Introduction: The mother-in-law bullies the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law will definitely have a time to resist.
Unmarried women are often treasures in the palms of their parents, and they are afraid to melt in their mouths and afraid to be frightened in their hands.
As for the married woman, her life role has an additional wife and daughter-in-law, but she does not "enjoy" the "treatment" brought by these two roles.
When he met ma Baonan's husband, no matter what happened, he only listened to his mother's words.
What his mother said was what he wanted, and he didn't care about his wife's feelings at all.
When she meets a strong mother-in-law, her daughter-in-law is like a grass in her mind, which is both a work of inheritance and a free nanny.
Why the old saying goes, "Women are afraid of marrying the wrong man", the reason is more or less the same.
After netizen Chen Xi married her husband, she had to serve her in-laws every time she went to her in-laws' house
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Mouth people eat.
After she couldn't bear it, one of her actions freed herself from it. Friends who knew about it all praised her and joked that she had finally figured it out.
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Father's support.
Chen Xi and her husband are graduate students, and they have officially established a relationship in the next semester. Both of them are not well-off, and similar experiences in their childhoods make them feel sorry for each other. My husband once said to Chen Xi
"Uncle and aunt don't have a house yet, and when we graduate from graduate school, we'll buy them a house first, and then we'll buy a house again." ”
It was this sentence that touched Chen Xi for a long time.
After the mother learned of the son-in-law's family situation, she was somewhat reluctant in her heart, "Daughter, marriage is a major event in a lifetime, you have to think about it clearly."
Our family has no money, his family is so poor, you two want to live a good life in the future can only rely on your own, the two families can not help ah. ”
The father said, "I admire the boy." Eat bitterly, and be a superior person. Lin Zexu also said,
If my descendants are like me, what is the use of keeping money? My children and grandchildren are not as good as me, what is the use of keeping money?
No matter how much money parents leave for their children, it is useless, and in the end, it is still up to the real ability of two people to stand firm. Both of them are highly educated graduates, and buying a house and a car is only a matter of time or evening. Girl, Dad supports you. ”
With his father's support, Chen Xi was much more down-to-earth.
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, the strength of the mother-in-law.
The year after graduating from graduate school, after the two worked steadily, they received a marriage license.
It is ridiculous to say that for various reasons, Chen Xi did not see her mother-in-law once before marriage.
She just listened to her husband chanting, "My mother is particularly approachable", "My mother brought me up and suffered a lot", "In the future, we will be filial to my mother together".
Filial piety comes first, and Chen Xi recognizes this. Although she has not officially met her mother-in-law, whether it is in appearance, work, and income, she and her husband are on a par, and I believe that her mother-in-law will not be dissatisfied with herself.
During the Eleventh Golden Week, Chen Xi and her husband each took annual leave in the company, plus the seven-day holiday of the eleventh, and they were ready to return to their hometown for the wedding. The first time he saw his mother-in-law, Chen Xi still had some trepidation in his heart.
Although she and her husband are already a legal couple, they have never seen the true face of lushan of their mother-in-law, and Chen Xi feels that she is a bit unjustified.
After a small day of tossing and turning, the train turned to a car, and Chen Xi finally arrived at her in-laws' house. As soon as he entered the house, Chen Xi found that the room was full of people, and the smoke in the house was thick, and there were many people who smoked. Chen Xi originally wanted to sit down with her mother-in-law and have a good chat, who knows, the first thing her mother-in-law said to her was,
"It's not early, so you can cook and go." We have a lot of family, relatives and friends
Mouthman, you remember to cook a few more dishes. ”
The mother-in-law had an order, and Chen Xi had to obey. Chen Xi wanted her husband to help her in the kitchen, and her mother-in-law called her husband to the house to chat, leaving Chen Xi alone in the kitchen.
