In most people's minds, it seems that only women will suffer from "postpartum depression", but in fact, postpartum depression is not exclusive to postpartum mothers, and fathers are also at risk of postpartum depression.
The child was born to the mother, but the father was depressed after giving birth
Recently, the friend's strong state is obviously not right, and the whole person is "emo". Later, after chatting with him, everyone found out the reason.
It turned out that the baby of the big strong family was born last year, but because there was a mother-in-law taking care of the child, the couple did not think that the baby was difficult to carry. The recent recurrence of the epidemic has allowed the mother-in-law to isolate at home, and the couple has no choice but to take the baby by themselves.
After some research with his wife, it was decided to take on the responsibility of taking the baby with da zhuang, and I thought that the 6-month-old doll was very good to bring, but I did not expect to directly give da zhuang this novice bao dad "depression".
The baby's sleep is relatively shallow, often a little sound to wake up wow wow crying, so Da Zhuang always listens to the baby's crying, and even hallucinations. The baby's pulling, peeing, hungry, thirsty, etc., crying when they don't agree, and the big and strong are also busy, changing according to the changes of the child.
For a period of time, this highly disordered life makes Da Zhuang feel that it is much more difficult to take children than work, and even feel particularly tired, not physically tired, but psychologically tired, and the whole person is a state full of negative energy.
Postpartum depression is no longer exclusive to women, and men can also be depressed after childbirth
Studies have shown that new fathers, like mothers, are likely to suffer from postpartum depression after the birth of their children, and the data show that 21% of new fathers have experienced postpartum depression, and young fathers (average age 25 years) have a higher risk of postpartum depression.
Although the probability of newbie bao dad suffering from postpartum depression is lower than that of mother, it can not be ignored, if you find that after you have a child, the husband's temper becomes impatient, the husband's feelings are not as good as before, the enthusiasm for the child is not high, don't be nervous, it is not that the husband does not love you, it is likely that the postpartum depression is at work.
To say that Bao Mom is depressed after childbirth, it is because she experienced great pain during childbirth, and the hormone levels during pregnancy were too high, the mind was sensitive, coupled with the unfair treatment of people around her, which led to Bao Mom's easy fall into depression after childbirth.
So why did Dad get postpartum depression?
Postpartum bao dad will also be depressed, and the source of the disease mainly comes from these three aspects
1) Economic pressure
In many families, from the time a woman becomes pregnant, the pressure to make money shifts to the husband alone. From the beginning of pregnancy, the cost of obstetric examination, the cost of childbirth, and the milk powder money and diaper money after the baby's birth are all a lot of expenses.
And in the family, only the father has financial resources, these pressures are pressed on the father, it is easy to be anxious, and the most important thing to think about every day is how to make money.
2) Work and rest time is affected
After having children, although the father has to take on the obligation to make money, but also to share the work of mother's child-rearing, many fathers work hard during the day, and may have to get up at night to feed, change diapers, and even always be woken up by the baby's crying.
So that during the day, the spirit is insufficient, the work is sleepy, and people in such a vicious circle, the state is very bad, but because they are the pillar of the family, even if the mental strength is exhausted, there is nowhere to vent. Over time, emotionally, it will be very negative.
3) The transformation of the relationship between husband and wife
When a family has a new life to join, people tend to focus on the newborn baby, after having a child, a large part of the mother's time and energy will also be transferred to the baby, and even sometimes ignore the husband. The wife's indifference to herself will also make the husband feel extremely depressed.
If the wife is suspicious or has a bad temper because of postpartum hormones and other reasons, then the contradictions in the family will increase sharply. Husbands also become more and more depressed and silent in such an environment every day.
How can a new dad prevent postpartum depression?
As the "top pillar" of the family, the pressure on the shoulders of Bao Dad cannot be underestimated, and in the face of newborn babies, they, like their mothers, will be born with depression, mania, anxiety and other emotions. So how to avoid the emergence of such emotions?
Learn fertility education knowledge: During the wife's pregnancy, Bao Dad can learn with his wife, understand the knowledge of postpartum adjustment, and make psychological preparations for parents; take the initiative to find someone to talk to: Although men are not willing to take the initiative to share emotional topics with friends like women, if there is parent-child confusion, talking to relatives will also be a good choice; appropriate exercise: Appropriate exercise is also of great help to release stress and relax the mood, and a healthy body also promotes the psychological spirit.
Kojima would like to say:
No one in the world is born to be a parent, so before preparing to have children, try to make yourself fully prepared from the financial, psychological, and health aspects, and before loving children, you must also learn to love yourself and each other.