Recently, a parent private message said: My baby is three years old, recently found that he is always very persistent in doing a certain thing, if you don't let him do it, you will cry and make trouble, I am a mother but sad to die, I don't know if this behavior is normal? How do we parents deal with this situation?
In fact, it is very normal for children to have this kind of performance, and the most common thing we have is that children love to listen to the same story, and even if parents have told it countless times, children will still pestering parents to continue to tell.
Some parents will not understand this, and even fall into anxiety, first of all, to tell parents do not have to worry and worry about this, as long as the correct understanding of the child's behavior, and the use of the right way to guide them.
The process of repetition of children is actually the process of repeated perception of things, because children's understanding of the world begins with feelings, and then perceives through touch, and finally reorganizes, classifies and generalizes their own perceptions, thus forming a concept.
Therefore, children who persistently do the same thing are also understanding and exploring the world, and there is no need to worry.
If parents want to improve their child's situation, let him try more things, and understand the bigger world, parents can start from the following aspects:
1. Respect the child and listen to the child's voice
Parents should understand why their children are obsessed with doing the same thing, whether they find it happy, fun, or something else? Ask your child if there are other more interesting things to do, would he be willing to do something different?
If the child is willing, the parent can guide the child to do other things, if the child is more resistant, unwilling to do, the parents should respect the child, you can wait for a period of time to ask, because after a long time, the child's interest will be transferred, so at that time, perhaps without parental guidance, the child wants to do other things.
2. Remember to make rules for your child
Now many families are very fond of children, so sometimes they will not make so many rules for their children, in fact, such words also have certain drawbacks, so parents should still make rules for their children.
For example, parents should let their children know what can be done, what things can never be done, in the case of permission, can give children the greatest autonomy, but the provisions are not allowed to do things, parents must strictly implement to the end.
In this way, if the child insists on doing what is allowed, the parent is assured to let him do it; if it is not allowed, the parent asks the child to correct it in time.
3. Guide your child patiently
If it is something that parents do not allow their children to do, they need to patiently tell their children the reasons for not allowing them to do it, if the child is still crying, parents can use cold treatment, let him cry for a while, and then continue to communicate with him after he does not cry.
In this way, the child will learn that not all needs can be met, and he will slowly understand that he will not cry again when this happens again.
4. Pay more attention to your children
Some children repeatedly do a certain thing in order to attract the attention of adults, so in order to avoid this situation, in daily life, parents should pay more attention to the child, so that he can gain a sense of security, so that he will not deliberately win attention.
However, parents should also pay attention to ways and methods when paying attention to their children, not just simple and rude care, but also into the child's heart to understand what he really wants.
5. Divert your child's attention
When parents find that their children are repeating a thing, they can use toys in their hands or others to attract their children's attention, which can also effectively avoid the situation that children are obsessed with doing something.
For example, when the child subconsciously bites his lip, parents do not forcibly stop it, you can use the attention transfer method, so that the child is busy with other things, there is no time to bite the lip again, so that if you persist for a long time, the child's bad habits can naturally be changed.