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After falling in love with a man, women will always unconsciously want to rely on each other. Women's love and dependence on men will make women gradually lose themselves, whether before marriage or after marriage, some women will even put men first, and then ignore their careers, but also give up self-improvement.
Especially after marriage, some women choose to stay at home and wait for men to raise them because of the man's "I raise you", and they have never doubted the authenticity of men's words or thought about their future. The consequence of this is that a gap is gradually formed between two people, and the man will gradually move away from you.
Another reason why men will gradually distance themselves from you is that after two people have been together for a long time, women will start to treat their boyfriends or husbands casually. Women think that men are already their own people, so they don't have to be so careful, they don't have to be polite, their tempers come up, they are embarrassed to lose their temper with outsiders, then they lose their temper with their boyfriends or husbands. A lot of women think this is normal operation and don't feel bad about doing it.
But from a man's point of view, the man will not feel that you behave like this because you regard him as his own person, he will feel that you are making unreasonable trouble, he will feel that you are very annoying, and he will even begin to reconsider the relationship between the two of you.
So, any relationship is meant to be maintained. So what do you have to do to eat a man? Whether it is before marriage or after marriage, if you want to really eat a man, you can do two things.
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First thing: Growing up with men.
Women are always less enterprising than men. Of course, not all women are like this, but in the hearts of most women, if she is allowed to choose between career and family, she will not hesitate to choose family. Especially after having a child, the person who originally shouted to be a strong woman, after having a child, when the child needed a mother, the woman instantly forgot her original ambition and completely became a daughter slave.
In this way, many women will forget to improve themselves, and some people have never even thought of improving themselves. They felt that her husband could earn money, and there was no shortage of her salary at home, so they stayed at home with peace of mind, she was convinced that her husband would raise her for a lifetime, she naively thought that she had children for him, and took care of the housework for him, then she was a great hero, if he really abandoned himself, then he had no conscience.
But whether a man has a conscience or not, sometimes even he himself is not clear. Maybe he never wanted to be a scumbag with no conscience, he also wanted to grow old with his wife, and he was grateful for his wife's efforts, but these things could not affect his heart.
Sometimes, the human mind is out of its control. Men like beautiful people and things, and when he goes to a higher place through his own efforts and sees a more beautiful scenery, he may not be willing to climb down and look at the scenery at a lower place.
At that time, he may still think that the scenery in the lower places is beautiful, but when he has seen more beautiful and magnificent scenery, and then looking back, he will only feel that he was really unseen. Once a person has such a thought, he will not think about turning back.
So, when a man has a successful career and can see those excellent women outside every day, will he be willing to look back at you again? Unless you have also become a better version of yourself and let him feel that you are also excellent, then he may still be willing to look back at you. When you constantly improve yourself and become more and more excellent, he may also have a sense of crisis, so you really eat him.
Women should understand a truth, you don't believe too much in the feelings between you, not that the feelings between you are not true, but the feelings of this thing with the passage of time and changes in the environment, there will always be some changes, you have to find a way to make this feeling not degenerate, and this way is to grow up with men.
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Second thing: know how to respect men.
Whether before or after marriage, if you want to really eat a man, you must know how to respect men. This truth is not difficult to understand, but many women have not done it. They never thought deeply about the problem. Nor has there been an in-depth study of the psychology of men. Therefore, such a simple and easy-to-understand problem has been ignored by women.
In today's society, when two people are together, the woman will feel that the relationship between the two of them is the most intimate, so she will behave very casually, and will not use honorifics against her own men as she did in the old society in the past, and regard men as her own heaven.
Now women's attitude towards men is to make a call, if there is any dissatisfaction, then say it all, if you are in a hurry, "spitting out the fragrance" is normal. Women do this because they feel that if a man loves her, he must let her, and they have never considered a man's face and self-esteem.
It can be said that women have never thought about that aspect, they only feel that men let women be right, women occasionally do a very normal job, their own women, men should not be coaxed? From a woman's point of view, there really isn't a problem with doing so.
But looking at this from a man's point of view, this is a big problem. Women because they feel that men are close, because they feel that men are their own performances, in the eyes of men, you do not respect him, you look down on him, you trample on his self-esteem in death, you don't even know to save face for him outside, let him feel that he lives a very small life.
You have nothing to do with those performances, at the beginning, even if men feel a little annoyed, they will also think that you are a little cute, but after a long time, the rest is only annoying. Men don't think your performances are cute, they just think you're a, annoying trickster.
He may not be very expressive, or he may be too lazy to say anything, so your relationship is still maintained, but your relationship is not as good as before. Such a change, you yourself may feel it, but you will only think that this is a normal transition of feelings between couples or between couples, you think that every relationship must have such a process, but the real situation is that men can't stand you anymore.
In a relationship, whether before or after marriage, men need a respect. You have to respect his personality, you must also respect his habits, and you must respect his ideas and abilities.
Only in this way can a man stand up outside and be a man who stands tall in the sky, only in this way will he be willing to stay by your side all the time, even if there is no love, only that comfort will make him reluctant to leave you.
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So, if a woman wants to eat a man, then first grow up with the man, don't be left behind by him, and make him unwilling to look back at you. You have to stand shoulder to shoulder with him, so that he can see you on the side of his head, only in this way, you are equal, only in this way will it be possible for you to continue.
Otherwise, sooner or later, the party that is behind will become the party that is abandoned. Only by becoming a better version of herself can women not be afraid of men's betrayal. Because your excellence will make the man have a sense of crisis, once the man has a sense of crisis, then he will try to maintain this relationship. He will be more nervous about this relationship than you are, so you can eat him.
If you want to eat a man, in addition to growing up with men, you must also know how to respect men. Many women will not care about this, after encountering betrayal or abandonment, women will only feel that they are not beautiful enough, or the man himself is a scumbag, never looking for problems in themselves.
But in fact, many couples or couples will be separated, is because men have not been the slightest respect from women, when two people are together, women's attitude towards him, let him feel that he is a complete loser, this relationship makes him feel very depressed, so he came to the step of breaking up.
Therefore, if a woman wants to eat a man, it is first of all to grow up with men, and secondly, to know how to respect men, only by doing these two things, men will be reluctant to leave you.
Text/Fenghua