As the saying goes, men are afraid of entering the wrong line, women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, because in the past it was not easy to learn a craft, the mobility of the population was not large, the information was relatively closed, and the teacher had already got a lot of people.
And many times it is not that you go to the master, the master will definitely accept you, after a few years of investigation, not only did not have a penny, but also all kinds of dirty work, and finally could not get into the master's eyes, this kind of thing is too common.
Even if you are lucky enough to get started, if you want to learn the true transmission of the master, it still takes a long time to get the approval of the master and the precipitation of your own ability.
So at that time, it was really not easy to learn a craft, and it was even more difficult to change careers in the middle of the way, and it was also difficult for women to marry, at that time, people's tolerance for divorce was very low, and many women did not dare to divorce even if they were unhappy.
In fact, there is no financial resource, unlike now girls can go to work, now many girls are not allowed to go out to work, divorce means that there is no source of livelihood.
In fact, not only women should think twice before marrying, but men should think twice before asking for wives, especially now that men must be cautious when looking for wives.
Just as the so-called wife is not virtuous for three generations, a woman is the feng shui of a family, and the wife is thriving when she marries, but even if she has a certain family property, she will slowly be destroyed.
After all, divorce is easy now, many couples divorce without a word, but it is really not easy for men to remarry, especially an ordinary middle-aged man who wants to remarry.
Not to mention the various high expenses of marriage, how to deal with family relations is also an extreme headache, and it is actually difficult for two couples to be happy.
As for treating other people's children as their own children, most people can't do it, and even if they do, it's difficult to do well, so how to choose a good first marriage partner is really very important.
To remind men and women, not everyone has the ability to love people, especially in this era of fast everything, many people's hearts have long been objectified.
To put it bluntly, for some people, don't talk about the ability to love people, that is, to love this thing, many people have no concept in their hearts.
All they think about every day is how to maximize their own interests, he can't understand love at all, and your love for him can only become a tool for his interests.
What some people think about every day is all kinds of calculations, how to let themselves suffer losses, and how to take advantage of others to maximize their own interests.
Whether it is in love or marriage, the most feared person is to meet this kind of person, and some people are particularly well disguised, and it is difficult to discover his true face without carefully understanding him.
In order to get the favor of others, then he has to force himself to learn, and he will do what others do, but he doesn't really understand why he does it.
So many people will encounter some very strange things in their feelings, just take the gift thing, see others give gifts, he feels that he should also send, but he is not from the heart to send.
You will go to buy you a fake ah, create some empty joy for you, and for example, watch others fall in love and say I love you, love words, he also said love words, not only to say, but also to say very outrageous.
Many people may not realize that they have been deceived, listen to each other's sweet words, and unconsciously believe that the other party really loves themselves.
But the reality is that the other person doesn't know what love is, and everything he shows is copied by him, so it will feel awkward when you get along
Usually there is no contradiction when it is okay, if you quarrel, you will find that you are a show to meet the soldiers, reasonable and may not be clear, it is completely playing the piano to the cow.
You remember the old feelings and want to get along with each other, try to change each other, and the end can only be that you increase your troubles.