Many people will feel that depression is far away from themselves, but in fact, for new mothers, postpartum depression is a high incidence of disease. There are more than 15 million new mothers in the mainland every year, of which 60%-80% of women will have different degrees of depression during pregnancy and after childbirth.
If you ask me, go back in time to the time you gave birth 3 months ago, are you depressed after childbirth?
My answer is, yes.~
Didn't you live in the confinement center for the second child? The first child has so much experience, shouldn't the second child be very relaxed? You and your mother-in-law have not had a tacit understanding in recent years, and the relationship is good, isn't it? Husband needless to say, has always been very good to you ~
What else are you depressed about?
Tell me about my situation: In the more than 3 months that I became a mother of the second child, every day accompanied by a scream of lemon, I began to get up and feed ~ after that, I changed my diapers, cleaned my mouth and washed my face, did touch, and slept. Write scripts, shoot videos, and occasionally read books while your baby is asleep. Baby woke up and continued to repeat the action...
Everything is so full and tired, of course, there is no lack of warmth and love.
Perhaps, some people will say, this is nothing, isn't everyone here? It's just too pretentious, right?
If you think postpartum depression is too pretentious, it's because it's not you who have children.
Even if you have given birth to a child, don't stand and talk without waist pain, always say how I hurt how much pain and how tired I came, we don't want to listen. Didn't you feel sad when you were so sad that you couldn't hold on? Why do you laugh at other people's emotions when you come over!
Tell me why postpartum depression is?
When it comes to having a baby, all of us focus on the baby. In fact, for our mother, it is happiness, but it is a severe test. Surveys have shown that about 80% of old mothers will experience different degrees of "small emotions" after giving birth to a baby - we will be inexplicably depressed. Inexplicably depressed. Postpartum depression is a very normal phenomenon. After all, the woman gave birth to a baby and came out!
After the baby is born, the hormones of our body will change, the level of estrogen during pregnancy is higher, the hormone level after childbirth will decline, we have the new role of the mother is difficult to adapt to for a while, some of the baby's situation will be overwhelmed, coupled with the complex and contradictory family relationships, it is easy for the mother to have sadness, crying and irritability and other emotions.
At that time, a few days after the birth of lemon, I told the truth, and I was not touched by joy, I even felt strange when I looked at this little one; at night in the confinement center, lemon lime would be sent to custody, sometimes I woke up in the middle of the night, and I would wonder if she would be snubbed by the nurse, and when she cried, the nurse would not go to hug her immediately; the two girls, worried that they would not be able to protect them when they grew up, and so on.
In addition to their own wild thoughts, more mothers will also feel that they suddenly have no self. Before eating, check "Can I eat xx during lactation?" " Eating is for children, wearing clothes to make it more convenient to take children, buying bags to hold more children's things, everything is for children. Sometimes I feel tired and feel that I am suffering from living, but sometimes when I see the smiling face of my child, I will suddenly be full of maternal love and happiness, and my postpartum emotions often linger on these two extremes, making it difficult to be at peace.
A nursery, a mother with a second child actually has postpartum depression, is it terrible to have a child?! Ha ha. In fact, expectant mothers, novice mothers do not have to be too afraid, postpartum depression is normal, postpartum depression as long as it gets appropriate and warm support, it can be quickly alleviated, do not casually label yourself "depression".
What should I do if I have postpartum depression?
1. Ensure sleep
This is really important, in fact, the second child in the confinement center confinement is really much better than a fetus, one of which is this sleep, I sleep badly on the head pain, emotions will explode, during the confinement period can sleep, lie flat for a few minutes.
2, let go of yourself, do not pursue to be a "perfect mother"
As soon as many mothers see their baby sneezing, a few coughs begin to be very anxious and self-blame. What we should be clear about is that there is no such thing as "being born with children", no matter how many parenting encyclopedias you read before childbirth, after the birth of the child, there will still be all kinds of unexpected situations, which is not your fault. I feel this more strongly than anyone else, because I am a nursery, so can't my child have a little headache and brain fever? Because I'm a nursery, can't I have any shortcomings? It's really speechless. Don't blame yourself for not being able to do everything perfectly, no one is a perfect mother.
3. Temporarily withdraw from motherhood
Because the confinement family will not let you do housework or anything, there is no work for the time being, the newborn sleeps for a long time every day, I eat and sleep with the baby every day, as long as I am not sleepy, I will watch movies and TV series, really, during the confinement period to watch my year's TV series, I work with the baby for 1 or 2 months to watch a drama. I am tired of eating confinement meals, I will also secretly order takeaway to eat cake, bread, my husband secretly bought me McDonald's, and then waited for the baby to sleep two people to eat, and suddenly there was a feeling of a two-person world.
Postpartum depression is ultimately a matter of regulating one's own thoughts. It is useless to complain about the world, it is useless to complain all day, and it is useless to complain about yourself. No matter what others say, how they don't understand us, how they look at us, the final day is our own life, happy and unhappy only feel it, life is also our own, so leave other people alone, do yourself, is responsible for yourself and the baby!
Finally, I also hope that all mothers will have a new life after the kind understanding of the people around them during this difficult time!
【Today's Interaction】: Have you ever had a particularly depressed mood after giving birth? How are they resolved?