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Life is impermanent, once with a beautiful dream, despite the opposition of her parents, thousands of miles to run to love, today life is still good?
Some people marry far away and reap love, and some people marry far away but only reap sadness and regret. Just like this girl in Inner Mongolia, after marrying in Zhejiang, she divorced and returned to her mother's house to live temporarily, only to find that she had become an outsider.
Past Events:
For love, the brave Inner Mongolian girl went to a distant place, but was divorced at the age of 40.
According to the woman, she is a girl from Inner Mongolia, and like many young girls, she hopes for beautiful love and marries Zhejiang despite her parents' objections.
Married for more than ten years, she has set up a stall, worked as a waiter, and also worked as a small boss, and is a woman who is not afraid of hardship and ability.
I thought that how much suffering I could get in exchange for how much happiness, but I failed along the way, and my husband, who had sworn to protect her for a lifetime, also left her.
In desperation, she had to take her two children back to her mother's house in Inner Mongolia to live temporarily.
After returning home, he did not forget to give his parents 10,000 yuan, but his parents handed over the 10,000 yuan to his brother.
In the past few days in her mother's family, although her sister-in-law took her in, she said to her: If you marry out, you are an outsider, and there is no need to come back often.
But the woman did not give up thinking that no matter what, my parents here are my home, and my heart has always been with you.
However, the next few days made her understand what it was for a married girl to spill water. She felt like an outsider everywhere in this home.
Even her own parents turned a blind eye to her brother-in-law's indifference, and she had no choice but to pack her bags and go out to work.
Netizens have said: You are the stupidest woman!
Netizens said: You are the stupidest woman, what do you do when you go back to your mother's house? If you have money to rent your own house, bring your own children, and go back to see and take care of them when your parents need them.
The woman was not convinced, saying: After all, I was born to my mother.
Some netizens also said: Don't give money in the future, create the world by yourself, make more money to buy a house, and live your own life.
Some netizens said: They all say that the love of parents is selfless. When I grew up, I learned that the love of my parents also had a plan. As long as there is a son in the family, the daughter is the water that is spilled, from the time you walk out of that door, you have no home, and the mother's home has long been no longer a woman's retreat.
Older netizens can also understand the difficulties of parents, saying: Parents are also involuntary. When I am older, I have no ability, I am afraid that my son will not live a good life, I am afraid that my daughter-in-law will get divorced, and I am afraid that my grandson will suffer. Hurt the son, hurt the grandson, the daughter grows up, married out is someone else's family, not the family of the family, the reality is like this.
Even if we don't want to admit it anymore, the facts tell us: this netizen is right! Parents also have the difficulties of parents, hurting their sons and grandsons, afraid that their sons will not live well, and only their own daughters can be wronged.
Some people may say: Don't you not listen if you don't let you marry far away? Now how did it come back?
The author believes that this is not a matter of far-distance marriage at all, even if she does not marry far-away, there is still a risk of divorce, and after divorce, she still cannot go back to her mother's house.
This is a traditional custom formed for thousands of years since ancient times, the daughter is spilled after marriage, there is no boy in the family, it is better to say, there are brothers or younger brothers in the family, most of them can not go back.
Parents' concerns are just like netizens said: they are afraid that their daughters will come back and affect their sons' lives.
So, where is the woman's way out? The author believes that there are the following three methods for reference:
First, keep your eyes open before marriage and choose a good partner. After getting married, run your marriage well, and don't let yourself end up being homeless in middle age and losing your children.
Second, do not be out of touch with society because of taking children, so that you can always maintain a state of making money, do so, even if the marriage is risky, you can always maintain your ability to resist risks.
Third, if the economic conditions are OK, prepare a house for yourself, do not need to be too big, enough to live with your own children. With your own home, even if there is a problem in the marriage, you don't have to go back to your mother's house to see people's faces.
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