In this society, there is a lot of social pressure. Many families will give birth to children and leave them to the elderly to take care of, or like many places where thinking is relatively backward, the idea of son preference is serious, and it is easy to over-spoil children.
In news reports, articles about teenage children who do not tie their own shoelaces are not uncommon.
So what are the effects of excessive coddling on the child's future?
The elderly in the family with children, or the parents who are more doting on their children, must continue to watch.
1. Selfishness
Children who are overly spoiled are often very selfish, thinking only of themselves and not of others.
In the simplest example, in many multi-child families, especially patriarchal families, male members are more popular with their elders than most female members.
In the family, there can be a family to protect him and protect him, but in school, in society, it will be very different.
In school, children are too selfish, which can lead to increasingly distant friendships between classmates.
In friendship, we pay attention to the fact that there are exchanges of etiquette and exchanges, and children who are too selfish are difficult to meet friends with good relations in the school, and even receive snubs from classmates.
In the long run, it will affect the child's mood in school, and even affect the teacher-student relationship, which in turn will seriously affect academic performance. Parents still can't find the reason.
In society, selfish people are the least popular with their colleagues.
Everything only considers their own interests, will be ostracized by colleagues, and even wear small shoes, and the promotion is difficult.
It will also be not trusted by others. There will be disagreements with partners. Between colleagues, good opportunities are missed.
2, can not suffer
Children who are spoiled from childhood to adulthood cannot bear hardships.
Because, all along, in his growing environment, the dirty work at home is done by the family, and many even peel the fruit and feed it to the mouth.
I saw a very peculiar case:
There are two children in the family, the eldest is more than 10 years older than the second eldest, the elder in the eldest family is brought up, and the second parent is brought up.
Because his parents were very spoiled since childhood, his mother would help him with whatever he did.
To give you a strange thing: the second brother washed his hands in the bathroom, washed for a long time, and did not come out. The eldest went in to see what was wrong with the second eldest. As a result, I saw that the second man did not want to get his hands dirty because the soap fell on the ground. Helpless, I had to continue to rub my hands with water.
Even when the soap fell to the ground, I didn't want to pick it up. Over-spoiling children has already had a big impact on their future.
3, no courtesy
Children who are overly spoiled by the family will become rude.
When you meet relatives and elders, you will not say hello. In the past, it was always his family who was guarding him, and the child was no longer polite, and the elders would also be patient when they looked at the face of the child's family.
But children always have to grow up, always have to face the outside world alone. Sometimes, pay more attention to the problem of politeness. The impolite juniors, in the hearts of the elders, are not accepted.
When the child grows older, this problem will become more obvious. Moreover, the older the child, the harder it is to change.
4, easy to rebel
After entering puberty, children will become more rebellious than other children.
Children who grow up in the greenhouse will have more difficulty understanding the suffering of their families and will be more selfish.
Pure selfishness, the problem is fine, but selfishness meets adolescent rebellion, which is the abyss of sin.
When the child thinks that no matter what mistake he makes, his family will coax him, take him as the center, will not punish and blame him, and he will become more unscrupulous.
Parents will be shrouded in this haze for a long time, and there will often be things that make you angry, but you can't do anything.
Seriously affect the parent-child relationship of the family.
5. Inability to stand on their own feet
Born with a golden spoon from childhood, clothes to reach out, rice to open the mouth.
Waiting for the child to really grow up is to lose the ability to take care of himself. Some really are not children will not do, you say a teenage boy, can you not tie your shoes? It's just a child, don't want to do it, don't bother to do it, anyway, there is a mother to do it!
In the long run, rice will not be done, eat takeaway; housework will not be done, sloppy.
Presumably, no one wants their children to become annoying in the future!
Children need more care from their parents and families before they turn twelve, and problems such as the above will not be apparent quickly, and even if they are, it is harmless.
However, after the child is twelve years old, after all the problems have been revealed, it will be too late to change all this.
Don't think it's too late to make amends.
What if your child is the sheep that was eaten???
Have you thought about it?
[Author of this article]: Secretary Zhang of Orangutan Village
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