True Story | on the road to divorce, I got a phone call and something more exciting came

On the day I learned that my husband split his legs, he also received a "big gift" in his life: advanced lung cancer. Is it better to live than to die on such a day? Today's heroine cheerfully tells us: Live well and don't live up to the sun every day.

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On January 31, 2022, the lunar calendar Chinese New Year's Eve.

In the cancer hospital, I, a patient with advanced lung cancer who has been diagnosed for 3 years, carried my 25th chemotherapy.

As soon as the infusion needle was removed, I packed up my things and went downstairs to the ward, where my 70-year-old mother-in-law lived.

Like me, she had lung cancer, but it was early on, and she had just had surgery and it was a success.

Through the glass on the door, the mother-in-law leaning against the hospital bed saw me, raised her arms, waved at me, and a smile appeared on her pale face.

I tried to raise the corners of my mouth, trying to give her a smile in return, but the tears fell down...

From December 3, 2021 to the present, for nearly two months, my mother-in-law and I have spent in the hospital, and today, in this Chinese New Year's Eve of the reunion of thousands of families, we are finally going home!

When I went through the discharge procedures and walked out of the hospital holding my mother-in-law's hand, it was already twilight.

The sky is slightly snowy, the street lights are bright, close your eyes, take a deep breath, the cool air is refreshing, alive, it's so good!

My name is Zou Wenjuan, 46 years old, from Changzhou, Jiangsu Province, a small owner of a clothing store with a bad fate.

My parents divorced when I was very young. My mother dragged the sick body and pulled me and my sister up alone, which was difficult and difficult to describe.

After graduating from junior high school, my sister went home to work as a farmer, and then she married into the village, and her life was tight.

I studied a little better, after junior high school and then admitted to technical school, but at that time my mother had Alzheimer's disease, life can not take care of herself, can only live with my sister.

After graduating, I stayed in the city to work, and since then I have taken on the responsibility of earning money to support my family.

My sister and I made an appointment, took care of my mother, I paid for it, she contributed.

I worked as an assembly line worker, a supermarket salesman, and later from the roadside stall to sell clothing, slowly entered the shopping mall clothing city, with their own fixed bunk, finally let the family live a worry-free life.

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In 2000, I was introduced to Zhang Peng, and the introducer told me that Zhang Peng's parents were farmers, and there was a younger brother below, and the family conditions were average, but they were practical and reliable.

I have always thought that men with too sweet mouths are unreliable, and Zhang Peng's clumsy words have become a plus for me. Especially after he took me home and met his gentle and loving mother, I fell in love with the family.

We fell in love, got married, and gave birth to a son a year later.

Before I got sick, I was content with the current state of my life.

I opened a shop, Zhang Peng worked in a private company, the money was not much, but under my careful calculation, we bought a house and a car, there was no foreign debt, my son was just admitted to college last year, or 985, everything went smoothly.

If only I could go on quietly here!

Unfortunately, on March 8, 2019, natural disasters and man-made disasters came to the door with a companion.

That day, I opened the door early and cleaned up the shop, ready to welcome the goddesses. However, the goddess did not wait, and the goblin came first.

When the blonde woman with flaming red lips twisted into the store, my first reaction was that she had crossed the wrong threshold. My shopkeeper is demure and ladylike, and she obviously doesn't match her.

After the other party confirmed my identity, he proudly declared: "Zhang Peng is already mine, you know each other a little, hurry up and make the ground!" ”

In order to prove that what she said was true, she also listed two private features on Zhang Peng's body, which would never have been known unless there was an intimate relationship.

My intuition told me that they were really in trouble. It's just that this year, are the "three children" so arrogant?

I sneered, "What are you, daring to come to the old lady's territory to spread wilderness?" Zhang Peng really has to have this thought, let him personally tell me, as long as he agrees, this husband I will send you for free, roll! ”

Saying, I picked up the mop at the door to greet the past, the woman screamed one after another, and fled into the wilderness without forgetting to throw down the next sentence: "No wonder Zhang Peng said that he married a man's wife, you kind of woman, you should have been kicked a long time ago!" ”

The little three ran away, but I didn't have the heart to do business anymore. Angrily, he locked the door and called Zhang Peng home from the unit, I want to ask him in person!

