In married life, if you want to be happy and happy, you must know how to manage your own life, treat yourself well, do what you should do, do a lot of things that you should do, and resolutely do not do more than one thing for things that you should not do.
For the responsibility that should be assumed by themselves, they will never shirk their responsibilities and will strive to do a good job; at the same time, if the other party makes excessive demands, does not respect themselves, and forces themselves to do something that violates the principles and the bottom line, at this time, learn to refuse, rather than seek perfection. If you can do this, you can also grasp your life very well and make yourself better and better.
On the contrary, in married life, if you are too casual, too passive, do not know how to manage your own life, when you suffer grievances, when you are "treated unfairly" by your partner, you can only swallow your anger, and finally you will only let yourself suffer greater grievances.
If you don't want to see such a result, you must understand: in marriage, please be kind to yourself, don't suffer such "grievances", do you know?
1. Forced to live in a "small world".
When two people are together, you can make each other's vision a little wider, you can make each other's life better, and you can make each other's quality of life a little higher.
In marriage, two people have a proper division of labor, each other can live in their own comfortable way, have a common life with each other, and have their own private life.
When they are together, they actively interact, when they are separated, they are busy with their own careers, reading books, playing, doing what they want to do; they will communicate feelings, and they will actively integrate into the world, and because of this, they are both moving in a positive direction, and the two people will get better and better.
On the contrary, when two people are together, the other party does not know how to respect you, asks you to accommodate him, asks you to value him in everything, and asks you to give up the wider world for him.
In marriage, in order to accommodate him, you are forced to live in the "small world", he does not allow you to go out, does not allow you to talk to strangers, does not allow you to have friends of the opposite sex, does not let you go out to work, requires you to stay at home to take care of housework, completely do not consider your feelings, the other party releases such a signal, obviously not enough to care about you.
At this time, if you choose to compromise and give in, you will only make yourself more and more depressed, no benefit to yourself, do not want to see such a result, or decisively say "no" to the other party's excessive behavior.
2. Make you put up with his bad temper.
When two people are together, if the other party really loves you, he will naturally show you the most gentle side of himself, he will take care of your life with his heart, give you warmth, give you joy, for your things, he will be extremely attentive, often give you unexpected surprises.
At the same time, he will accept your inadequacies, embrace your little nature, pay attention to your things, and often bring surprises to your life; this makes you feel loved.
On the contrary, when the other party interacts with you, he always puts a stinky face on you, loses his temper with you at will, hurts people, and even slaps you, treats you as a pump, gives you opinions, expresses dissatisfaction, he can't listen to it at all, the other party treats you like this, obviously it is not rare for you, if you blindly tolerate, it will only make you suffer all grievances.
3. Always make unreasonable demands on you.
In marriage, only when the husband and wife respect each other can the two people live in harmony.
If one party does not know how to respect the other, always make excessive demands on the other party in the name of love, and do not care about the feelings of the other party, the relationship between the two people will often become very tense.
In other words, in marriage, if your partner does not know how to respect you, always does not care about your feelings, makes unreasonable demands on you, and lets you do something that violates the principles and bottom line, at this time, you will be very sad, and he does not consider your mood and repeatedly persecutes you.
How should you? Back down and let yourself be wronged? Don't make such a choice, please be kind to yourself, in marriage, don't suffer such grievances.