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Some time ago, I heard a word "family internal friction" and felt very deeply. So what exactly is household friction? What are the implications for ourselves and for our children?
People's hearts are united, Tarzan moves, doing things is like this, and the family is even more so. It's not terrible that a family is poor, we've seen many ordinary people, families working together, thriving careers, and children growing up to be very good.
However, some families are originally very wealthy families, because of the problems within the family, the family is separated from morality, the career is stagnant and decaying, the children are not successful, and the prosperous and developed families are gradually declining. Therefore, at this time, the word "family internal friction" appeared.
What is household friction? Let's say, it's the strength of the family, like a tug-of-war, you drag to the east, I want to go to the Syrah. Everyone expends a lot of energy, and the result is that they don't create a single bit of useful value.
If a family, whether it is between husband and wife or mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, is in such a state for a long time, the family will sooner or later go into decline, and if it occurs in educating children, the growth of children will also have problems.
Family internal friction, children become "victims"
On a sunny morning, Bao Ma Li's family was arguing again. Because today is Monday, the children have to go to school, Li Li got up an hour in advance, made a rich breakfast for the children, and hoped that the children could go to school on Monday with positive energy.
However, this Chinese and Western breakfast was thrown to the ground by the younger son, who said, "Why did I get up so early, my brother is still sleeping." ”
Also, the eldest son and grandmother have a room, and it is early time to get up. The mother had already reminded her, but the grandmother said: "You have to wake up the child so early, not sleeping enough will affect the child's long body, I will call him in a while." ”
The younger brother overturned the meal, and the mother was about to criticize him, and the grandmother said, "Don't blame the child, what kind of rice are you cooking?" Children don't like to eat at all, or I will make it separately. ”
It's always like this in the family, and when the mother disciplines the child, the grandmother comes out to stop it. When mom and dad communicated, Grandma came out to her son. As a result, the husband was too lazy to do it, never participated in housework, and the two sons became lawless, complaining to their grandparents as long as they were wronged. Mom is getting more and more irritable, and grandparents are complaining more and more.
Therefore, Li Li considered buying a house and moving out alone, and the family wanted to stop such family internal friction. There is no warm family environment, there is no unified educational direction, and it is also very scary for the growth of children.
If family members can not always have the same values, the same direction of effort, will not develop in a good direction. This is true of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even more so in the relationship between husband and wife
If you have such problems between family members, what can you do to minimize the impact on your child?
Doing so minimizes the impact on your child
Between family members, the interests of the family should be put first.
A family is the closest person, and we are both individuals and a whole. There should be an ideological concept between families that is both prosperous and one is lost. In terms of educating children, developing careers and other major events, the first thing to think about is to put the interests of the family in the first place.
If the family is independent and only considers their own gains and losses, the whole family will become more and more decayed. There are problems with the child's education, and the economic conditions are slowly declining, affecting the lives of everyone in the family.
We must continue to improve ourselves through self-learning.
The growth of a person's character is caused by factors such as the growth environment, childhood experience, and self-learning. Therefore, if there is no good communication between husband and wife, and one person is always stubbornly insisting on his own ideas, or wants to change another person, the tug-of-war between the family will not stop, because it is almost impossible to change an adult.
No matter who it is, husband or wife, can not give up self-learning, through their own vision to broaden, to change their emotions, way of doing things, and the relationship with family members will become more and more harmonious.
Isn't there a saying? Treating your significant other as a friend may be much better. Being a person full of positive energy yourself can also gradually infect the people around you and become more and more positive.
Big things are not ambiguous, small things are not cared about, and the relationship between families is improved.
The mother's emotions are the background of a child's life, and the family environment has a great impact on the child's personality growth. If you always quarrel with your husband because of a small matter, have conflicts with your mother-in-law, and shout at your child, your child's mental health will leave a shadow, and your child's personality may also become inferior and sensitive.
A wise mother, when getting along with her children, husband, and mother-in-law, there will be absolutely no ambiguity in big things, and small things will not be calculated.
Problems that do not touch the bottom line can be solved through good consultation, there is no need to argue hoarsely, tolerance and understanding are the basis for harmonious coexistence.
Good communication between family members is very important.
For the same thing, the tone of our speech is different, and the effect of expression is also different. So, if you're angry, it's best not to discuss things. Calm down for 15 minutes, and then communicate with your family, the effect will be much better. Communicate more at home in a calm, kind, and inclusive tone, and the family atmosphere will get better and better.
Sometimes the family is like a company, we need to run a good business, and good children are the best performance.
Interactive topic: Mothers, have you achieved a united front with your husband and mother-in-law?