Watching "Dear Child", as a woman, I have great sympathy for Fang Yinuo.
The two marriages are chicken flying dog jump, the daughter is suffering from leukemia, the sky-high medical expenses do not say, it is difficult to find the match, but the other party suddenly repented, wanted to have an IVF with the ex-husband to save the daughter with umbilical cord blood, and found that the endometriosis is not suitable for test tubes. Watching Fang Yinuo frown every day and wash his face with tears was indeed painful.
But as a bystander, I would like to say that she could have had another life, but she not only buried everything herself with her own hands, but also ruined the happy life of everyone around her.
First, Fang Yinuo's little cleverness
As a middle school teacher, Fang Yinuo is a very smart person.
It is precisely because she is smart and talented, so Xiao Lu loves her, and Xie Tianhua also loves her to the point of madness.
But she was clever, a little too outspoken.
Too much outward cleverness can only be said to be small wisdom, not great wisdom.
To be clever is to be exposed is to be calculated.
Unfortunately, in this regard, Fang Yinuo's mother did not give her a good guide, because Fang's mother was more picky and calculating than she was.
Usually this kind of person has a fatal flaw, that is, he only believes in himself and doubts everyone around him.
Usually this kind of person also has a fatal flaw, that is, he humbles himself in front of people who are stronger than himself, and he turns around and looks down on those who are inferior to himself.
Fang Yinuo's little cleverness makes her unwarranted suspicion of an excellent sister-in-law who is dedicated to her heart, unwarranted suspicion of loving her husband, all kinds of accusations and criticisms of the mother-in-law who comes to take care of her granddaughter, and zero tolerance for the little uncle.
It is no exaggeration to say that everything in the family is because she is "too smart"!
If she had been a little confused, her daughter's breast-milk jaundice had long been under the care of her sister-in-law, and there was no need to go to the hospital to take a blue light; if she had been a little confused and did not bother with Xiao Lu about paying and losing, Xiao Lu would always be the good man who loved her and hurt her; if she was a little more confused, she would be more picky if she did not go to The Baht, and her mother-in-law would be the best person to take care of her and Hehe.
Second, Fang Yinuo's big confusion
People with little intelligence usually lack great wisdom.
Those who lack great wisdom are bound to be confused and make mistakes in major matters.
Fang Yinuo's big confusion was far more than one.
The first big confusion was that as a prospective mother who was about to give birth, she actually broke the amniotic fluid in the classroom.
After pregnancy, each mother will calculate the child's due date under the guidance of a doctor, usually one month after the expected date of delivery, and will stop working and wait for delivery with peace of mind.
But Fang Yinuo actually splashed amniotic fluid in the classroom! As soon as the amniotic fluid is broken, it indicates that the child will be born immediately.
It can be seen from this that this mother-to-be, who has always paid attention to science, has made a big mistake in the major matter of pregnancy and childbirth! What a dangerous situation to put yourself and your child!
Fortunately, the mother and child are safe and all is well!
Otherwise, she wouldn't have a place to cry!
The second big confusion is that after Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child, all the attention was on the child.
Except for the child, that is, himself, everyone else has to revolve around the child and himself.
As long as others are a little dissatisfied with themselves, they will cry and clap the table and stare.
In order to raise their mother and son, Xiao Lu got up early every day and worked hard and desperately, she couldn't see; sister-in-law Yue was conscientious and conscientious, she drove people away; her mother-in-law came to take care of her and her granddaughter, she had all kinds of dislikes for her mother-in-law, even if her mother-in-law wanted to kiss her granddaughter's little face; let alone the little uncle's affairs.
It is true that Xiao Mu and Xiao Xu themselves do have great problems, but Fang Yinuo looks down on others from the bottom of his heart, and he simply does not hold the attitude of home and Wanshixing, giving them the opportunity to correct their mistakes.
She had been doing her best to separate Xiao Lu from his family.
But as a responsible man, Xiao Lu could not ignore Xiao's mother, nor could he ignore his brother, let alone fang Yinuo in his eyes, so he could only choose to be splinted between his mother and daughter-in-law.
But whenever a daughter-in-law is at odds with her mother-in-law, the most painful thing must be that of a man who is both a husband and a son.
The third big confusion is that he still loves Xiaolu, but out of willfulness, he divorced him.
In the matter of divorce, Fang Yinuo once again made a big mistake.
She did not ask her heart, and under the willful impulse, she divorced Xiao Lu.
After the divorce, I slowly began to regret it, and then I remembered Xiao Lu's various goodnesses.
From the perspective of a bystander, Xiao Lu can be called a wonderful man.
It can be seen from the beginning of the episode that when Fang Yinuo was pregnant, Xiao Lu could be said to have taken good care of her, not only wearing clothes to reach out and eat to open her mouth, but also responsible for kneading her legs and pinching her feet and cutting fruits, and doing her best to meet all the requirements of Fang Yinuo.
Fang Yinuo did not want to go to bed, and Xiao Lu also followed her on the sofa.
After giving birth to the child, Xiao Lu was even more obedient to her, with all kinds of understanding, support, and tolerance.
Men have reached this point, what else do you want to do?
Look at what Fang Yinuo did to the path?
Picky, accusatory, noisy, and refusing sex for a year.
Sister-in-law Quietly left, Xiao Lu boiled tomato egg noodles for Fang Yinuo, Fang Yinuo felt that there was no taste; Xiao Lu slept for a while, Fang Yinuo suspected that he did not help her take care of her daughter; Xiao Lu could not buy crucian carp to buy catfish back, and was criticized by Fang Yinuo for various kinds.