In the face of my questioning, Zhang Peng's red face and fragmentation look were self-evident.

According to his account, the woman was a divorced hair salon sister, he was just a scene, he did not really think of really with the other party, who knew that he was entangled.

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I don't want to fight, this husband with an "honest" person, usually three sticks can not beat a stuffy goods, and some people treat it as a fragrant food.

Over the years, I have been busy with this family, a mind to earn money, he, throwing his hands to the treasurer, in addition to working farts, actually washing powder sprinkled in the sea - the wave of foam came, such a man, what to use!

Nothing to say, divorce! Zhang Peng was at first grinding and whining, I couldn't manage so much, grabbed him and dragged him hard into the car.

However, just as we were driving to the Civil Affairs Bureau, I received a call from the hospital saying that the results of my medical examination had come out and that the situation was not good, and that I had better bring my family.

I "giggled" in my heart, so I had to turn the steering wheel and go to the hospital first.

The physical examination report said that there were obvious irregular nodules next to the esophagus in the lower lobe of my left lung, FDG metabolism was increased, and the mediastinal lymph nodes were enlarged and increased, and it was possible to consider lung cancer.

Sunny thunderbolts! The desire to survive instantly overshadowed the anger, and I could not care less about Pursuing Zhang Peng's broken affairs, and quickly obeyed the doctor's arrangement to be hospitalized.

This is followed by various tests, blood tests, punctures, brain magnetics, bone scans, genetic testing... After tossing and turning for more than ten days, a diagnosis is in front of you: squamous lung cancer, advanced, with multiple bone metastases!

In the face of the fact that white paper and black words and ironclad nails, I want to cry without tears, according to the doctor's words, my situation, conservative estimate is only 5-10 months of survival!

But I am only 43 years old, there is an old woman who is nearly 70 years old, there is a son who has just been admitted to college, I married a poor worker that year, these years of hard work, it is easy to earn from my in-laws' old house, and I have my own two rooms and a living room.

A few days after the good days, my husband split his legs and did not say, he was still terminally ill, I don't know what sins I made in my last life, it was really unlucky to open the door for my bad luck - unlucky to go home.

I'm not reconciled!

At present, my mother's family will definitely not be able to count on it, so I have to call my in-laws together to discuss first.

On weekdays, no matter how big or small this family is, basically I am in charge, but I want to hear their opinions on this matter at hand.

My father-in-law suffered from cerebral infarction many years ago, leaving serious sequelae, talking and walking unfavorably, and relying on me and my mother-in-law to take care of him on weekdays, he has no right to speak.

Zhang Peng and his brother are of the same caliber, conservative treatment, and eat traditional Chinese medicine to maintain.

They said, since the doctors say that it is the late stage, then the designation is not curable, let's not be hard bar, spend money and suffer, and finally return people and money, there are more such examples around! For example, who is who, and who is so-and-so...

Listening to their tone, my illness has been proved by countless precedents, and there is no other way but to wait for death.

Only the mother-in-law, slowly stood up, said: "Do not give up, at least there is a glimmer of hope, if you give up, there is really no hope at all." Juan'er is the backbone of this family, without her there would be no us today, her illness can be cured, smashing pots and selling iron is also cured! ”

In the face of so many dangerous cases, I did not cry, and after my mother-in-law said a word, my tears "brushed" down.

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In mid-April 2019, I was admitted to the Municipal Cancer Hospital and began my first round of chemotherapy.

The doctor's plan is a combination of three drugs and chemotherapy, which is expected to be carried out in five stages, one stage of chemotherapy every three weeks, and each period of examination plus infusion for about one week.

When he was hospitalized, he relied on his mother-in-law to take care of him.

Every morning when she settled her father-in-law, she took the bus to the hospital to accompany me, and then took the bus back in the afternoon, and she could only stay in the hospital for two or three hours at most, because the time spent on the road far exceeded this number.

