Affection makes people become gentle, love makes people remain generous, let go of selfish desires, take the initiative to send care and warmth, is a sign of a person's maturity.
We never lack the awareness of active giving, because the most precious thing in the world is truth. In the presence of lovers and loved ones, material things do not matter.
I don't know when it began, and the encouragement of lovers became the main source of motivation. As long as we are nourished by love, we will move forward fearlessly and with a heavy burden.
But in life, some good people are not treated well. Their enthusiasm and generosity have instead attracted the intensification of the demand from their lovers.
Sincerity in exchange for respect, efforts to gain recognition, this is the minimum respect for the giver. If even this consolation becomes a luxury, it must be chilling.
Reader Zhou He (pseudonym) left a message that he earned 20,000 yuan a month and could have lived without worry, but in addition to the 10,000 mortgage, he also had to give his wife 5,000 a month and his mother-in-law 5,000, which made him tired.
01. Less than one meter and seven tall, dark skin, fat figure, this is the most intuitive impression given by Zhou He, because his own conditions are not good, he has not found an object.
With his persistence, he quickly got a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan and bought a small apartment under the sponsorship of his parents.
Finally, through a blind date, he met Xiao Su (pseudonym). This girl is playful and cute and looks good. At first, Zhou He did not hold out hope, but the other parents felt that he was honest and trustworthy.
Under the mediation of the elders of both sides, the two actually fell in love. He suddenly felt that he had a lot of face, and he was also obedient and intimate to Xiao Su.
02. Because he felt that he was not worthy of the other party, Zhou He repeatedly gave promises, and after the salary increase, he gave all the income from the mortgage to Xiao Su.
Sometimes in order to buy a bag for the other party, he can save money for two months; sometimes in order to buy cosmetics for the other party, he can eat instant noodles for several days.
But even so, Xiao Su was still not satisfied. She confessed that her friends were all married well, so she proposed a dowry of 200,000 yuan and a new request for a large house.
In order to seize this love, Zhou He promised to inherit, he borrowed money to make up the bride price, and sold the apartment to buy a house again. Although he had a monthly mortgage of ten thousand, he was willing.
Fortunately, he was promoted again, and his monthly income reached 20,000 yuan. In this way, he also has more capital and confidence in his feelings.
03. After getting married, the most asked sentence of Xiao Su was: "Will you always be good to me?" Zhou He also always responded warmly: "Mine is all yours!" ”
Since then, Xiao Su has offered to give her parents a monthly alimony, and Zhou He naturally did not refuse, but every few months, she raised the amount.
From the initial two thousand a month to five thousand a month thereafter, Zhou He did not expect that he would treat his father-in-law and mother-in-law much better than his biological parents.
What surprised him even more was that Xiao Su became vain, she always bragged in front of her friends about how well she married, and began to pursue high consumption.
Zhou He had an opinion, although he had a monthly salary of more than 20,000 yuan, but after paying the mortgage every month, he also had to give his mother-in-law five thousand and Xiao Su five thousand living expenses. But even so, he did not dare to complain.
04. After two years of marriage, her mother celebrated her 60th birthday, and Zhou He used the pocket money he had accumulated to buy her a high-end scarf, claiming that it was only 100 yuan.
Xiao Su didn't care at first, but she always felt that something was wrong. After secretly looking through Zhou He's clothes and consumption records, she was furious: "Obviously it will cost more than a thousand, why are you deceiving people?" ”
"I rarely give my mother money, and it's not too much to give me more than a thousand scarves, right?" "After being married for so long, why haven't I seen you give my mother such a valuable gift?"
For a while, Zhou He felt angry and funny, what did marriage bring? He was suddenly confused. Today, he is very tired, very depressed, and does not know how to be good.
Emotional analysis:
A love that brought praise and superficial brilliance greatly satisfied Zhou He's self-esteem and vanity, but it also completely consumed his enthusiasm and generosity.
Marriage requires communication and negotiation, and he has the strength to make a contract with his wife. If you are completely powerless to change, it is not too late to choose to quit.
Xiao Su's appearance is certainly a big capital, but the appearance can not retain people's hearts after all. Only by curbing willfulness and operating with heart can we seize the happiness around us.
In the relationship, both people must be heart-to-heart, try to consider each other, and learn to respect the parents of their lovers in order to usher in the harmony of the big family.
If you only care about your own interests and use some chips to squeeze your partner, the relationship becomes a complete and complete transaction, and most of them face a breakup in the end.
Smart people, will not blindly look for advantages, will not remain arrogant for a long time, they will find their own shortcomings, and they are grateful for the efforts of their lovers.
After all, managing feelings is a matter for two people, and the act of sitting back and enjoying it must make the other party feel cold. May everyone have a generosity and sincerity in their marriage.