After my divorce, I lived alone, now I am tormented by illness every day, my heart is often suffocated, after getting sick, no one in my mother's family cares about me, i was hospitalized many times a year ago, that is, when I was going to do cardiac contrast surgery, I had to be accompanied by someone around, but my parents and two younger brothers said that they could not come.
I am a post-60s, the eldest in the family, and I have two younger brothers below. From the moment I was sensible, I felt the atmosphere of son preference. No matter what conflict I had with my two younger siblings, it was always me who was beaten.
After graduating from high school, I was admitted to college and got a decent job. Dad wrote down all the expenses for me to go to college in a book, a total of 1600 yuan, shortly after graduation he asked me to pay living expenses, and then I got married, he did not accompany the dowry for a penny, I saved up money to buy a dowry
A few years after getting married, I was divorced, and my family did not support me with the children, but I was reluctant and desperately tried to fight for the custody of the children, and finally did not succeed. Because the child is not by my side, I put all my energy into my mother's house, and when I have time, I will come to my mother's house to dedicate, but my father does not even want me to eat at home, insinuation that your family does not have a pot?
Over the years, I have unilaterally helped them, I have encountered great difficulties, and my mother's family is a dime. My brother's children went to school to contact school to divide classes, go to college I paid for it, the most regrettable thing is that my brother got married, I gave 500 yuan, that was in the 90s, I had a month's salary, but my father didn't let me attend the wedding, let me stay at home to see the house.
I was divorced, I was wronged, but I didn't say anything, and then I bought a house, I wanted to manage them to borrow some money, they didn't borrow a penny, and finally I was 2,000 yuan short, saying that I borrowed in the morning and repaid in the afternoon.
Parents do small business, have pensions, life is still relatively rich, the two sons have never paid living expenses to the family, married to buy a house, and even after marriage to change the house parents are a big package, only for me is particularly mean, I can not feel any warmth in this home.
I was kind-hearted, I bought new furniture for my parents when they moved, my parents were sick, I tried my best to take care of them, but because I had laid the foundation before, my brother did not let me eat at my mother's house, I took care of the elderly at my mother's house every day, and I had to go back to my own home to face the cold stove, and I was really wronged in my heart.
I now endure the pain of illness every day and suffer from severe depression. I feel how the world is so cold, I myself have always been strong, in that era of the college entrance examination, I was admitted to college, worked hard, rated as a senior teacher, all I have is the result of my hard work, but why is life so cruel, how can my mother's family be so cruel? What am I going to do?
The above is a netizen self-statement. Gu Feng advice: You should distinguish between relatives and relatives, which is the foundation of family relations. A person's small family (husband and wife and minor children) is a community of interests and cannot and does not need to calculate gains and losses. A person's extended family (including parents) is not a community of interests and must be clearly accounted for. Outside of small families, the more confused the account, the easier it is to make a vendetta.
So you have to know that your husband is your dearest person, this is your community of interests, you have left, you ask why your brother is a stranger to you? Your son's flesh fell from your body, the in-laws did not let you look at it, you ran to your mother's house to find abuse, and now ask the two younger brothers why they treated you like this? Being good to you is human feelings, not being good is the duty, this does not understand and blames society for being cold, obviously it is stupid.
Unilateral efforts are bound to pay off. This is normal, you have to learn it at the beginning, rather than feeling that you will not be rewarded until you are sick. Especially if you are single, you should save money for your future and talk to your children. People have to live for themselves, and only when they live well can they take care of others, including their relatives.
You have to take full responsibility for this matter, and you can't force someone with whom you have a bad relationship, even if you are related by blood. Your parents were bad to you, but they made you go to college and even became a senior teacher. I don't have the eyesight to play a good hand of cards, so don't complain about the world.
So taking stock of your gains and losses, staying away from your parents and brothers and sisters-in-law who are not related to you, and finding a husband to spend the rest of the time is your only way out. Divorce is normal, but you can find it again, you have to go all the way to the black, the fairy is not rudderless.