At the end of the first stage of chemotherapy, I had serious side effects, bone marrow suppression caused the white blood cells to drop to 2.0, nausea, vomiting, constipation, and a large rash on my body.

After staying at home for less than two days, I had to live back again because of the need to get white needles to raise white blood cells.

After the first shot, the bones of the whole body are sore, like countless small needles stabbing into the bones at the same time, and it is like a swarm of ants biting and crawling in the body, that kind of indescribable pain, life is better than death!

After a week of whitening injections, my white blood cells returned to their normal values.

After being discharged from the hospital and resting at home for a week, I immediately had to prepare for the second stage of chemotherapy.

At the thought of having to repeat all kinds of torture, I felt frightened: Forget it, instead of living so painfully, it is better to get rid of it as soon as possible, so as not to affect my family.

"Stupid worm, fool!" As soon as the idea of giving up was exported, I was trained by my mother-in-law to cover my face with a split head, "If the hospital says that there is no way, we can't give up, but now there are so many medicines that can be used, why don't you try it again?" ”

"No matter how uncomfortable there is always a time to survive, after the past, we can continue to live, can live one more day, just earn one more day, you know not?"

Saying, she brought a bowl of bone soup, urged me to drink it, and then quietly added: "The best way to take revenge is to live better than the enemy, live longer, you say?" ”

I burst into tears again, and it turned out that she knew everything!

With the support of my mother-in-law, I survived the second chemotherapy, the third...

By the end of the five times, I had almost taken off my human form, had to leave the post with a long hair, had to rely on a hat to cover up, weighed less than eighty pounds, described as withered, eyes were unfocused, and the original fresh and bright me was gone.

However, the test results showed that the primary tumor lesion was significantly reduced and there was no new metastasis, which meant that the cancer cells had been suppressed, and I won the first round of confrontation with the disease!

During this period, the hardest person was the mother-in-law. In addition to accompanying me as much as possible, she also used all her free time to find ways to supplement my nutrition and find folk remedies.

In the rice cooker at home, it is either stewed with fish soup bone broth, or boiled red bean porridge, red dates, peanuts infrared clothing water.

In those days after chemotherapy, I was so sick that I couldn't eat, sometimes I could barely swallow a few bites, and soon I would spit it out again.

In order to make me eat more, my mother-in-law would hold a warm lunch box every few hours to persuade me to eat, and if I refused, her most common killer skill was: "Eat it, just take a bite, the doctor said, this small bite is worth five hundred yuan!" ”

This trick also worked quite well, the food in front of me in my mind turned into a pile of hundred-dollar bills, I was fiercely eating while counting, one bite, five hundred; two bites, one thousand...

On the shaded balcony of the house, wherever there is a gap, there are newspapers and fresh dandelions on them.

The mother-in-law said that someone told her that dandelion soaking water can fight cancer, especially when she digs out a root of yin, so she runs out to dig as soon as she has time.

Compared with his mother-in-law, Zhang Peng's attitude is much more indifferent. Except for the need for his signature before chemotherapy, the rest of the time, he was busy and disappeared.

I think he should be fighting with a third party. However, for me, his attitude is no longer insignificant, living is the last word.

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During the summer vacation, my son returned.

Learning of my illness, he shut himself in his room and was silent for a long time.

When he came out again, his eyes were red and swollen, but his face was full of smiles: "Mom, it's okay, now that medicine is so developed, there are many new drugs on the market every year, and your disease can definitely be cured..." Before he finished speaking, he choked up by himself.

I punched him in the shoulder, "Look at this little bit of breath, and comfort your mother, but I cried myself." It's a man, just give me tears back, rest assured, mom is all about the sun, can't die! ”

Zhang Peng heard that his son had returned home, and he soon followed suit, cooking and doing housework, and he was also very warm with me.

I didn't puncture him, life was already quite cruel, and I didn't want to make it more cruel in the eyes of children.

