Although china has always emphasized "equality between men and women", in some relatively backward and poor areas, the concept of son preference is still very serious. No matter how badly the son behaves, or how intimate the daughter behaves, the elderly will still be very eccentric to the son and ignore the feelings of the daughter.
The old man gave the house to his son, but let his daughter retire
Uncle Zhao has been having a very bad time recently, not only physically suffering from a crisis, but also suffering a very big psychological blow. The thing is, Uncle Zhao lives in the countryside and is very seriously affected by the idea of "son preference". Uncle Zhao has a son and a daughter, since the two children were young, Uncle Zhao has always been very eccentric to his son, and what he eats is given to his son first, and he cares very little about his daughter. Some time ago, Uncle Zhao felt that his physical condition had suddenly taken a sharp turn, and Uncle Zhao quickly drafted a will and gave several houses to his son who was working in the field.
Who knew that the son never came back after completing the formalities of the house, and when Uncle Zhao was uncomfortable, he had to ask his daughter for help, and the daughter resolutely said: "It is impossible, from childhood to adulthood, you only loved your brother, and now you think of me?" It's late. Uncle Zhao did not expect that in his old age, he would end up like this.
The slogan of having children and daughters has been shouted for decades, but some old people with backward and decadent thinking will still treat their sons and daughters obviously differently, and in their old age, they will regret it. In fact, the practice of son preference will not only cause great harm to the child's psychology, but also affect the quality of life of the elderly in their own later years, which is really undesirable. If sons are preferred to daughters, treating sons and daughters differently will cause some adverse effects.
First, it is not good for the child's personality
Children must grow up in a loving and warm family atmosphere to form a positive and optimistic good personality. If the child obviously feels that the parents have little love for themselves at a young age, and are often ignored by the parents, then the child's personality will become more and more sensitive, even to the point of inferiority. Once the personality is fixed, it is difficult to change. Parents should think more about the child's future personality, if the child's personality is not good, it will affect the child's life, more serious, and even let the child embark on the road of crime.
Second, it affects the feelings of parents and children
Children are far smarter than parents imagine, when children feel their parents' disregard for them, children will have a hatred for their parents, this psychology is difficult to correct, if not good, it will accompany the child's life, not to mention the parents in their later years, the child will be willing to support the parents. This is also a situation that parents do not want to see.
Third, it affects children's friendship
No matter who it is, the word "home" should be the warmest and most trustworthy existence, but if even your own family is very indifferent to yourself, then it is difficult for the child to trust others, and it is difficult for others to enter the depths of the child's heart. This strong sense of distrust and lack of security will make it difficult for children to make friends again, and will also cause others to resent that the child is an unsociable freak.
If a family has both sons and daughters, the best thing for parents to do is to try to be as flat as possible, teach their sons responsibility and strength, and teach their daughters gentleness and bravery.