Text/Little Snow Mom
If there is a second child at home, parents will more or less compare the two children, especially if the shortcomings of one child are advantages in another child, this comparison will be more obvious.
Just like many parents, their boss is more generous and honest, and his personality is more generous; while his second eldest, his personality is more lively, smart and clever, and his small head is good.
This makes many parents wonder, they are born by themselves, why is the difference in personality and IQ between the two children so large? Why does the second look very clever and clever, while the eldest looks a little "silly"?
Why do you say that the second boss is "smart" and the boss is "stupid"? Mostly for these 4 reasons
First, the first pregnancy is inexperienced, and the second time is more natural
Because it is the first time pregnant as a mother, so at the beginning it was particularly nervous, did not understand anything, looked up a lot of things about pregnancy on the Internet, was scared and scared, did not dare to eat things, many taboo problems did not dare to touch.
Worrying too much, thinking too much, the burden in the heart will be very large, and the psychological emotions of pregnant mothers will also have an impact on the fetus to a certain extent. When it comes to the second child, the pregnant mother has a very rich experience, and there is no need to worry about being afraid during pregnancy.
The pregnant mother's own mood is better, the whole person pressure is no longer so great, and this good emotion will also be fed back to the fetus, so the second child is more lively and grows better.
Second, "the eldest takes care of the book, and the second takes care of the pig"
Parents for the first time do not understand anything, after the birth of a child, parents also have to start from scratch. At the beginning of facing the little guy, I always felt tied up, afraid that I would hurt the child if I was wrong.
Then there is the problem of education, no experience and do not know how to teach? Then read more books, see more what parenting experts say, it can be said that the boss is raising books.
One will feel that this expert is right, the other will feel that the expert is right, teaching himself that he does not know whether it is right or wrong, and the boss will grow up so confused.
When the second child is born, the experience is already very rich, from the birth care of the child, to the care of food, clothing, housing, and transportation, and then to the child's education problems, it has been practiced on the boss, so it is more comfortable when it comes to the second child.
Third, living conditions are getting better every day
Many families want to have a second child, the time interval will be a little longer, at least there is a four or five years, six or seven years, although it is said that these years, but the times change rapidly, our life is getting better day by day.
Take my mother and my sister, when I was born to my sister, the conditions in the house were poor, there were very few nutritional products, and I ate some dates, eggs and the like; but when I was born, the conditions in the house were much better, fish and chicken.
Pregnant mothers eat two people with one mouth, and the nutrition supplement is in place, and the fetal baby will develop and grow better. Although this gap is not so big now, it still exists to some extent.
Basically plan to have a second child, that is to say, the conditions in the family are quite OK, the boss is slightly older, otherwise the pressure of life is so great now, there is no certain economic strength and dare not casually want a second child.
Fourth, the boss gave the second eldest a good head
In the eyes of parents, the boss is a role model, that is, to do well in many aspects and give a good head to younger brothers and sisters. In addition, children like to imitate, and when they were young, they worshiped their brothers and sisters, and many good habits were willing to learn.
Therefore, on the road to growth, the second brother takes fewer detours than the eldest, because the parents have experience, and there are brothers and sisters in front of them, which is naturally more "popular" in the eyes of parents and mothers!
Of course, not all families are like this, to a certain extent, parents prefer the second child, but also because of the psychological effect, because the boss has grown up, no longer sticks to you like the small, everything listens to you, so the parents are more distressed about the second child.
However, in the child's growth education, parents try to still have a bowl of water to be flat, do not have obvious eccentricity, otherwise it is a kind of harm to the growth of two children, and it will also destroy the feelings between children.
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