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The meaning of the word green tea in Baidu Encyclopedia is: pure on the outside, dirty on the inside.
I think this is a bit biased, the current green tea behavior, green tea routines have been too many to be strange.
It can only be said that this type of girl has clear goals, high emotional intelligence, knows what she wants, and is good at active competition.
Friend Momo is a high-level green tea, indeed the appearance is pure and has nothing to say, and it looks very quiet.
Good-tempered, talkative, and loved by people, but often jealous and ostracized by the same sex.
Momo is not the kind of green tea that only spends men's money, she is good at taking the initiative, does not mind kneeling to lick each other first, the heart is strong, and the boy WeChat will never be shy.
Moreover, she can always get better boys than her.
Do we think that girls with straightforward personalities and sincerity will win men's hearts?
Those gengzhi girls who scolded green tea could not hide their words in their hearts and could not contain their emotions.
The message reply is slow to scold, the negative energy is bursting, every day regardless of the other party's feelings pour bitter water, often blacked out and deleted, or break up, will not show female charm, only pressure remains.
Momo said: "Many girls who go straight to the scene are often emotional black holes, exposing their strong sense of need regardless of the occasion.
And she just knows how to regulate her emotions, does not mean that she will dig into other people's corners.
When you fall in love, you must also pay attention to ways and methods.
A jealous green tea is only related to herself, does not mean that all good-tempered, high emotional intelligence girls are green tea.
Some people say that "green tea" and "green tea woman" are two different concept words.
Green tea refers to a girl with high emotional intelligence, who can be a person, and a low-key person, and the green tea woman is the kind of woman who will use means, pretend to be weak, and be good at vicious competition.
Whether or not to participate in vicious competition is important, not all green tea girls can accept digging their own walls.
Or show weakness and charm everywhere, cultivate multiple spare tires, and look at other people's boyfriends.
This reminds me of being small, growing up together, like sisters, but secretly, sometimes full of competition.
For a long time, there was no contact to suddenly greet the situation, the front laid a bunch of homely things, and the back was intended to show off the new boyfriend with good conditions.
When I fell in love at the beginning of the year, I had a hard time making a particularly handsome boy, but I was too sunny to smile.
My girlfriend kept saying that he was like a scumbag, and in order to protect myself, he advised me to stop the loss in time.
But with a plain appearance, I had a hard time attracting each other by relying on my cheerful and enthusiastic personality, and it was really difficult for me to give up.
Too young, and swayed by people, afraid of losing the girlfriend friendship, a thought difference, feel that the girlfriend is greater than the object, so choose to break up.
After the breakup, she was miserable and lost her soul for many months, and as a result, she added his contact information later.
Since then, the problems in the relationship will never be confided in the same sex again, avoiding encountering green tea again.
Sometimes they will act empathetic, value friendship with you, or may secretly do it for their own selfishness.
People with strong jealousy often do not have a sense of morality, as long as they want, they can get it by means.
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Green tea is jealous of the performance you will have
1. Release availability to your boyfriend
Knowing that you have an object, after meeting and finding that your object is good, she is also interested, regardless of the friendship of girlfriends, secretly handing, of course, she will not be blatant.
Instead, it is a retreat to advance, and is good at using the white lotus flower.
What is a "White Lotus"? It is to be soft and weak in front of a man to stimulate his desire to protect,
If because of her, you quarrel with the object, she will say in front of the object: "You explain to your sister that I am pestering you, it has nothing to do with you, don't hurt my feelings because of me."
Sister people are usually very good, may just be a moment to drill the horn tip, do you want me and my sister to explain, we are just ordinary friends, sorry, I like you to bring trouble to your life, I really don't want to, sorry! ”
The man's heart is soft, and he feels that she is innocent, after all, there is nothing wrong with loving someone.
No matter how many ambiguous opposite sexes and spare tires, in the eyes of green tea, it is all love!
Secondly, in front of you, you will intentionally or unintentionally belittle your object, indicating that she does not respect you and does not respect your vision!
