Some people say: Those who are horizontal in the nest are instigated by the outside world; those who are instigated in the nest are all horizontal in the outside world.
That's true!
Being able to be stable in the face of things is a person's most remarkable ability. Emotions come, not swayed by emotions, because when people have emotions, there is no way to be reasonable. You have to deal with emotions first, then you have to deal with problems.
Chatting with my cousin, she said one of the things that made me see the humanity behind my cousin's gentleman and gentleman, and I was afraid to think about it.
In my impression, the cousin is always smiling, gentle and elegant, going to the cousin's house as a guest, the cousin is warm and thoughtful, all-round, let you eat well, drink well, have fun, many people envy the cousin, have a tall and handsome and love her lover, which life to cultivate the blessing
My cousin often chatted with me, inadvertently revealing a lot of her daily life with her cousin-in-law, such as my cousin said:
1. Buy something.
The things needed at home, from the house and the car to the small ones, had to listen to him, and if he could do a good job of listening to him, then the cousin really did not worry.
The point is that he can't make up his mind, and he has to ask his cousin what to do with everything? If the cousin let him decide, he can't be the master, if the cousin is the master, he is not happy, he feels that it hurts the face of the head of his family, if the cousin consults with him, he messes around, and finally whether he is right or wrong, he has to listen to him.
As a result, the house bought by the cousin's family is poor and expensive, especially in front of the sales, he is yelling at the cousin, helping the sales, so angry that the cousin has no way.
2. Find the back account.
His biggest feature is that he turns over old accounts in a lifetime, and he can remember that his cousin did not look right at his original family members 800 years ago, and which words he said hurt his family... Anything in the family, doing it right is his credit, doing it wrong is the responsibility of his cousin, there is no responsibility at all.
3. Too glass heart.
Every day, from the moment he opened his eyes, he called out to his cousin, commanded, everything had to prevail, everything had to be done by his cousin according to his requirements, the cousin was slightly dissatisfied, or spoke louder, he thought that the cousin did not respect him, and did not hesitate to entangle with the cousin.
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Sentiment Analysis:
People have two sides, this is the norm, but some people have both sides are extreme, the advantages and disadvantages are as many, exposing the nature of people, cousin brother-in-law is such a person, in front of outsiders to do their best to be rude and gentlemanly, but the queen of the people is disrespectful to their wives and very contemptuous.
Such a person, hypocritical, selfish, negative energy, strong desire to control, like to entangle trivial things, basically can not become a big deal.
As long as he is not happy, the relatives around him do not want to live well, a sentence that does not meet his wishes may make his temper explode, and he is very tired and unhappy with this kind of person.
So, how do you get along with this kind of person? The following 2 methods can be used as a reference.
First, change yourself.
We often say: if you can't change others, you can change yourself. If your husband is also someone like the cousin-in-law mentioned above, it is difficult for him to change, but you want to continue to live, which can only start with your own change.
First of all, amplify his advantages, don't worry about small things with him, let him decide, talk about principles in big things, if he doesn't cooperate, you will scare him with divorce, generally such people are afraid of divorce.
Second, improve yourself.
Some people say that when you become strong in yourself, you will find that you are surrounded by good people, and they will spoil you and listen to you.
Therefore, constantly learning, practicing, exploring, improving your knowledge, ability, character, insight, resilience, and being a better self is the whole meaning of life.
When you become stronger yourself, he will obey you, worship you, and treat you as a baby, then your life will naturally get better and better.
Marriage is managed, the biggest enemy of your life, in fact, is yourself, do yourself, do not blame others, everything will get better and better!
Whether a person's mood is good or bad, it is impossible to change what has already happened. Sadness is a day, happiness is also a day, do not embarrass yourself, the mood is not good to temporarily adjust the mentality, people who understand thoroughly, will have a smooth life.
What do you think?