After more than two hours, Chen Xi finally made eight dishes and one soup. After everything was ready, Chen Xi prepared to sit down with a bowl of rice to eat, and the mother-in-law said,
"Daughter-in-law, you are an outsider who cannot come to the table. When we're done eating, you'll eat some leftovers. ”
Chen Xi wanted to flip the table, thinking that she had just passed the door, and she didn't know what the specific situation of the in-laws' family was, so she chose to be patient.
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, daughter-in-law's rebellion.
Before and after the wedding, Chen Xi's life was like this. Chen Xi complained to her husband, who said, "Our hometown is like this, preferring sons to daughters, as long as you know that I hurt you." Besides,
At the end of the year, we can come back for a few days, you will behave well in front of my mother, what is wronged? ”
Chen Xi felt that she was very wronged, her mother-in-law did not regard her as her own, and even her husband let her tolerate and compromise in front of her mother-in-law. Why?
After finally returning to the city, Chen Xi felt that he could breathe a sigh of relief. Couples do not have any major problems in their daily relationship, and it is normal to have a little friction occasionally.
In the years that followed, Chen Xi had to serve her family every time she returned to her in-laws' house
The mouth eats, and she can only eat some leftovers at a time.
For the sake of her husband, Chen Xi was repeatedly patient. She wanted to explode countless times, and she put up with the thought of what her husband had said to her.
The two finally saved enough for the down payment of the house, Chen Xi was very excited, she said to her husband,
"When are we going to show my parents the house?"
Husband, "We buy a house, what does it have to do with your parents?" ”
Chen Xi said, "Have you forgotten what you said before?" Didn't you say, buy a house for my parents first, and then we'll buy a house again? ”
Husband shrugged,
"That's talking about playing, do you really believe it?" Buying a house is a big deal, my mother said, the house book can only write my name, after my salary to repay the mortgage, your salary as a daily expense. That's it. ”
Looking at the tone and expression of her husband's speech, Chen Xi felt that there was no room for negotiation at all. The two of them looked at the house for a while one after another, and Chen Xi excused himself as not satisfied, until before the Spring Festival, the house was not finalized.
Chen Xi and her husband went back to their in-laws' house for the Spring Festival.
Chinese New Year's Eve night, Chen Xi served her in-laws as usual
The mouth eats, but when she stirs vegetables, she deliberately adds two large spoonfuls of salt to it, and this is true for each dish.
The mother-in-law spat out two bites of the dish, and she asked Chen Xi if she meant it. Chen Xi replied, "Yes, I did it on purpose." I am also spoiled at home, so why should I serve your family to eat and drink?
Every time I can only eat leftovers, have you considered my feelings?
I tell you, I've had enough. And also
Husband, I'm going to divorce you, the down payment of the house is also half of mine, you don't want to use my savings to buy your house. Ruyi's abacus is loud enough, but I'm not stupid.
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After the Spring Festival, Chen Xi and her husband went through divorce procedures, and she was relieved.
When encountering such a selfish husband and mother-in-law, divorce early and early relief.
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The wisdom of women.
Chen Xi has her own problems in this failed marriage. first
Before receiving the certificate, she should go to see the true face of her mother-in-law, do not listen to her husband say how good her mother-in-law is, which son's mother is not perfect in his eyes?
But which daughter-in-law's mother-in-law can be perfect? If Chen Xi felt that her mother-in-law was strong, domineering, and difficult to get along with before marriage, maybe they would not get a license.
Second, the first time Chen Xi went to her mother-in-law's house, she did it
She also acquiesced in two things in front of her mother-in-law: first, she was an outsider who could not be on the table; second, she could only eat leftovers after hard cooking. Since you can't accept it, why don't you clearly show your bottom line?
This kind of thing can only happen the first time, and if it happens again for the second time, it can only be blamed on Chen Xi himself.
There's a saying that goes something like this:
How others treat you is your own acquiescence.
Chen Xi's last approach was quite relieved, although she was happy, but it was inevitable that her heart would hurt when she remembered the relationship between the two of them for many years. But
Chen Xi still managed to stop the loss in time, which is also a kind of wisdom for her.
Today's topic
If you were Chen Xi, how long could you endure?
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