The elderly spend the first half of their lives mastering when to speak, but they need to learn when not to speak in the second half of their lives, which proves to be difficult for the former.
First, do not casually talk to outsiders about your past, your past is only you care, outsiders will not care and will not be interested.
Whether your past is glorious or lonely, since it has become the past tense, it must be dusted back to dust, the soil is returned to the soil, and the past things are useless to say. If you say how brilliant you were in the past, not only did you commit the taboo of not mentioning the courage of a good man, but also caused the jealousy of outsiders, and others would think that you had been brilliant in the past, and now you must have strength, and it is very likely that you will beg to do things, and the ultimate consequence of swaggering is to trigger a burden of human feelings. If you say how lonely you were in the past, it is bound to trigger the plot of others who want to see hilarity or look at jokes, and at the same time will look down on you, often take your past loneliness as a joke, the future is bound to wear colored glasses to look at you, even if you are low-key, you will take your low-key as inferiority.
Second, don't casually talk to outsiders about your economic situation, whether you have money or not, or how much money you have, has nothing to do with outsiders. You have a lot of money, you don't separate the money from outsiders; you don't have money, outsiders can't give you money for no reason, so to say that it is not more harmful than good, but harmful.
One's own economic situation can neither make a big fuss nor cry poor. If you disobey the wealth and do not reveal it, you will not only be remembered by outsiders, but also calculated by outsiders, if you do not let outsiders share the blessings, outsiders will develop from superficial envy to inner jealousy or hatred. If you cry to others, others will build a sense of happiness through your pain at the beginning, and finally they will mock you while staying away from you, most relatives and friends will not be willing to associate with you, and there will even be the fact that they are unwilling to admit that they are friends and relatives with you.
Third, do not casually talk about your children, daughters-in-law or son-in-law in front of outsiders, and do not go to the extreme of saying that your children are good and do not go to the extreme of saying that your daughter-in-law or son-in-law is bad.
No matter how good your children are, you can count them in your own heart, don't go out and show off, even if you think your children are strong, others will think that their children are good. After all, there are no perfect children, others will still look at their children's strengths, you show off how good your children are, purely provocative, even if the surface is good to gather and disperse, the heart is also unhappy and scattered. In addition, the bad words about the daughter-in-law or son-in-law can not be mentioned, just so-called: gossip is not right, in addition to letting outsiders watch the fire from the other side, that is, through false rumors, until it reaches the ears of the daughter-in-law or son-in-law, it will cause fire.
Conclusion: Some words are not said as well, and if they are said, sooner or later they will lift the stone and drop it on their feet.
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