Before returning to school, my son gave me a gift, a wig cover full of small rolls, and he solemnly put it on me and repeatedly looked at it: "Mom, you look like a Buddha now!" ”

Then, he hugged me, leaned over to my ear and said, "I wanted to buy someone with long hair, but the balance was not enough, and now I think this style is better!" Bless yourself, my Mother Buddha! ”

The brief calm continued into early 2020, and during another routine, the bad news came that I had new small nodules in both of my lungs and that my neck had swollen lymph nodes and my condition had worsened.

Doctors have given a new treatment plan, called "immunotherapy", saying that this is the most advanced treatment method in the world at present, and has been proved by many people to be effective.

Of course, the cost is also quite high, all at their own expense, even if you choose domestic drugs, you have to get thirty to half a million a year.

In order to allow me to continue treatment, my mother-in-law took out private money and borrowed some from friends and relatives, but still paid a small amount.

My mother-in-law proposed to sell the commercial house we live in now, and then we moved back to her old house.

Just when I was hesitating whether to sell the house, the news came from my mother-in-law's side that the old house in the family was going to be demolished, and four sets of buildings could be replaced.

Happy to descend from heaven, the mother-in-law divided the house equally between Zhang Peng and his brother, two sets per person, and the in-laws and I lived together.

My mother-in-law also immediately made the decision, letting Zhang Peng sell a set for my treatment fees.

In this way, I had the money to buy my life.

After being hospitalized, I resolutely refused to accompany my mother-in-law, and I couldn't bear to let her run for me again.

At first, I was advised to hire a caregiver, but the cost was prohibitive.

After a person tried in the hospital for a while, I found that in the tumor ward, as long as the condition is not particularly serious, most of the patients are hospitalized for a long time, but they do not have to be accompanied by family members, and sometimes only need someone next to them to take a hand.

For example, helping with meals, changing the infusion, calling a nurse when pulling out a needle, or lifting a liquid bottle when going to the toilet...

Even some patients just come to the hospital for examination, even the hanging bottle does not have to fight, if you can organize the big guys, help each other, can not save the family to accompany the waiter, greatly reduce the burden of each family?

I used the spare time after the hanging bottle to go to each ward to find out the specific situation of each person, and then told everyone what I thought, and immediately seven or eight female patients agreed.

We set up a WeChat group called the "Anti-Cancer Comrades Group", which I called the regimental commander, responsible for overall scheduling, assigning tasks to everyone, and arranging paired mutual aid personnel.

Although this matter is trivial, it is quite effective, and in this way, many of us have achieved self-care during the hospitalization.

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Later, there were more and more comrades-in-arms, and the content of mutual assistance in the group was also more extensive:

"I'm hospitalized tomorrow, I need someone to help hang up the number first, and anyone else who needs to bring something can list it for me in advance."

"I do CT the day after tomorrow, I need to be accompanied, and the comrades who have vacancies raise their hands..."

We help each other in life, and we encourage each other spiritually.

Every day, people in the group discuss the condition, exchange experiences, and share happiness and sadness. During the epidemic period, due to strict control, relatives are inconvenient to be admitted to the hospital to accompany them, and our comrades-in-arms have played a huge role.

For a time, I became the busiest patient number in the hospital, and my mobile phone never left my body.

The patients quipped that the way I held up my mobile phone to give orders really had the style of a heroic regimental commander.

It is really tiring to complete these extra tasks every day after fighting against illness, but seeing so many people benefit, the happiness and satisfaction in my heart is incomparable.

"Those who love to go out love to return, and those who are blessed to go are blessed", I have won a bunch of friends of life and death for myself, and I have also won a good attitude.

By the end of 2020, the second round of chemotherapy has also achieved good results, and in the face of dangerous lung cancer, I still have not instigated!

Hope is fire, disappointment is smoke, and life is a fire while smoking.

In early 2021, I began to experience symptoms of hoarseness and difficulty breathing, which quickly developed to the point where I could not make a sound within a few days.

Doctors speculate that it may be caused by tumor compression of the recurrent laryngeal nerve, but to confirm this, only surgical biopsy is done.

That day, my mother-in-law led my father-in-law out to buy vegetables, and I was packing up my things in my bedroom to prepare for the next day's hospitalization, when suddenly my chest was tight and my throat was itchy and blocked.

