"Son, you take your wife and children with you, I can't afford to raise you with your father!"

01.

I am a mother-in-law, they all say that ten years of daughter-in-law to become a mother-in-law, before I survived to become a mother-in-law, I was also the daughter-in-law, and I did not want to get married because I heard more about the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Later, after getting married, although my husband was still reasonable and clear, my mother-in-law was his mother after all, and I still suffered a lot of grievances.

Because of this, from the time I had a son, I said to myself in my heart that in the future, even if I am not a good mother-in-law, I will certainly not become a person like my mother-in-law.

Even if I can't treat my daughter-in-law as my own daughter," I won't deliberately look for fault , but I'll only do my best to help the little two.

My husband and I met each other on a blind date, I was 3 years older than my husband, which is one of the reasons why my mother-in-law didn't like me, she didn't think it was good.

When I married my husband, I was 27 years old, and at that age, I was really old, and basically no one introduced me to anyone.

The reason why it dragged on so late was because my parents were a bit patriarchal.

My family's conditions are not good, and my brother certainly can't afford a bride price when he gets married. They had already planned that I would work to earn money and save money until it was enough for my son to marry his wife before he could get me married.

Later, after I got married, my mother's family was demolished and gave a sum of money.

Of course, this money is naturally not a share of my daughter who is married, and I never want to ask for a little.

I don't know if it's because of the money or because I finally realized that all these years have been bad for my daughter.

After I got married, my parents did not find an excuse for me to subsidize my mother's family, except for letting me give a little living expenses every month (similar to what ordinary families give).

Before I got married, I knew my mother-in-law wouldn't want to see me, one because of my age and the other because of my family situation.

But at that time, among the blind dates introduced to me sporadically, my husband was really unmarried with the best conditions, so the dissatisfaction of the future mother-in-law, I ignored, after all, I did not want to marry a second-married man, I asked myself that I could not handle the relationship with his previous children.

Although the mother-in-law was dissatisfied, she later agreed to let me enter the door, in fact, because she was not in good health, took medicine all year round, and the family conditions were poor; those with poor tempers had become famous, and naturally many girls' families avoided it.

02.

I don't want to count the difficulties that my mother-in-law has for me, but almost all the common mother-in-law contradictions are there.

I only had my son 3 years after I got married, and when I gave birth to this child, I was bleeding heavily and almost died.

I also thought of my own childhood, my parents were indifferent to me, and I really put it in the palm of my hand to my son, and my husband could not persuade him.

That's it, I spoiled him and became a person who was unmotivated, unprofitable, and didn't know how to be grateful.

My son has been disobedient since he was a child, because he knows that every time he breaks into trouble, he will forgive him if he just lies and he is spoiled.

In high school, I fell in love with his father behind my back, which affected my academic performance and failed to enter college.

We spent money to send him to a technical school, thinking that he could learn some technology, and as a result, he was good, he knew that spending money to play games, 3 years, money spent a lot, the skill did not learn a little.

Later, when I came back, I was idle and asked us when I had no money.

It is also my stupidity, all this time, I have not realized that I have a problem in the education of my children, and I blindly think that my children are still young, and I will get better after I get married and have a family.

My husband and I began to entrust people to give him blind dates, but because he did not have a stable job, although the conditions of my family were much better than before with the efforts of me and my husband, others still looked down on him.

After a year of being like this, without success, my son was very unhappy and felt that he had been wronged.

He didn't think about it either, and went to find a job, which was even crazier than before.

I finally realized my problem, but my son didn't listen to me at all.

Not long after, he brought a girl back, saying that she was his girlfriend, and she was pregnant, saying that she was going to get married.

This girl is dressed strangely, and she is not at all measured in talking to us, I definitely don't like it, but the girls are pregnant, and I can't say anything.

Later, I talked about marriage and marriage, and it was a chicken flying dog jumping, the girl's parents asked for a dowry of 150,000 yuan, and also wanted a marriage room and so on.

I said well, they didn't listen, and then I got angry, and I said that the marriage was not married.

But my son refused, crying and making trouble, and finally there was no rut, my husband and I took out our savings, and asked relatives to borrow some, which was enough money for the bride price and wedding.

The separate marriage room was naturally gone, and the daughter-in-law's parents later took a step back, after all, the daughter's belly appeared pregnant.

03.

Although I said that I didn't like this daughter-in-law, since I came in the door and was pregnant with a child, I really took good care of her.

Then I also thought, this marriage is also married, the son should always understand something, it is time to go to work.

The result is good, still like that, staying at home every day, reaching out to us for money.

My husband and I have a little retirement salary that is not enough, there is no way, only I can take some odd jobs to do at home, my husband went out to find something to do.

Just like this until the birth of the child, the cost is getting bigger and bigger, and the daughter-in-law excuses herself to take the child (in fact, I am basically carrying), saying that she cannot work.

The son is still like that, unwilling to suffer, found a bunch of reasons, anyway, just play at home.

Then the two of them also resented that the food I made was not good enough, and the things Bought for the children were not up to standard...

I endured it again and again, and finally I was completely disappointed, and I knew that if I continued like this, this family would be finished.

After discussing with my husband, I rented a house outside, paid half a year's rent, and found a job for my son, whose salary can basically support the family's expenses.

Then, when the son and daughter-in-law went to the park with the child in their arms, they sorted out the clothes of the two people and the child and sent them to the rented house.

I left the keys to the rented house to the neighbors, changed the door locks of the house, and sent a text message to my son: Son, just when I am cold-blooded, take your wife and your children with me, I and your father can't afford to support you.

After saying that, I shut down the phone, and in the evening of the same day, my son shouted at the door, and I didn't open the door.

Neighbors are aware of our family situation, naturally speaking to our old two, one person and one sentence, maybe the son and daughter-in-law can't hang on their faces.

Finally, the son kicked the door hard and said a harsh word: You drive us out now, don't expect us to take care of you in the future, just wait and cry.

Until now, it has been almost half a month, and I really haven't contacted us.

04.

I secretly went to inquire, and my son went to work.

He has always been idle, this first work, in addition to hard work, there must be psychological pressure, the whole person lost a circle, but held a breath, but also persevered.

The daughter-in-law was at home with the children, and she did not go out to play, and her mother came once, but fortunately she did not come to us to make trouble.

It sounds good, but it is false to say that it is not painful, and for their future, it can only be like this, after all, I can't raise them for a lifetime.

I don't ask him to understand my hard work, as long as they can live well in their little lives.

People say, I'm wrong to do this?

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