The old ancestor admonished: A family does not allow people with three surnames! Do you know which three surnames it is?

Five thousand years of chinese culture, the essence of life is actually the same, the ancestors left us a lot of wisdom of life, are hidden in some sayings or proverbs.

Regarding family life, there is a saying: "There is no room for three surnames in a family." This is an admonition from the old ancestors, and it is also very reasonable.

The old ancestor's admonition: "A family does not tolerate three surnames" refers to which three surnames, what is the reason?

In a family, there are generally two surnames, one surname for husband and child, and one surname for wife. There are two types of situations in which the three surnames are as follows:

One: Reorganize the family, the husband, wife, and children are all different surnames.

Two: The family where the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together.

The first case is the reorganization of the family after divorce.

The meaning of the ancients is very clear, the family is best not to divorce and reorganize, with children and then marry may have a lot of contradictions. From the ancient books, it can be seen that the stepmother and stepmother are not good.

A hundred years of cultivation to cross the same boat, a thousand years to cultivate a sleep together, once the husband and wife are married, they must want to support each other until the older life, do not go to three or four, do not destroy other people's families, and do not give up their marriage.

The ancients said, "It is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage", that is, the ancient people attached great importance to marriage, and it was very important in people's eyes from beginning to end. In the eyes of some people, there is no concept of divorce, only widows will be single.

The reorganized family is not necessarily unhappy, but it requires both husband and wife to have a higher cultivation, tolerate each other, and regard each other's children as their own.

The second situation is a family where the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together, and there are three surnames in the family.

If you are a married person, I believe you know why the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot live together, the family does not allow three surnames, and it is most appropriate to use it on the mother-in-law and men.

80% of the poor relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is caused by living together, and when people arrive, they will separate their families and set up another portal, which is a reason since ancient times. Human civilization has developed for so many years, but it is still inseparable from blood relations.

The mother-child relationship is a blood relationship, so even if there is a contradiction, it will soon be reconciled; the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is completely different, and once the contradiction and quarrel occur, it takes a long time to get better.

Some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law make a contradiction, a trouble is a lifetime, old and dead do not interact with each other, so that men become sandwich biscuits, both sides are angry.

epilogue:

The old ancestors left such useful words for us to run the family, "a family does not allow people with three surnames" We should keep in mind.

Two aspects, on the one hand, is to cherish their marriage, the reorganized family life is not so good; on the other hand, the way the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, want the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is good, try to live separately.