The data of the seventh national census show that as of 2020, the population living in rural areas in China is 509.79 million, accounting for 36.11% of the total population.
There are many elderly people here, because many elderly people are difficult to give up their hometown, do not want to leave their ancestral homes, and it is not easy to find a job when they enter the city, so they become left-behind elderly people and take care of left-behind children by the way. In addition, there are many young people, because not all rural young people will leave the village and go to the city, these young people choose to stay in rural areas, although they can not be rich, but they can also earn a good money, and by the way, they will stay at home to take care of their parents.
However, in comparison, the proportion of young rural women leaving the village and going to the city is greater, because women in rural areas do not have much money to make a living except for farming. And farming is hard, and can not make much money, into the city casually can find a job of three or four thousand yuan a month, in the countryside may also earn three or four thousand yuan a year, therefore, there are a large number of young women in the countryside to go to the city.
Although these women who have entered the city may not be able to buy houses and settle down in the city, they no longer want to marry back to the countryside and do not want to return to the countryside to settle down. This has led to the emergence of a phenomenon, that is, the problem of wife shortage in rural areas is very serious, and the proportion of men playing single sticks is very large, and it is difficult to find a wife to marry.
For example, in the rural areas of Qingdao City, according to the official survey report of Qingdao City, the proportion of elderly young men in rural areas of Qingdao City, unmarried and without love objects is 32.40%, which is 6.71 percentage points higher than that of women (accounting for 25.69%). The proportion of men aged 31-35 who are unmarried and have no relationship partner is 9.46%, which is 7.57 percentage points higher than that of women (1.89%).
This is also one of the reasons why the dowry in rural areas is getting higher and higher, because the rarity is expensive, and the dowry does not show a sky-high price, then his son can only play a single stick all the time, and even many parents do not even care that the woman is married for the second time, and it is not impossible to take the child, as long as it can be married.
However, in addition to the serious phenomenon of wife shortage, a new strange phenomenon has emerged in rural areas, that is, young people are no longer so concerned about marriage, and it is not impossible not to marry. Many young men left behind in rural areas have ignored the urging for marriage at home, and even bothered to go on blind dates.
First, because I feel that the pressure of life will become greater, I am afraid of marriage
When you are single, you can also eat enough for the whole family without being hungry, that day is very dashing and free, how much money you make will cost, anyway, your parents do not need to rely on their own pension.
And once you get married, life is completely different. According to the "2021 China Women's Workplace Status Survey Report" released by Zhaopin, 43.5% of female respondents are worried about reducing their quality of life due to marriage, so they choose not to marry. In fact, men also have this kind of psychology, because after marriage, the heavy responsibility of supporting the family mainly depends on men, especially some men's salary cards must be handed in, and they only have a few hundred yuan to buy cigarettes.
Such a day, naturally, also makes some rural men feel very difficult to accept, afraid that if they get married, the days will no longer be at ease, the pressure of life will become greater, and then there will be some fear of marriage.
Second, the bride price is too high, and men are not willing to get married
Although it is said that in rural areas, you do not need to buy a house when you get married, because the family has a homestead and a self-built house, but the bride price still has to be paid. Moreover, the less developed the economy, the higher the dowry, such as the countryside in Jiangxi, the dowry starts at more than 100,000 yuan, and the high will even reach hundreds of thousands of yuan.
For rural families with daughters at home, the daughter's marriage is a good time to make a lot of money for the family and get rid of poverty and get rich by means of the bride price, so the dowry in the countryside can only be high, not low. As for the economy in rural areas, as we all know, it is very difficult to become rich people by farming. According to the National Bureau of Statistics, the per capita disposable income of rural residents in the first three quarters of 2021 was only 13726 yuan, although it increased by 11.2%, which was larger than the 8.7% increase of urban residents, but it was evenly distributed to each month, which was equivalent to an income of 1525 yuan a month.
The consumption expenditure in rural areas is not small, the per capita consumption expenditure of rural residents in the first three quarters is 11179 yuan, which is equivalent to 1242 yuan a month, so there is little left every month, and it is very difficult to save hundreds of thousands of dowries. Therefore, many young men in rural areas feel that their pockets are not drummed, and they do not have the heart to fall in love and get married, even if they empty their families to get married, their future life will be very difficult.
Third, the cost of childcare is too high, and young men in rural areas also feel pressured
Now the times have changed, raising children can no longer be like before, give birth to a few children to add a few pairs of dishes and chopsticks, and then in the village free range, there is no need to worry about no one to take care of children, even school, compulsory education do not need money, the results are not good after junior high school directly to work, it can be said that the cost of childcare is very low.
But now it is different, and the young people in the countryside who have grown up through that era also feel that if they raise children like before, most of them will grow up like themselves and have no ability to make a lot of money. Therefore, young people in rural areas now also feel that they need to invest more in education, and only with culture and diplomas can they mix better.
Therefore, all kinds of cram schools in township areas abound, the fees are not low, and even some people spend huge sums of money to go to some private aristocratic schools for better educational resources. Therefore, now the cost of childcare in rural areas is also rising, seeing this situation, rural young men who do not have much money in their pockets feel that they cannot give their children a better growth environment, so they should not get married first.
I have to say that it is really not easy to get married now, the cost of raising children is even higher than the pressure, even the young men in the city are already afraid of marriage and childbearing, so rural young people do not care about marriage, that is very normal.