The TV series "Dear Child" is being broadcast, and most of the plots that have been broadcast at the beginning of the broadcast feel more depressing.
In the dim light, the heroine Fang Yinuo kept looking at the spots on her cheeks in the mirror. Many women who have given birth know that the spots are caused by pregnancy. Next, the camera shines on the heroine's belly, the most conspicuous of which is the stretch marks on both sides of the stomach. Once these things grow out, they can never be removed.
Xiao Xu, her husband who came home from overtime, brought her a bowl of long-awaited noodles, and she was very happy, but because she did not dare to eat spicy, the noodles she liked also had no taste. Her waist was sore, her legs and feet were swollen, and she couldn't sleep well in bed with a big belly, so she could only lie on the sofa halfway through the night.
Fang Yinuo was about to be in the basin, physically and mentally exhausted, she was looking forward to the birth of the child quickly, she thought that this would allow others to take the child, she would be relaxed. Within a few days, her wish had come true. But because the amniotic fluid broke first, Fang Yinuo could only obediently lie on the hospital bed and wait for the delivery to start. How uncomfortable the labor pains are, and how painful the process of having a child is, only those who have experienced it understand.
Unlike Fang Yinuo's imagination, after giving birth, she not only could not relax, but was more tired.
Although I invited my sister-in-law, my sister-in-law was two days late because of something. Fang Yinuo's body was weak after childbirth, Xiao Xu had to go to work and take care of the family, and both of them did not eat well and sleep well, and their hands were busy and tired.
After sister-in-law Yue came, Fang Yinuo could finally breathe a sigh of relief, but new troubles came again. Fang Yinuo follows the principle of scientific parenting and insists on exclusive breastfeeding of children. However, breast milk is not hungry, and children wake up more frequently at night, which requires adults to get up several times at night. In order to sleep a little longer, the sister-in-law secretly fed the child milk powder. This matter was discovered by Fang Yinuo, and she began to distrust Yue Jie, staring at her actions from time to time, exhausting and laborious, and even more tired.
The second problem faced by new mothers is that they have high mood swings, are fragile and sensitive, and are prone to anxiety.
Fang Yinuo put almost all her energy on the child, and the child's every move touched her heart. As soon as the child cried, she was nervous, always worried about what was wrong with the child. The child's face was yellow, and although yue sister-in-law told her with great certainty that it was normal, Fang Yinuo was still not at ease and insisted that Xiao Xu take the child to the hospital. It turns out that Fang Yinuo was right, the child had jaundice and needed to be hospitalized to take blue light.
Fang Yinuo was more anxious after learning the news, she was worried that jaundice would cause physical harm to the child, and she was worried that the child would be afraid when he lay alone in the ward. She was restless at home, and her heart was washed with tears. Although the things she imagined could never happen, she was always uncontrollable, and the comfort of others did not work.
Fang Yinuo in the middle of the month was easily agitated and could hardly withstand anything. Xiao Xu knew it very well, so at first he didn't dare to tell Fang Yinuo the true condition of his daughter, he was worried that Fang Yinuo would not be able to stand it. Fang Yinuo's emotions not only made him very tired, but also brought a lot of pressure to the people around him.
Then there's the third conundrum, which is that the relationship between new moms and the people around them is being tested, especially the people around them.
Fang Yinuo only determined the sister-in-law after thousands of choices, but despite this, she was still not at ease and always secretly observed the behavior of the sister-in-law. Sister-in-law Yue's series of actions confirmed her suspicions, and she was even more uneasy. Sister-in-law Yue also has an opinion on this, although she did do something wrong, but it is always bad to be suspected, so that the relationship between the two of them will not be better.
Her husband Xiao Xu is Fang Yinuo's closest and most trusted person, and she also gave Xiao Xu her truest emotions. Fang Yinuo was tired in order to take care of the children, and her husband slept like thunder next to him, and Fang Yinuo had resentment in his heart and did not blame Xiao Xu. Xiao Xu felt that he was tired during the day, and Fang Yinuo did not understand him. Fang Yinuo drove Xiao Xu to the guest bedroom without consultation for the convenience of breastfeeding, and Xiao Xu felt that he was not respected. Sister-in-law Yue did not quit, Xiao Xu took his mother to serve Yuezi without Fang Yinuo's consent, and Fang Yinuo was very dissatisfied. These little things are invisibly affecting the feelings of two people.
Her mother-in-law likes to play mahjong and smoke, and Fang Yinuo originally had an opinion on her. When the mother-in-law came, she brought a large bag of old clothes and diapers that Xiao Xu had used when he was a child, forcing Fang Yinuo to drink greasy soup before going to bed, and chopping meat in the kitchen with the bedroom door open in the morning. Fang Yinuo's dissatisfaction with her grew, and her mother-in-law felt that she had no problem and had done her best enough, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was also affected.
New moms also have a big pain, no one can really understand themselves, they often feel isolated.
When Fang Yinuo told Xiao Xu about his suspicions about Yue Yinuo, his first reaction was that Fang Yinuo was too sensitive. When Fang Yinuo was worried that the child's crying too much was not good for his health, Xiao Xu said that crying more was good for the child's lung development. Although Xiao Xu seemed to be tolerant and considerate of his wife, he could not fully understand Fang Yinuo's mood, he always thought that Fang Yinuo thought too much. Fang Yinuo did think too much, but her feelings of anxiety and worry were real.
Sister-in-law Yue also can't understand that there is no harm in letting children drink milk powder, and it can also let adults rest more, but Fang Yinuo insists on exclusive breastfeeding. Fang Yinuo is an intellectual, she chooses scientific parenting, exclusive breastfeeding is a thing she must insist on, no matter how tired she is, she also wants to make her children healthier.
When her friend Lei Wen went to visit Fang Yinuo, Fang Yinuo cried while talking, no one could understand her, and no one could count on her. She didn't expect this to happen after giving birth, and she didn't expect it to be so difficult to raise a child.
Pain, exertion, anxiety, stress, not being understood, isolation, relationships, etc., so many factors are superimposed, it is not difficult to understand that women get postpartum depression.
Fang Yinuo is difficult, but at least she still has a family and a job, and she cares about her parents, and the situation of many new mothers in reality may be worse. For example, financial pressure, inconsiderate husband, physical pain and so on.
Therefore, for postpartum women, the people around them still need to give them more love, understanding, tolerance, respect and real help. If you can't do that, at least don't add to the chaos.
In short, new mothers face too many difficulties and trials. Every woman who chooses to be a mom is brave, and please give them more support when they are most vulnerable and in need of help.
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