EDIT: Flower blossom tide
Text: Flower blossom tide
Perhaps in the cognition of many people, marriage should be the right thing, if the gap between the conditions between husband and wife is too large, it indicates that this marriage is difficult to last.
In today's life, this seems to be a true portrayal of the vast majority of marriages, but there are exceptions to everything, and "old husband and young wife" marriages are not in the minority.
And girlfriend Xiao Wu is one of them.
On the weekend, Xiao Wu asked me to visit her house, I looked at the schedule, so I called Xiao Wu and said: I may have something to do today, and I will go to your house in the evening.
Xiao Wu also readily agreed: Okay, you are busy with yours, and I have nothing to do.
But with years of girlfriend friendship and experience, I can clearly perceive from Xiao Wu's tone that she must have something to say to herself.
Sure enough, when I arrived at Xiao Wu's house, she warmly welcomed me to sit down, then poured me a cup of hot water, and finally sat on the sofa by herself, silent.
I waited slowly, I understood that the girlfriend must have something to say to herself, and sure enough, after a while, the first sentence of the girlfriend's mouth was: You say, is it right for me to marry my husband?
Xiao Wu's personality is more gentle, in line with the feeling of many men in the mind of the bird, so in her side, there is no shortage of suitors, but in the end the choice of girlfriends has surprised all of us, she did not choose the most handsome of her suitors, nor did she choose the one with the best family conditions among the suitors, but chose a man who was 10 years older than her, and said in a sentence from her girlfriend: I have feelings for him, under my deep consideration, I feel that this is the love I want.
Yes, in order to pursue love, girlfriends are no longer so concerned about men's external conditions.
In fact, if you think about it, the girlfriend's approach also has a certain reason, after all, the girlfriend's family itself is very good, and she does not have to find a so-called "successful" man.
Because the girlfriend likes it herself, many of us, including the girlfriend's parents, did not say anything.
After marriage, every time I see my girlfriend, she is a radiant look, she happily confides in us, life after marriage is so happy, and her husband is so spoiled her, of course, as a good friend, we are also sincerely happy for her.
However, after a long time, the girlfriend no longer talks to us about her married life, and there is a lot less contact with a group of us, and we still think that the girlfriend's attention has been fully focused on the family and has begun to return to the family.
But unexpectedly, my girlfriend asked me out this time, breaking our original fantasy about her.
Back to reality, my girlfriend said to me: I was very happy with him at the beginning of my married life, because he was older, so he also took more care of me, and he took the initiative to make concessions in everything, but as time passed, I slowly found that he seemed to be a little more impatient with me, and his temper began to be a little stubborn, and sometimes, we would have a fierce quarrel because of a small matter, and after the quarrel, he would not take the initiative to coax me, but a continuous cold war.
Now, he has reached middle age, and he has also encountered the crisis of middle age, and I am only 30 years old now, and I gradually have some regrets about my original choice, and regret that I did not listen to your persuasion.
After listening to these words, I didn't know how to comfort my girlfriend for a while, so I could only go forward and hug her into my arms and say: Don't be sad, don't be sad.
Perhaps this encounter for girlfriends is a true portrayal of many "old husbands and young wives" marriages, at the beginning, due to the husband's old age, that mature and stable personality will attract the attention of many girls, but with the passage of time, the shortcomings in marriage are slowly revealed, he begins to become impatient, and all the tolerance for his wife gradually disappears with time.
As a wife, it is obviously impossible to accept this change from the husband, coupled with the obstacles to communication between husband and wife and the age gap between the two, the discord between husband and wife and the difference in concepts, gradually affecting the feelings between the two, until the wife has a deep reflection, the original self, the choice is wrong?
Conclusion: The married life of "old husband and young wife" is not happy, according to the experience of the girlfriend of the person who has come over, we can see that the "old man and young wife" still have to think twice, and must not ignore the difference between the ages of the two because of a momentary pleasure.