After a violent cough, I only felt sweet in my throat, and then a mouthful of blood spurted out, and then I vomited wildly, instantly accumulating half a spittoon.

Dizzy and almost suffocating, I struggled to call someone, but my body could not listen to the command of the brain, so I could only sit against the wall, gasping weakly, and my eyes gradually blurred.

Just when I was desperately thinking I was going to die, the sound of the keyhole turning in the doorway, and I faintly heard someone walk in, and I saw only a vague figure, and then I lost consciousness.

It had been three days since I woke up again, and when I opened my eyes, the first thing I saw was my son, whose eyes were red and swollen.

He told me that before going to bed for two days, he and I had no one to answer the WeChat video, so he hurried to call my grandmother, and when he learned that I was admitted to the hospital for emergency treatment, he took leave and rushed back overnight.

"So, who sent me to the hospital?" Grandma? "When my son said it was Dad, I was momentarily silent.

I also thought that he didn't care about my life or death for a long time, and it was also my life that I should not die, and that day Zhang Peng happened to go home to get a certificate, and then saved my life by the way.

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"Mother, Grandma wants me to give you this talisman Buddha, so that you must wear it, and will bless you with auspicious murder and good fortune in your death!" My son took out a small jade Buddha and hung it around my neck.

The child told me that this was something that My grandmother had specially asked for from the Lingshan Giant Buddha in Wuxi the day before yesterday.

The Lingshan Giant Buddha in Wuxi, 88 meters high, is the tallest bronze statue of Buddha in the world, and there are 216 steps in front of the Big Buddha, representing 108 kinds of troubles and 108 kinds of wishes in people's lives.

"Grandma said that she prostrated her head as she walked up the first step, praying in her heart, 'Ask the Buddha to bless me and let my daughter-in-law Zou Wenjuan come back safely'. Mom, Grandma said you will be fine, because the troubles and disasters have passed! ”

Alas, this superstitious and stubborn old lady.

Touching the jade Buddha on her chest, I only felt that her eyes were sour, she was almost 70 years old, and she also suffered from rheumatoid arthritis, and it was so difficult for her to kneel one step at a time.

Later, I couldn't help but quietly ask my mother-in-law, why did she treat me so well?

The mother-in-law's eyes were red, and she grabbed my hand and said, "Child, because you deserve it..."

That day, my mother-in-law said a lot of things:

Once, in this family, she was the most inconspicuous being with a weak temperament. Her husband was born as a worker, grumpy, often drunk, and beat her when he was drunk, and the two sons were afraid of their father and never dared to stand up for her.

Because not only could they not be dissuaded, but they also had to be beaten if they were not careful.

When Zhang Peng was in middle school, his father-in-law even had someone outside and wanted to get a divorce. For the sake of her two sons, the mother-in-law resolutely refused to leave, and endured the anger and swallowed for several years.

Until the father-in-law got a cerebral infarction, the woman outside saw that he had become a burden, pulled out his feet and left, and disappeared from then on, and the father-in-law returned to the family.

My mother-in-law always felt that her fate was miserable, and always chose to go against the grain until I appeared in this family.

In the past, she thought that women were doing what they ate in front of people and after people, and making a good meal was always the last thing she ate, but after I entered the door, I resolutely changed this bad habit.

After the meal was served, she insisted on waiting for her to sit down before the whole family could eat. When my father-in-law rebuked her in front of everyone, I did not show any weakness in defending her.

The first time in her life she wore a set of high-end underwear, I bought her; the first time I permed her, I took her; the first trip out, I gave her a two-day tour of "Changzhou-Wuxi", and it was also that time that she knew the story of the Lingshan Giant Buddha and 216 steps.

She said that since having me, she has only stood up between relatives and neighbors, and every time I buy new clothes for her, others don't know how envious they are...

These little things, as far as I am concerned, are just the duty of the daughter-in-law, but the mother-in-law regards them as treasures in memory, carefully collects them, and gives back with double love.

