Now many young parents advocate happy education, especially in the stage of children from three to six years old, they tend to indulge their children's behavior, thinking that children at this stage do not need to discipline more.
But in fact, such an education method, there are drawbacks, because at the age of three to six years old, it is the critical period of the formation of the child's personality, if you let the child's growth at this time, it will seriously affect the child's personality, and after this period, it will become very difficult to correct the child's behavior.
Earlier, I was a guest at the house of one of my relatives, and I saw that his child was very unruly, not only shouting at the table, but also using chopsticks to make a mess of the dishes on the table, and no one else could eat it.
After eating, the child was clamoring to eat dessert, the mother refused him to eat dessert for the teeth, did not expect the child to hear that the mother did not give him dessert, he lay on the ground and cried, and finally the mother still failed to beat the child, can only give the child a dessert.
In fact, situations like this are relatively common, especially many young parents because they are busy with their usual work and do not have time to take their children, so they give their children to the elders of the family.
The elders in the family are often more indulgent of the child, not only to help the child do what he should do himself, but also to meet the child's requirements unconditionally.
Making rules for your child before the age of 6 can benefit your child for a lifetime
The younger the child establishes rules, the more able the child can develop a good character.
There is a very well-known blogger on the Internet, and many netizens can't help but sigh after watching her video, "If only the daughter I had in the future was like this obedient"!
In the video, the blogger's daughter is very well-behaved, never made a big fuss at home, not only listens to her mother at home, but also shows a well-behaved and sensible appearance outside.
At the request of many netizens, the mother shared her parenting experience, saying that the reason why her daughter is so obedient is that she has established some rules when she was young.
After breaking the rules, the daughter will be punished accordingly, such as not giving candy, not showing cartoons, etc. The daughter begins to become sensible after eating the pain of breaking the rules, and her personality is getting better and better.
In fact, when the child is young, it is the best period for shaping the child's personality, because in this period the child often does not have the correct concept of right and wrong, and what kind of character is formed depends on how the parents educate.
As children get older, they become more and more difficult to discipline.
If you want to say which stage of the child is more difficult to manage, then it must be the child who is in adolescence.
At this stage, children have a strong sense of independence, and their personality is also prone to become irritable and impulsive, and even sometimes they are accused by their parents for a few words, and they will clamor to run away from home.
At this time, parents who want to discipline their children again will become powerless.
In the period of 3 to 6 years old is the best time to discipline children, because in this period the child is ignorant of many things, do not know whether their behavior is right or wrong, so as long as parents take the appropriate way to discipline the child during this period, the child will become more and more obedient.
In addition to allowing children to form a good personality, it will also be of great help to children's future learning and life.
Make rules for your children, and parents should remember these three tips
Try not to force your child
Discipline children, in fact, is not to force children to do things they do not like, but to take appropriate methods, so that children understand what to do and what not to do.
As parents, we must not use a lofty posture to educate children, which will not only arouse the child's rebellious psychology, but also easily let the child form a cowardly character.
Therefore, we must try to communicate with the child, do not think that the child does not understand anything, each child has his own thoughts, what parents should do is to feel the child's thoughts, so that children can understand that the parents' teachings are for their sake.
Try to make your child experience the consequences of making a mistake
Many children now make mistakes recklessly because they have not suffered the consequences of making mistakes.
For example, I saw a message on the Internet before, there was a bear child, scratched more than a dozen cars in the underground garage of the community, and finally led to tens of thousands of yuan in compensation for the parents, which is caused by the parents not letting the children experience the consequences of making mistakes.
Therefore, when a child makes a mistake because of something, parents must not lightly expose this matter, and must let him try to make the consequences of making a mistake, so as to avoid him from making the same mistake next time. Of course, this does not mean that the child must be scolded to be able to make the child remember for a long time, but to punish the child in other ways and let the child remember the lesson of this time.
The rules established must be strictly enforced
It is very important for a family to have family rules, and perhaps many parents think that they are just a small ordinary person with a flat head, and the establishment of family rules seems a little too pretentious.
In fact, this is not the case, only by establishing family rules can children have some scruples, and strict implementation of family rules can better restrain children and avoid children from making some unnecessary mistakes in the future.
When we set up family rules, we don't have to set up too complicated, just set up a few of the most important ones, so that children can remember.
For example, don't make a big fuss when you go out, don't play with other people's things, don't waste food when you eat, and so on.
In addition, after the establishment of house rules, we must strictly implement them, and do not let the house rules become useless.
epilogue
Rules are very important for both adults and children, especially for children, rules can better help children form a good character.
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