the people were not happy, and the grain provided by the imperial court was limited, so He yan exchanged one kilogram of rations for three kilograms of bran, which effectively curbed the occurrence of death and riots, and not only won the joy of Qianlong, but also conformed to the hearts of officials at all levels.
Extending to the workplace, each position has a different positioning, each employee also has its own advantages, and people who understand the world can naturally create enough value in the right position, which is why they can get the love of leaders.
If a person does not realize this and will only use "inability" to complain about others, then it is difficult for him to achieve long-term development in the workplace, and he can only rely on relationships or luck to climb up.
On the contrary, even if a person lacks the ability to cope with human sophistication, he admits from the bottom of his heart that it is a kind of help for the development of the workplace and personally, and it is also beneficial to his own future career.
Immersing yourself in hard work will only move yourself
In the traditional concept of Chinese, "burying one's head in hard work" has always been a praised quality, and the older generation often warns the younger generation: "If you want to achieve a career, you must have the spirit of burying your head in hard work." ”
However, in today's society, immersing oneself in hard work is no longer the magic weapon to get rich, and there has never been a shortage of people who are buried in hard work in real life, but not all people who work silently can achieve a career, many of them are hard work and fruitless, and finally rank among the "poor and busy people".
The "996" of large enterprises has become a common thing, and everyone is desperately trying to keep themselves busy, passively obeying the arrangements of the leader, afraid of encountering a layoff crisis if they are not careful, so they try to use workload and working hours to enhance their competitiveness.
As everyone knows, mechanically repeating low-value labor will only consume too much of their own energy, and it is difficult for leaders to find their own shining points.
Chinese artist Chen Zhiyong's work "Cicada" tells the story of a cicada who came to the human reinforced concrete world and gradually lost itself in the struggle, he did the work of data entry, imitated humans to put on suits and ties, worked hard in the small cubicle, and did not make any mistakes in 17 years.
However, because they did not integrate into the relationship between colleagues in the company and endured workplace bullying, not only could their work not be recognized by the leaders, but also lost their due welfare benefits and promotion opportunities, and were never accepted as companions by human beings.
At the end of the story, the cicada with no job, no home, no money goes to the top of the skyscraper...
In fact, the cicada in the book is the epitome of many people in the workplace in reality, without outstanding talent and ability, doing the lowest level of work, selling their time and energy, only burying their heads in hard work, but ignoring the handling of interpersonal relationships in the workplace.
High emotional intelligence is equally important in the workplace
Workplace survival is a science, and having the ability to work can certainly add value to us, but if we do not have sufficient emotional intelligence and do not know how to deal with human feelings, it is easy to depreciate our own value and become the best in the company.
In the workplace, people like to deal with people with high emotional intelligence, in the final analysis, it is related to the needs of the heart, people belong to the emotional animals, need to get the attention, recognition and encouragement of the outside world, if we often work against others, do not know how to take care of each other's emotions, it is difficult to develop in the company for a long time.
Xiao Liu in the department is the person who works against the leader, and the supervisor proposed a plan that needs to be implemented immediately at the opening of the weekly meeting, but he rejected it on the spot, indicating that this will disturb the customer's recognition of the company, without giving the supervisor a step, and the scene was once very embarrassing.
Both sides do not agree with each other's views, and the result can be imagined that Xiao Liu has left an extremely bad impression in the hearts of leaders, even if he has a talent, promotion and salary increase are likely to become a fantasy.
It is not difficult to understand from the perspective of a leader, will you like employees who have the ability to refute your opinions at every turn, or do you like employees who are mediocre and know how to take care of your emotions?
The answer is yes, since people have emotional needs, they will want to find people who are on the same frequency as themselves and can care about their emotions.
Finally, ability and value aside, people who understand human sophistication know better how to cater to the psychology of leaders and guess their true inner thoughts more accurately.
Therefore, when leading the management team, they will actively cooperate to cater to the interests of the company, and then get the appreciation and praise of the leader.
On the contrary, if the ability is very outstanding, but does not understand the sophistication of people, only focus on personal interests, the leader will find it very difficult to manage.
Text/Lao Xia Analyst
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