Professor Fudan: Excellent children are all managed! Control the child's 7 points, it is difficult to think of it!

Author: Comma

Mo Yan once said: "The excellence of children is soaked in the sweat of their parents." ”

Behind every excellent child, it is inseparable from the hard work of parents.

The future of children is not only to fight for themselves, but also to fight for their parents.

Far-sighted parents will never be lazy in education, but will only carefully control their children and be a strong backing for their children.

Fudan professor Qian Wenzhong once said frankly: "Excellent children are managed. "Parents can cultivate an excellent child by controlling the following 7 points!"

Keep your phone in check: Avoid your child's internet addiction

In this era, mobile phones, as tools of life, not only integrate into the lives of parents, but also affect the lives of children.

While mobile phones bring convenience and entertainment, they also bring troubles to parents.

Long-term use of mobile phones, will destroy the child's mental state and learning ability, will take away the child's interest in learning, should have read more books did not read, should have been completed long ago homework is not completed, resulting in can not keep up with the progress of learning, by the same age left behind.

◆ Correctly guide children to use the double-edged sword of mobile phones, and guide children to do the right things with mobile phones.

◆ Formulate rules, agree with the child on the time and number of times to play mobile phones, and supervise the child's conscientious implementation.

◆ Parents themselves should play less mobile phones in front of their children to avoid the drawbacks of Internet addiction.

Controlling the rubbing: curing the child of procrastination

There has always been a saying in the parent circle: 10 children have 9 rubbing, and one does not listen to what you say at all.

The pace of life and learning is getting faster and faster, but children are doing things more and more harshly, and everything is slow. If parents don't ask, procrastination in childhood can even become a bad habit that affects the child's life.

A psychologist said that procrastination is not only a behavior that causes children to have difficulty adapting to the rhythm of learning and life, but also produces serious psychological problems such as self-blame, self-denial, low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. Therefore, parents should pay enough attention to their children's work, educate and guide them, and help their children get rid of procrastination.

◆ Behind the rubbing children, there is a parent who constantly urges, parents should avoid urging, and use encouragement instead of urging.

◆ When educating and guiding, you may wish to be more patient with your children, give your children a little more love, and give your children a little more time.

◆ Help children to understand time, establish time planning skills, let children learn to abide by time, and children will move forward at the greatest speed.

Control laziness: Correct your child's learning attitude

Lazy children have poor concentration, and their attitude towards learning is like this:

Lack of concentration and half-heartedness when studying; impatient when doing homework before one or two lines, often perfunctory; throwing away the textbook, began to watch TV and play mobile phones, parents said that nothing should be heard...

There is a famous saying: "A hundred kinds of ills are born from laziness." Laziness is slack, relaxation is not strict, and fun is insensitive. One place is late, a hundred places are slack. "Children are too lazy to study, too lazy to do homework, too lazy to think about problems, then how good can they be in the future!"

If a parent wants to control his child, he must first control his laziness.

◆ Create a quiet learning environment, parents do not do the work, do not interfere.

◆ Formulate regular learning schedules and urge children to learn and live according to the plan every day.

◆ Children complete the assigned tasks within the specified time, parents should give appropriate encouragement, even if they do not do well, do not skimp on your encouragement.

Habits of discipline: Assist children in developing self-discipline

Whenever talking about the problem of children's self-discipline, many parents hope that their children can be self-conscious and do not need parental supervision. But parents must understand that it is natural for children to love to play.

Self-discipline comes from other disciplines, and the child's self-consciousness does not come out by preaching, but must be disciplined.

The correct discipline and guidance of parents can make children understand what self-discipline is in advance, and cultivating children's good habits from an early age is the key to cultivating children's self-discipline.

As a famous school mother said: "The first thing a child needs to develop is mechanical habits, because the good results brought by mechanical habits allow children to have a sense of accomplishment, and then talk to children about the importance of self-discipline with a sense of accomplishment." ”

◆ Control the habits of learning: attentive in class, serious homework, pre-study and review, positive thinking, and good at asking questions.

◆ Control the habits of life: reading outside the classroom, obeying the time, going to bed early and getting up early, exercising, and participating in housework.

◆ The primary school stage is the golden period for children to develop habits, and parents should be willing to invest time and energy to seize this golden period.

Discipline: Pay attention to the child's good behavior

A well-known professor once said: "Parents must say what they should say when their children are young, and they must make rules when they should make rules." ”

The growth of children is regular, in the age when the rules should be made for children, parents should not be reluctant to give up, love without rules will only cause harm to children.

"Love children" and "make rules" have never been a single choice question, the more parents love their children, they must make rules for their children, so that children can grow into an adult who can stand alone.

◆ Establish clear requirements, and do not shake the rules and requirements because of the child's crying.

◆ When making rules, if the child makes a mistake or cannot do it, then there should be a certain punishment, and vice versa, the child should be praised.

◆ Establishing rules requires consistency between parental parenting principles, as well as consistency in parents' words and deeds, and must not be inconsistent.

Controlling dependence: Cultivating children's ability to be independent

Although with the increase of age, children gradually began to know themselves, but some parents for their children's education methods are still unchanged, always for the child to do everything, so that children are often self-centered, dependence on parents is getting stronger and stronger, everything needs parents to complete, lack of independent ability.

As parents, we must understand that taking care of our children will only make the children gradually lose their mobility and lack the ability to take care of themselves. The real education should be that parents learn to let go, let children learn to be independent, let children grow up on their own, and guide children to move forward along the road of independence.

◆ Parents should not spoil their children too much, and whatever children can do on their own, they should be allowed to do it themselves.

◆ Instead of bothering to arrange everything for their children, parents should give their children free space and let them play independently.

◆ When children encounter problems, parents should not rush to help, but guide children to learn to solve problems on their own.

Controlling desires: Teach children to delay gratification

Many parents feel that they are busy with work and trying to make money in order to provide good material living conditions for their children, as long as the children have any desires to try to meet, do not know the endless satisfaction of parents, raising not only the child's vision and mind, but also the child's willfulness and desire.

People's desires are endless, children are no exception, as parents have the responsibility and obligation to control their children, can not meet the children in everything, but also let the children understand that what they want to get is not easy to get, to pay to have gains, so that children learn to pay and cherish.

◆ Try not to be satisfied when you should not be satisfied, and give reasons for refusal to persuade your child.

◆ Respond to your child's requests with a firm attitude, and respond positively without immediate satisfaction.

◆ The correct delayed gratification is to let the child understand that the world is not personally centered, and to cultivate the child's psychological endurance.

There is a saying in "The Courage to Discipline": "Educate a child, when you are a child, you must be ruthless, and give him wings when you grow up." ”

On the way to the child's growth, please be a "cruel person", the more "fierce" discipline, the more the child will appreciate you in the future.

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