As a child, after you have the financial ability, how much are you willing to honor your parents every month? Is it half the salary, or the majority of the salary?
For parents, the happiest thing is that the children they have worked so hard to raise can finally be independent and save money to honor their parents. Reasonable parents will be distressed by their children and will not be willing to spend a penny on their children. Parents who are accustomed to squeezing their children will only make more and more excessive demands on their children.
Meeting such parents is a disaster for children. For the partner of the child, it is a kind of wordless torture and pain. After all, parents are relationships that children can't give up, or you accept it all, otherwise you can only choose to leave.
01, work for 5 years, girlfriend subsidies for the mother's family for 5 years
Yang Hang and his girlfriend have been in love for 5 years, but in these 5 years, he is more painful and entangled than happy and sweet. It is not that the girlfriend is not good, but that the girlfriend is too filial piety, so that Yang Hang has doubts and wavering about this relationship and marriage.
Before falling in love, Yang Hang fell in love with his girlfriend and thought that her girlfriend was a kind-hearted girl. He only earns 5,000 yuan a month, but he does not hesitate to send back 3,000 yuan to his parents. For girls who earn 5,000 a month around them, but spend 5,000 at every turn, their girlfriend is undoubtedly a filial and sensible daughter.
Therefore, Yang Hang took the initiative to pursue his girlfriend, and his girlfriend was flattered, but she could not withstand Yang Hang's stalking and soon accepted Yang Hang's pursuit. After really being together, Yang Hang learned that his girlfriend worked for 5 years, but he also subsidized his mother's family for 5 years.
In order to make his girlfriend have no ideological burden, during the period of cohabitation between the two people, Yang Hang took the initiative to bear all the expenses, rent, water and electricity, and all the expenses of the two people dating. At that time, he was also optimistic that his girlfriend would now take a salary to subsidize his parents, and when the two people got married, his girlfriend would stop at the right time.
But next, what the girlfriend did once again refreshed Yang Hang's three views. Because the girlfriend was not planning for their future at all, she was completely full of energy and body and mind on her parents and brother.
02, the monthly salary of 10,000, each month to the parents and brothers 3,000
For the first two years with her girlfriend, she not only gave her parents 3,000 a month, but also provided for her brother's college education. But it was hard for her brother to graduate from work, but her girlfriend still worked hard in front of the ATM.
Yang Hang did not understand that the future brother-in-law was already working, and although the initial salary was not high, he could completely support himself. But the girlfriend said that she did not want to, but her parents repeatedly asked her to help her brother, and she could not shirk it, otherwise she would become an unfilial daughter in her parents' mouth, a white-eyed wolf.
During the two people's love, Yang Hang also proposed to get married many times, but his girlfriend refused on the grounds that the economy was not ready. Later, even the brother-in-law got married, and their marriage was still far away.
It is not that Yang Hang is unwilling to get married, but that his girlfriend has been taking her own money to subsidize her parents and brother. First bought a house for her brother-in-law, then bought a car for her brother-in-law, and then at the request of her parents, she helped her brother-in-law repay a 3,000 yuan mortgage.
Until this time, Yang Hang did not know that her girlfriend gave her parents and brother 3,000 yuan per month, and her own monthly salary was only 10,000. If two people get married, the girlfriend still subsidizes the mother's family in this way, Yang Hang is not confident that this relationship can be maintained.
Yang Hang advised his girlfriend to stop, saying that her brother had married and started a family, and she should also make more plans for herself. But my girlfriend asked him in turn, we are married, will you help me adopt my parents and brother together?
This request of his girlfriend made Yang Hang suddenly have nothing to say. Although he is the only child in the family, and his parents have their own pension and can be self-sufficient, he is not willing to take his parents and all his future in his girlfriend's house.
03, the man retired from marriage: I can't afford to raise your family of five
After a long period of mental preparation, Yang Hang finally decided to break up with his girlfriend and retire. Although the two people have been publicly engaged, the girlfriend's blind filial piety and upside down still made Yang Hang chill.
But the girlfriend did not agree to break up, saying that the two people had been in love for five years, and they almost won the long march, how can they say that they broke up and broke up? Yang Hang asked her rhetorically, can you stand idly by and watch your mother's family after marriage? Can you spend your monthly salary on your own little home instead of your mother-in-law?
My girlfriend was silent for a long time before she said that even if I got married and started a family, my parents and brothers would still be my unshirkable responsibility, and I couldn't stand by and watch them. And if you really love me, you should accompany me through hardships and hardships, rather than forcing me to give up my parents and brothers.
The girlfriend's words left Yang Hang speechless. He knows very well that his girlfriend's stubbornness will eventually turn himself into a complete brother-in-law demon. And he couldn't guarantee that he would support her for the rest of his life without complaint and accompany her to adopt her parents and brother.
Yang Hang proposed to retire from marriage: Let's break up, I can't afford to raise your family of five. In your heart, your parents and brother's family are the most important, and I and our future little family are insignificant.
Yang Hang's words made his girlfriend burst into tears. Looking at his girlfriend who collapsed in tears, Yang Hang also felt compassion and wanted to accompany his girlfriend down desperately. But the sanity that remained in his brain finally forced Yang Hang to retreat. It's not that he doesn't love anymore, but he can't afford to love and raise his brother-in-law's family.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Yang Hang to break up and stop the loss in time?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!