People who point out or talk about your life choices are uncomfortable, and people who are full of competitive awareness should stay away.
2. Love to compare
At the beginning, you first came into contact, and the other party was friendly, kind, and impeccable in temperament and talk.
Since becoming more intimate, she has to compare everything with you, and even use it for fun, whether it is an object, career, academics, other people's likes, she does not consciously think of you.
Good times are righteous, but you can't be better than her.
Enjoy using your stuff and take it for granted, without a sense of boundaries.
If you talk about her, she will say, "We're all best friends, I just ran out of money, by the way, use yours." ”
"I know you're the best person, and you're usually the one who's the best for me!" Oops, next time I'll pay you back, just the last time! ”
After expressing your best in various ways, I said to other friends that you are the one who cut the door the most.
In short, it makes you feel difficult to be a person, interpersonal relationships become complicated, and you need to work hard to maintain to prove yourself, which is not the right feeling, friendship, love are the same.
3. Don't care about your face
Vanity is a trait of green teas.
They may have been hurt by men and become emotionally indifferent out of self-preservation. The sense of purpose is very strong, but on the surface it looks harmless to people and animals.
If she intentionally or unintentionally reveals your small shortcomings on a crowded occasion, it makes you feel uncomfortable, such as: she snored last night, and her voice was so loud!
Her feet stink all over the room! She doesn't like to wash her hair, and she doesn't need to fall in love.
This kind of obviously targeted joke comes out of their mouths, which is equivalent to directly standing against you.
At this time, it can't be said that you are jealous, but more like it is deliberate.
A friend who doesn't care about your feelings, but has to get along with her, can only stay away from her psychologically, she is just one of many relationships to consume you.
Green tea with a high rank will not show the real knife and gun, but hide the knife in the smile, but if the relationship is too close, the intention will become more and more obvious.
Living in the pile of women, the topic is always inseparable from shopping, eating and drinking, comparing, men.
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How to avoid the jealousy and crushing of green tea?
1. Take a detour
The so-called contest and entanglement are often nothing more than their own desire to win or lose.
Even if it is a momentary outage, it takes a lot of time to fight with it, and if the other party's means are high, it is both face loss and time-consuming.
It is not as good as the Buddhist system, in life, unfortunate to meet such a friend, it is good to be a nod of friends.
Leave more time to ourselves, no matter who we deal with, we will ultimately have to face only ourselves.
Even if the personal relationship is good, her comparison and vanity do not determine your value.
2. Identify your own kind
People should know themselves and know what kind of people they want to be friends with.
Sometimes, we can also get a kind of intimacy and love from friends of the same sex, but excessive taking, there will be contradictions and conflicts.
If you yourself also love to compare, vanity, and waste time, then you will encounter the same kind of people, and you will be happy in the environment of mutual struggle.
People are divided into groups, and the last thing that stays around must be a comfortable friendship that has not been deliberately maintained for a long time.
Instead of a mess of interpersonal relationships, complaining about others every day, falling into such a situation requires self-reflection.
When you encounter a magnetic field that does not fit, either you are far away from her, or she is far away from you.
3. Mask friends
Workplaces, study occasions, life occasions, sometimes we have to live with a green tea that we don't like, then we can also be a masquerade friend.
When meeting, polite respect can be, if she is troublesome first, it may as if she has not heard, for a long time, naturally there is no intention of entanglement.
In short, don't be sad and angry for people who don't deserve it.
Many times, we complain about the green tea in the workplace, the green tea around the boyfriend, the best way is to show respect.
Maybe what everyone shows is only part of her life experience, and new words on the Internet are endless.
Labels don't classify people very well, and in addition to green tea, there are words like scumbag, scumbag, and fishing woman.
Because the appearance of various people has also enriched our lives.
Which office does not have a little gossip, and in which person's life, there is no storm caused by people's words. In the face of people who are not suitable for deep friendship, we choose to respect and then stay away.
Author Nannan, focus on the field of emotions to create and share, with emotions to communicate with you and my soul, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.