Fang Yinuo was not only picky about Xiao Lu, but also his mother, and finally he also came to live with his mother.
A small house, three women, chattering and arguing every day.
Xiao Lu took care of his wife and daughter every day in addition to work, and then he kept enduring the criticism and accusations of three women.
There is a passage in the play where Xiao Lu has an emotional breakdown during an argument between four adults and says, "Noisy! Let's make a fuss! You're all right! It's all my fault, and I shouldn't have put you all together!" Everyone is just thinking about the little thing in their hearts! Only care about their own feelings! Who has considered my feelings? Have I had a safe birthday since Ta Wo He was born? I work hard during the day, and when I go home at night, I still have to coax you one by one, coaxing the big ones, coaxing the small ones, coaxing the old ones, but who has coaxed me? I sleep on the couch every day, every day I go to work with sore back pain, I am also tired! Whoever of you is unhappy, I am going to die of fear, because you are all my family! But what about you? Who of you has ever felt sorry for me? ”
Xiao Lu had already collapsed into this, and Fang Yinuo still did not reflect on his mistakes.
The days passed day by day in this kind of bitterness and annoyance, and Xiao Lu once accidentally borrowed wine to buy drunk, and actually slept in another woman's bed.
A man like Xiao Lu, who was useless in Fang Yinuo's heart, even had other women to worry about, if he changed to another wife, he would definitely reflect on his mistakes.
But Fang Yinuo did not, she chose to quickly cut through the mess, divorce to end everything.
A moment of relief brings long and endless pain and regret.
The fourth big confusion, everything listens to the expert's words of scientific parenting, and the result is that the daughter still has leukemia.
In the play, after Fang Yinuo gave birth to his daughter, he has been strictly following the words of "experts say" for scientific parenting.
She rejects all traditional ways of raising babies, not only her mother-in-law, but also her own parents.
The three words she hangs on her lips the most are "experts say."
As for who this expert is, we don't know.
But there are always some so-called experts who lie to themselves every day by saying things that even they don't believe, and there are many foolish worms who obey and worship them like gods.
This drama probably wants to use such a story to fiercely mock those who do not believe in anyone's experience, only listen to "experts say", and the result is to pit children and make themselves smart novice mothers.
Fang Yinuo refused the diapers and small clothes brought by her mother-in-law, refused to let the smoking father hold the child, refused to let the mother-in-law kiss the child, insisted on breastfeeding, and as a result, her various insistences only hurt the child.
Later, after divorcing Xiao Lu, Fang Yinuo insisted on not letting Xiao Lu go to see the child, so that Hehe had been living a life without a father, and he was hungry for other people's fathers every day.
It can be seen from this that Fang Yinuo is really selfish and confused, only for his own happiness, and will never think about others.
The fifth big confusion is to find a father for her daughter and marry Xie Tianhua, who does not love. If she chooses to remarry Xiao Lu, life will not be so bitter.
After the divorce, the life of a person with children is simply not too hard.
Fang Yinuo finally understood that children cannot live without their fathers, and they also need to have a man to bear the pressure of life together.
It is impossible to remarry Xiao Lu, because Xiao Lu already has Dong Fan.
Fang Yinuo never knew the man he cherished, but he had always been a sweet treat in the eyes of others.
After weighing the pros and cons many times, Fang Yinuo finally married Xie Tianhua, who had always loved him.
Xie Tianhua loves her very much, and she also loves Hehe, and she also tries her best to play the role of a good wife and mother in the Xie family.
But she still didn't feel happy or happy.
After receiving the wedding invitation sent to her by Dong Fan, she was sad in an instant, divorced for several years, but her heart has not been able to let go of Xiao Lu.
In fact, she has always had many opportunities to reunite with Xiao Lu, but she refuses to bow her noble head and has been deliberately missing it.
There are so few opportunities for happiness that to miss is to miss.
Third, those things that happened later
Hehe's disease has not been able to find a suitable match, the doctor suggested that Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu have another child, with umbilical cord blood to save Hehe.
Fang Yinuo did not hesitate to go to Xiao Lu, and Xiao Lu agreed to cooperate 100% without hesitation.
Facts have once again proved that Xiao Lu has always been a responsible good man who loves his party and children.
In the final ending, Hehe will definitely get better, and Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu may remarry because of their two children.
Zhu Zhu, Dong Fan, Xie Tianhua, these men and women who once participated in their lives will eventually withdraw from their lives forever.
From the very beginning, Fang Yinuo single-handedly made the whole family uneasy.
So fate made a big joke on her.
Make her anxious, make her miserable, make her sad, make her regret, make her collapse in strength again and again, and be strong in collapse again and again.
Then, arrange for her to finally discover her original intention and return to normal life.
This is probably the inevitable experience of most women, from young to mature.
epilogue:
The pain of childbearing, the difficulty of parenting, and the way of getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will always be the most difficult and thorny problems in the world.
These problems, in everyone's marriage, exist to a greater or lesser extent.
Marriage is a delicate luxury that needs to be managed with care and careful care.
If you take care of it, marriage is your spiritual home and safe haven; if you don't take care of it, it is your disaster.
May every woman be less clever, more wise, and in the marriage relationship, look at the problem from the perspective of others.
It's hard for you, but it's not easy for others.