The more children in a family, the more love each child receives from their parents will also be halved, after all, it is very tiring to travel for the family, and it is even more impossible for parents to spend their energy on balancing children.
Often in these families with two children, the eldest hears the most common sentence: "The younger brother or sister is still young, you are older than him, let him have some."
This has also created more and more children with brothers and sisters who grow up to be adults, even if they have their own happy families, they are still poisoned by this feudal idea, becoming "brother-in-law demons" and bringing a lot of impact to their married life.
First, Li Qian, who does not want to become a "brother support demon", is helpless in the face of her mother
Li Qian, who got married and had a child, has recently been full of sorrow, because she feels that since the birth of the child, the family's expenses have become larger and larger, and even if her husband leaves early and returns late for the family to work outside the home, he still cannot meet the daily expenses.
So it also made Li Qian have the idea of wanting to return the dowry that her husband's family gave to her mother, after all, it was also the money she married, subsidizing her daughter, and it was normal for the life of the little two.
So Li Qian took an opportunity to talk to her mother about this idea, tentatively asked her mother's wishes, and unexpectedly her mother directly rejected Li Qian's request, and also said that the money had long been gone.
In this regard, Li Qian was also very surprised, it is not a small amount of money, there are more than 200,000 yuan, and there is no big expense at home for so many years, how can this money be said to be gone? Could it be that the mother made up the reason because she didn't want to give?
Sure enough, things were just as Li Qian expected, and her mother then explained to her where the money went, and before Li Qian could question her, her mother continued to count Li Qian on this matter, saying that she did not marry a good family, and when she became a family, she had to go back to her mother's house to ask for money.
Li Qian listened and listened more and more helplessly, obviously when she got married, she said that she would save the dowry money for herself, and then take it out to save the emergency after the two children had difficulties after marriage, but the mother said that she did not remember this matter, and said that she wanted to find a daughter-in-law to keep it for her brother.
Second, her mother intensified, making Li Qian's heart like ashes
The more Li Qian thought about it, the more angry she became, why was her mother now full of thoughts about her brother, was she just a person from someone else's family when she married out? She also needs to live, and she also needs money to survive. Li Qian was also very upset about this, because her mother had become like this, and she also had a great responsibility.
That is too obedient to her, when she has a job before marriage, as long as her mother asks for money, Li Qian will immediately call her, and she will almost respond to her parents' requirements, and then even every time she returns to her mother's house after marriage, she will wrap a few thousand red envelopes for her parents.
However, her mother not only did not give her more understanding and understanding, but also exploited everything that was beneficial to her brother from her like a "vampire", which made Li Qian feel very powerless.
Third, the only one who is tired of a life of perfection is yourself
Li Qian used to be the only daughter in the family, but then her mother gave birth to a younger brother for her when she was 40 years old, and when Li Qian married, her brother had just entered primary school, probably because the age gap was too big, Li Qian always took extra care of this younger brother who was much younger than herself.
However, her mother was still not satisfied with her, because in her mother's eyes, money was everything, so she began to use words to sarcastically bring Li Qian, who could not bring wealth to the family.
So Li Qian, who finally couldn't bear it, decided to tear her face with her mother, expressed her thoughts with her mother, and hoped that her mother could understand her with a tough attitude of breaking off relations with her mother.
However, the mother did not listen at all, but instead shouted: "What is wrong with you giving me money?" Isn't that what it should be? The natural attitude made Li Qianqi not fight, and directly shouted at her mother: "Mom, I can't, and I won't help you raise your son."
After that, the relationship between the mother and Li Qian also dropped to the freezing point, Li Qian told her husband about this matter, and the husband also comforted her and said that she would take care of her small family in the future, as for the younger brother, we would not save the poor, and the two hundred thousand should be given to the parents, and it would be counted.
Li Qian is also very touched by her husband's tolerance, and she also hopes to run her own home well in the future.
Affection is always like this, it is difficult to easily say "no" to parents, perhaps their parenting grace is indeed beyond our recompense, but the unreasonable demands of family affection are also undesirable.
Everyone has their own life and is not responsible for the lives of others, even if it is your dearest person, it may feel a little impersonal to say so, but the current society is also true.
Now everyone lives for themselves, so after having their own families, taking the initiative to maintain a proper sense of distance from their loved ones is what we need to do now.