When people are powerless to change, they always blame everything on fate, thinking that everything has long been doomed, and no matter how hard they try, they can't change anything.
In fact, what day is predestined, the fate of many people is only their own subconscious, personality determines fate, many people are unaware of the influence of the subconscious on themselves.
Happiness does not come with the arrival of marriage, happiness needs to be created by yourself, do not believe that everything is predestined, happiness needs to be fought for by yourself.
But things are uncertain, there are many things in this world that we can't change, to adapt to those we can't change, to change those we can change.
A "bitter life" woman, most of them have these characteristics, I hope you do not, in fact, the fate has always been in their own hands, the subsequent plot must be composed by themselves.
Withdraw from things and complain passively
There are nine times out of ten things that are not satisfactory in life, and most things cannot follow their own wishes, since unsatisfactory is the norm, why should we be bitter and persistent.
And people in this life, will definitely encounter a lot of unpleasant things, if everything we have to be angry, and always in the heart, where is the space to store the good.
When they encounter something, they panic, complain to people everywhere, vent the negative energy in their hearts, and constantly affect the emotions of the people around them.
Many people are not bitter, but their own mentality is not good, all day long to drill their own horns, the more complaining about life, the more bitter life, because complaining can not solve the problem at all, action is the right way.
Who has no ash at the bottom of the pot, do not always see the beauty of others, always feel that their life is not satisfactory, there is no good mentality, even if the day is good at the beginning, it will get worse and worse later.
If you give up on yourself, how can others help you, believe in yourself, and keep fighting.
Over-worrying, over-the-top package
Some people can't be too soft-hearted, especially when it conflicts with the bottom-line principle, many women of the older generation are too soft-hearted, always thinking only about others, and rarely thinking about themselves.
Doing a lot of work at home, silently bowing their heads, and indeed, doing so does reduce the burden on their families and make their lives easier.
But participating in court labor is actually what every family member should do, if everything is taken to yourself in every detail, everyone will do this after a long time.
In the end, you become a miscellaneous person in the family, as if there is no end to the work every day, these things trap you in it and can't break free, worry about this and worry about that, just don't have time to worry about yourself.
In the end, it is that I am too busy to do anything else, and I don't have time, but the rest of the family is relaxed and comfortable, living like a top, and the person who smokes the top is actually himself.
Every day I feel that I am busy and crazy, and I want to find a time to rest, but I always feel that there is nowhere to break free, no place to release the pressure in my heart.
The six gods are masterless and not independent enough
There is a kind of woman who panics when a small accident occurs, not only completely loses any idea, but also makes it seem as if the sky has fallen, but also affects the people around her.
And some women, even if their husbands are not around, she can calmly face many problems, and handle them very appropriately, making people can't help but clap their hands.
The popular writer Su Hand Qianyun has a book called "Your Independence, Is the Bottom", which has a sentence "Independence is your best armor, and what you can rely on in the end must be yourself." ”
For every woman, maintaining independence is a guarantee of happiness for a lifetime, and when you are no longer dependent on others from the inside out, you will have a new understanding of life.
Just like the word "security" that many women often talk about now, why should the sense of security rely on others to give, can't you give yourself a sense of security?
Instead of carefully guarding love every day, afraid that the other party will leave themselves, it is better to work hard to improve yourself, when you are strong enough inside, a sense of security will naturally fill your heart.
People always like to complain about the past, "If it was then, is it now", ask yourself, if you really did that, would it really be different now?
Is the current situation really caused by that one thing? Do you really have no problems at all?
Many people are living in resentment and regret, thinking that it is too late, but if you really want to change, it is not too late.
The more you feel that it is too late, the more you struggle, the less courage you have to change, happiness always needs to be created by yourself, and the pie will never fall from the sky.
As Teacher Chen Guo said: "I have a variety of styles, and there is no dispute with the world", we must really work hard, don't just shout slogans, and don't be moved by my illusory efforts.
Don't listen to those poisonous chicken soup on the Internet, saying that hard work is very tired, and then I learned to give up, people are like this in this life, no matter how hard they try, it is useless and so on.
Learn to calm down, walk every step of your feet steadily, and strive to let your dreams shine into reality and make the future look forward to.