It is a kind of luck to have a chance to meet.
But two people, is it appropriate? Further tentativeness is needed.
In the world of emotions, there are often such phenomena:
Couples walk hand in hand, cherishing and happy, but the result is scattered.
When I was single, everyone always thought that it was a natural thing to meet people who had a relationship and hold hands.
When encountering love and walking in the world of emotions, friends will have new feelings: it turns out that love is accompanied by trial and error, and the deep love is also a norm.
After getting along, if they are suitable for each other, it is naturally a lucky thing.
If it turns out that the encounter between two people is wrong, entanglement will only consume each other's patience, and even one day there is a possibility of turning against each other, in this case, how should everyone choose!
01
Love is inevitable to make people entangled.
Falling in love with someone, who doesn't want to last forever?
With the expectation of happiness, many couples open the world of two in a romantic and beautiful way.
It's just that it's easy to fall in love, but it's really hard to get along.
From the perspective of love psychology, everyone is an independent individual, will have a different life background, and different lifestyle and behavior characteristics.
When two parties come together in the name of love, it is inevitable to go through the process of running-in.
People who truly love each other can stand on a certain overall situation and achieve understanding and fulfillment. Even if you know that there are many flaws in the other party's body, everyone can accept it calmly and correct and improve it for the sake of love.
Such feelings often have stability, and the love of two people can also pass the test of time.
And those who do not love deeply enough will only gradually exhaust all their patience in the passage of time, and even one day, they will do things that hurt each other. At this point, the fate of the two people will also be consumed.
When love is not possible, everyone is in a dilemma, how to do it is a wise choice!
02
If it is not appropriate, letting go is the way back.
What is the purpose of love?
Before experiencing love, some people will think that fate is romantic and dreamy.
Everyone's hearts and minds, hoping to meet the destined person and start a beautiful time for the two. In this relationship, both parties can meet the need for romance.
In fact, love based on reality can go long.
Everyone has the need for "love and belonging".
Through love, what everyone really wants is a long-term sense of solidity and emotional home.
The really suitable people, after coming together, can not only find romantic feelings in getting along, but also can't help but entrust the rest of their lives to each other's hands. Because everyone, who has experienced the process of running-in, can realize that the other party is a person worthy of trust.
If a person doesn't suit you, it just brings you more and more disappointment.
If one day, we find that we encounter the wrong person, at this time, everyone should understand a fact: their own retreat is only this one, that is, to stop the loss in time.
03
Accept reality and block everything about him.
If you have loved, how can you be willing to let go?
People who have loved each other, the most difficult to accept is to break up.
When there is a disagreement, the two people may not realize this, and when the two sides face separation, the time they have spent together can easily appear in front of their eyes.
Especially looking at each other, showing a look of regret, it is even more difficult to give up.
But can two people really get back together?
In fact, the answer is no. If they are really compatible with each other, how can they make trouble with the scorer? It is precisely because the personalities of two people are incompatible, or they do not love each other enough, or even one party makes a betrayal, that the two sides face such a deadlock.
When you are sure that the other party really does not love yourself, what is there to hesitate about!
Whether it is a boy or a girl, the most certain thing is that not being able to put it down does not mean that you still love.
From the perspective of the "Zeignick effect" in psychology, the reason why a relationship is not willing to be abandoned is mostly because the matter has not ended satisfactorily, so it will make people grumble.
If you don't love, the result of hesitation will only make you more passive. Truly intelligent people will accept their true selves, completely distance themselves from that past, and become single themselves again.
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Believe in time, can forget everything.
Time is silent, but it can witness everything.
Whether two people are suitable or not, as long as they have been together, they will know.
Many people have this mentality, try to love someone, and end up with a disappointed ending.
If it turns out that they continue to entangle each other, there is really no happiness at all. Don't be embarrassed about yourself, in fact, letting go of each other is a correct choice.
Learn to let go of a person, so that we can seize the happiness that really belongs to us for the rest of our lives.
Some people will say: completely let go, it is easier said than done.
Why not? Two people walk hand in hand for a while, and each other becomes each other's habits. If one day, the two parties choose to break up, who can quickly adapt to the changes in front of them?
Especially when everyone is alone.
The good times of yesteryear, the scenes of two people getting along, are easy to come to mind. In this case, everyone will blame themselves for being unforgettable, and it is easy to blame the reason for the breakup on themselves, but is this really the case?
If you, instead of accumulating too many disappointments, how can you make up your mind to leave! A love that is not worth holding on to really can't give you the happiness you want.
If you can't put it down for the time being, you may wish to deliver the results to time.
Falling in love does not mean that they are in love.
Because in love, it is often accompanied by trial and error.
Only when two people have been together can they realize whether each other is really a good fit.
If the two sides, after further understanding, firmly in love with each other's determination, such a fate, it is worth everyone to spend the rest of their lives to cherish and protect, because that person is your emotional destination.
If you have loved, you have encountered more and more differences, and there is no way to solve them.
Next, instead of entanglement, the two people should choose to be separated for a period of time and maintain a state of "disconnection" between each other. Under the witness of time, see if the two sides are really still in love; of course, more likely, that is, each other will really become passers-by for the rest of their lives.
But it is undeniable that when love is not possible, the original retreat is only this one, that is, to stop the loss in time. Leaving the wrong person, we can understand our own needs, to find the one who really cares about ourselves.
Author: Zhou Woodman, an emotional cultivator with an attitude. Write the warmth of the world, read the heart-warming story, and thank you for your company along the way. I only hope that the years are quiet, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and you and I can pour out our heartfelt feelings when we meet in a piece of text.