Gu Lei's unexpected death detonated Feng Xiaoqin' long-standing feud with the Gu family.
In the face of this great change, everyone only sees right and wrong, not right and wrong. Many people accuse Gu Qingyu, as an older sister, she repeatedly points fingers at her brother and sister-in-law. There are also many people who accuse Feng Xiaoqin of doing things too extremely, always threatening to leave home.
Accidents are always unexpected emergencies, but behind the accidents, there are inextricable relationships with everyone.
Gu Qingyu and Feng Xiaoqin, they both tried to influence Gu Lei from their own perspective. However, one treats his brother as a child, one treats his husband as a son, in the name of being good for Gu Lei, but no one has ever really cared about Gu Lei's feelings, so everyone looks at others from their own perspective, they will not feel that they have a problem, but they have forgotten to respect these two words.
Coddling that responds to every need is not advisable.
If you don't say, just from the looks, Gu Qingyu and Gu Lei stand together, and no one knows that they are brothers and sisters and twins.
Gu Qingyu not only has a good face, but also has quite extraordinary abilities, but in comparison, his younger brother Gu Lei has almost no way to compare with everything.
Whether it is studying when he was a child or working after he grew up, Gu Lei inexplicably fell into the strange circle of "hard work without regret" created by his family, and this practice of not being very demanding of Gu Lei became the beginning of his muddy nightmares.
The work is not good, as the sister of Gu Qingyu began to help; there are problems in life, as the sister of Gu Qingyu to supplement the family. Gu Qingyu, who is determined to kill in the workplace, once it comes to her brother's affairs, she completely loses her sense of proportion, and is only devoted to her brother, not for her brother's family.
In Gu Qingyu's eyes, Gu Lei was too honest. As long as it is what Feng Xiaoqin said, Gu Lei rarely refused, not only that, in order to make Feng Xiaoqin happy, even if he learned piggy barking in front of his family, he would not mind.
The more Gu Lei did this, the more uneasy Gu Qingyu became. Such a powerful woman as Feng Xiaoqin, her brother is not an opponent at all. However, the reason why Gu Lei has become what he is today, in the final analysis, is largely Gu Qingyu's problem.
When Gu Qingyu was a child, before her mother died, she held Gu Qingyu and Gu Lei's hands and cried all the time, saying nothing. When Gu Qingyu told her mother that she would always take good care of her brother, her mother smiled and closed her eyes.
For Gu Qingyu, who is still a child, this picture is unforgettable,
She fulfilled her promise to her mother, as long as she can do what she can, Gu Qingyu will never be half vague, and will do her best to help her brother. However, that promise had become Gu Qingyu's shackles. As long as her brother has problems, she does not have the principle to help. Over time, Gu Lei has lost the responsibility of taking on things.
Once this perception is accepted, many people will begin to rely too much on others, especially at home. On the surface, the Gu family listens to Gu Qingyu's advice, and such a loss-averse psychology can avoid detours.
People who are used to others helping themselves have forgotten a very important cognition: Where in the world is there a shortcut? Everyone's life has to go by itself. Maybe there is a shortcut in front of you, maybe you can temporarily see the light in front of you, but what about later?
The forced strength is the most destructive.
There are two reasons why a person becomes strong: First, there is capital. Just like Gu Qingyu. Second, it was forced to do so, like Feng Xiaoqin.
In the impression of many people, foreign daughters-in-law, especially living with the elderly, will always more or less reduce their sense of existence, try to tolerate big and small things, and create a family harmony, but Feng Xiaoqin is just the opposite.
Why?
This is directly related to Feng Xiaoqin's inner uneasiness.
From small places to big cities, especially married to big cities, in people's cognition, this is originally happy and happy. But when the fresh feeling passes, it will be boundless anxiety.
For example, a two-bedroom house for 30 years costs 2.5 million yuan, such as a luxury brand scarf sent by the eldest sister-in-law is the husband's salary for several months, such as the school bag of a well-known sports brand that the child wants is the family's ration money for several days.
This most realistic contrast made Feng Xiaoqin's heart begin to panic.
However, no one can share for her, her husband can't support the wall and doesn't want to make progress, and the in-laws are wary of themselves everywhere. What Feng Xiaoqin can do is to quickly integrate herself into this big environment and make herself look strong.
The pressure of the outside world will make people mature quickly, and Feng Xiaoqin quickly adapted to the environment of the big city. But gradually, she slowly transformed this pressure into a strong force for her family, the most obvious of which was gu Lei.
Gu Lei, who has been spoiled since he was a child, does not have a clear plan for life and future, which makes Feng Xiaoqin very anxious. Seeing that the child was getting bigger and bigger, Gu Lei was not in the slightest hurry, because in Gu Lei's heart, he had already been accustomed to going to his sister for help in anything. But in Feng Xiaoqin's view, this is not a normal logic for thinking about problems. Therefore, she was not satisfied with Gu Lei's current performance, forcing him to participate in the betting meeting, at least to take advantage of his youth to make a guarantee for the future.
There is nothing wrong with such an idea, now the old people are in, the eldest sister-in-law is not married, life continues so much, still the years are quiet. But these are not within her control, and if anything happens in the future, it will be devastating for her little family.
A good intention does not necessarily lead to good results. Feng Xiaoqin managed Gu Lei like a child, and the training class was to be opened, and as long as there was a trace of doubt, he would immediately make a video call. Such a seemingly powerful method is the incomprehension of the family and the dissatisfaction of the husband. So much so that a series of chemical reactions were produced.
In fact, whether it was for herself or Gu Lei, Feng Xiaoqin was forced to do it, but she did not know this way of pulling up seedlings to promote growth, from the moment she had this idea, she was doomed to have no good ending in the end.
Write at the end.
Gu Lei's unexpected death made the conflict between Feng Xiaoqin and the Gu family more direct and on the table.
Let's expand on the reasons behind this tragedy, Gu Qingyu or Feng Xiaoqin, are they wrong?
There seems to be nothing wrong with it, from their point of view, for Gu Lei's good.
It's just that everyone only sees themselves, but no one cares about Gu Lei.
Man, all contradictions are due to obsession, and obsession is ultimately just inability to convince yourself to face the present calmly.
Mr. Yang Dai once said:
Everyone will have an unusually difficult time, the embarrassment of life, the frustration of work, the pressure of academics, the trepidation of love can not last forever, survive, life will suddenly open; can not survive, time will also teach you, how to shake hands with them, so do not be afraid.