"Juan'er, we must live well, the days when we are accompanied by each other are far from enough!"

I clenched my mother-in-law's rough hand, solemnly nodded my head, and tears fell.

Later, I tried radiotherapy, took targeted drugs, Chinese medicines...

On the road to anti-cancer, repeated defeats, and repeated defeats, I swear, to be the most heroic warrior, unless I die, never quit!

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After fighting with the disease for so long, I thought I was at the bottom of the valley, and I knew that fate was still pulling people down!

At the beginning of 2022, the mother-in-law also had physical problems and frequent fever.

Go to the community hospital for examination, the doctor according to the blood indicators and chest CT judgment, suspected that it is also a malignant tumor, it is recommended to transfer to the cancer hospital for further examination.

At that time, everyone thought that there was no need to go to the hospital to toss, even if it was determined that it was cancer, what could be done?

Anyway, they are so old, aside from the high cost of treatment, it is difficult to say whether the mother-in-law's body can withstand treatment.

The sister-in-law was pregnant, she said: "This disease is not an overnight thing to be cured, you have to fight a protracted war, the sister-in-law is an example, the mother-in-law went to the hospital, who will take care of her, what will the father-in-law do?" ”

The whole family advocated giving up, including my mother-in-law herself, but I wanted to save her, so I wanted to do my best to keep this person who refused to give up on me.

I made a statement to the whole family that I would take care of my mother-in-law's treatment, and they only needed to take good care of their father-in-law.

With an unbelievable expression on their faces, I braced myself and took my mother-in-law to the hospital alone.

Heaven forbid, big deal, we were both hospitalized together, besides, I am not alone, there are so many patients, and my anti-cancer comrades-in-arms!

After my mother-in-law was hospitalized, it was confirmed to be early stage of lung adenocarcinoma after examination, and under my explanation, she quickly underwent surgery.

The day of my mother-in-law's surgery also happened to be the day of my chemotherapy.

Before the operation, I asked the family to sign it, so I had to sneak over to settle my mother-in-law, watch her being pushed into the operating room, and then rush back to chemotherapy myself.

When I stepped into the ward, the doctor in charge, who had been in charge of me for three years, was furious in the ward.

This kind female doctor, because she couldn't find me, was in a hurry. She caught me and scolded me, and after learning that I was going to sign for my mother-in-law, her eyes were red and she whispered:

"Since you know that you are so important, you have to take your life seriously, and you can't play a child, understand?"

I said, "I understand, of course I do, thank you." ”

She didn't make a sound, came over and tapped me lightly on the shoulder. After staying in distress for a long time, I feel that my heart is already a monolith, and I can endure no matter how tired and tired I bite my teeth.

But at this moment, stroking the shoulder tapped by the doctor, this unexpected warmth, let me finally not hold back, once again tears collapsed.

Fortunately, the mother-in-law's lesion was completely removed after the operation, and the prognosis was good. And I, a full three years after the date of my diagnosis, I extended the survival period predicted by the doctor by more than three times, really, earned.

When I was discharged from the hospital, Zhang Peng came to pick us up with his son, and he had called me before, but I did not answer.

Listening to the mother-in-law, he and the woman had already broken up. It turned out that at the beginning, the other party saw that he was dressed brightly every day, thinking that it was a big money, and then found that he could not get much oil and water from him, so he died of heart, patted his ass and left.

Zhang Peng was originally weak in nature, so he returned home in ashes.

"He is my son, I don't have a choice, but you didn't forgive him, decide for yourself, don't wronged yourself, no matter what you do, your mother will support you!"

Seriously, this man is not very good to me, but it doesn't seem to be much worse.

If it weren't for this illness, he would have been kicked away by me, but now, although I have no love for him, I can't even talk about hatred.

In the face of life and death, it is all bruises, hate is also a draining thing, and my time is too precious.

I said to Zhang Peng, "We certainly can't go back, but you will always be my mother's son and my son's father." ”

After the baptism of fire, mud can also have a strong body.

I met my mother-in-law, and for the rest of the day, we had to do the most meaningful thing: to live together, to live well, to live up to every day...