Writer Zhang Xiaoxian said: "When love fades away, it is like a high-speed car on the highway, and it is impossible to stop. ”
The beginning of love is often the wind and snow, but when it disappears, it can only leave a piece of yellow leaves. And this process of gradual demise has actually experienced a lot of daily bits and pieces that you can't see.
A person may like you because of your appearance, and may also fall in love with you at first sight because of your talent. But when the two of you begin to contact and interact, the personalities, thoughts, and behaviors of both sides will cause the love between you to no longer be as firm as it was at the beginning.
A person who loves you suddenly changes his heart, not suddenly decided, but these three hidden dangers hidden in your love, causing him to decide to give up on you.
People who love you deeply, suddenly change their hearts, for a reason
The person who loves you suddenly feels like he has lost his self-esteem
When Azu broke up with Momo, she realized how many times she had hurt each other in this relationship.
At first, it was Azu who took the initiative to pursue Momo, so she has always ignored Azu's efforts, and many times only asked the other party to consider her own feelings.
When Azu drove three hours to meet her, Momo couldn't see the exhaustion in her boyfriend's eyes and would only complain about why he came so late. Azu complained to her about the pressure on her work, hoping to be comforted by her girlfriend, but Momo only said "Oh" and perfunctorily dropped the other party's grievances.
Azu said that he had lost too much self-esteem in this relationship and could not hold on any longer.
When you keep ignoring the other person's feelings, you are already pushing him out.
There is no greater sorrow than death than silence. It doesn't matter if you are ignored once or twice, the most feared thing is that the person you love has not been able to take into account your feelings.
The person who loves you suddenly feels like it's just wishful thinking
Take the "Wang Lihong Incident" that made a lot of noise on the Internet some time ago.
When his wife Li Lianglei saw Wang Lihong's true face, she still wholeheartedly paid for the family. In order to protect the harmony of the family, she even stopped interfering in Wang Lihong's relationship with other members of the opposite sex, and agreed to let him be free and do what he wanted to do.
But these concessions were finally exchanged for Wang Lihong's divorce from her on the grounds of finding true love.
This also caused Li Lianglei to be unable to sit still, not only was she desperate to leave Wang Lihong, but even exposed all his unsightly behavior on the Internet.
In the feelings, I am not afraid of loving the wrong person, I am afraid of my own wishful thinking, and finally I am reduced to the end of giving everything but getting nothing.
Therefore, when someone wants to leave you, it must be that his heart has suffered many times, and finally slowly diluted his feelings for you before he can make the decision to leave you.
People who love you, it's a little tiring to pay too long
Feelings require two people to pay each other in order to maintain a long-term relationship. If the other person asks you to watch a movie, then you can ask the other person to drink milk tea. If he gives you a birthday present, then you can hand him a holiday red envelope. If he picks you up from work today, you can bring him breakfast tomorrow...
There are backs and forths in order to break the thread.
If you only enjoy the efforts of others and ignore the part that you should also bear, then the person you interact with will feel tired. Just like you keep giving gifts to people, but the other party does not say a word of "thank you", your heart will also be cold.
No one will like someone for no reason, and no one will suddenly dislike you. Many of the distinctions are foreshadowings that have been buried for a long time, but you have never noticed them.
A man who was originally deeply in love with you suddenly said one day that he didn't love you anymore. You don't have to be surprised, you don't have to be angry, think carefully about the process of your interaction, and you can naturally get the answer.