Raising children, what period is the most afraid?
The answer for most parents must be adolescent rebellion.
Some time ago, "The World of Man", which caused a hot discussion, in which Zhou Rong's daughter Feng Yue made people see how sensitive and rebellious adolescent children can be.
Feng Yue in adolescence is particularly willful.
The Zhou family is rare everyone is together, everyone wants to take advantage of the photo studio has not closed, hurry to take a family portrait, make up for the regrets of parents for many years, but Feng Yue wants to watch tv first, after being turned off by her mother Zhou Rong, she is angry and wants to run out, Zheng Juan can only call Zhou Nan to chase.
Because of her willfulness, coupled with Ma Shouchang's sudden illness, Bingkun went to the hospital to take care of it, and she missed this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to take a family portrait.
Later, when she learned that Zhou Nan was not related to herself, she also liked Zhou Nan, and later she disregarded morality and ethics and insisted on being with Zhou Nan.
No matter how Zhou Rong disciplines, how adults know righteousness, and Feng Yue in adolescence is still sensitive and willful, selfish and reckless, the stricter the adults control her, the more serious her rebellious psychology will be. Bumping into her parents, running away from home, doing a lot of tricks, and doing a lot of stupid things, making her mother Zhou Rong angry and helpless, heartache and tiredness.
"Adolescent children are like a time bomb", although exaggerated, but not without reason.
Compared with girls, boys are even more self-respecting, love face, eager to prove themselves, and are more likely to make mistakes impulsively.
Fights, early love, school weariness, world weariness... If you do not get positive and effective correct guidance, the child is likely to make a wrong step and a wrong step. It is not only learning that is delayed, but may also affect the direction of a lifetime.
Professor Li Meijin reminded that adolescent children are too sensitive, and parents should change the previous education model and give support and guidance in a more scientific and acceptable way.
Reading is a very good way.
Think about it, when the child insists on doing it against the parents and teachers, just read a book about a similar experience, feel the strong resonance, the child may be able to understand, maybe really responsible for themselves, not to do whatever they want, but to know what can not be done.
If you also have a child who is in the middle of adolescence, send them some good books and let them understand for themselves, so that maybe they can make their lives move from chaos to wisdom, from confusion to enlightenment, and hang a bright mast.
Below, Xiao Tongjun recommends 6 good books suitable for adolescent children to read.
1. "Dear Andrei"
Introduction:
"Dear Andrei" is a collection of letters exchanged by the famous writer Long Yingtai and his son Andrei for three years, and a total of 36 letters were collected.
In the letter, Andrei "has three points of cynicism, two points of black humor, and five points of seriousness"; Long Yingtai "has eight points of seriousness and two points of intellectual skepticism". Andrei "laughed at Long Yingtai"; Long Yingtai "seriously studied" Andre.
The book presents the collision of the hearts of the two generations of mother and son and the influence of different cultures of China and the West on the individual ideology, records the efforts of the two generations to eliminate estrangement and conflict, and also provides a clear and vivid example of the collision of Chinese and Western cultures.
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Focusing on the generation gap between adolescent children and the previous generation, the book explores the views of mother and child on the old and new, left and right, popular culture and humanistic care, reflecting the different generational values of mother and child.
The stories and emotions not only touched countless readers who were deeply troubled by the estrangement and conflict between "parents and children", but also brought new thinking and methods for readers to bridge the generation gap, cross cultural barriers, and communicate between the two generations.
2, "Boy, I Say It To You Out Loud"
The book is a book of hearts written to boys by the famous writer and psychologist Bi Shumin, covering the themes of boys' growth, success, inspiration, love, marriage, cultivation and so on, with both light and idyllic youth beautiful texts and fascinating psychological counseling stories.
This book is a guide for boys to know themselves, get out of confusion and confusion, and pursue success and happiness, and it is also helpful and enlightening for girls to know and understand the psychology of boys.
This book is exquisitely designed, and there are more than 60 beautiful illustrations carefully drawn by domestic first-line young illustrators, which is a rich spiritual and visual feast, and the secrets of boys are here.
3, "Girl, I Whisper to You"
The same book written by Bi Shumin for the girls, she said: "Beautiful girls please slow down, listen to me quietly tell you about the warm and warm police policy." Don't panic, life should be calm and full, let the stream of the spirit rush clear. Even if you are a mud lotus at this moment, I believe that you will bloom as a lotus. ”
If your daughter is puberty, recommend it to her. Xiao Tongjun thinks that even parents will be captured by this book, because it will evoke too many memories of your sweet youth.
4. "Wednesday's War"
This book " Wednesday's War" talks about campus life from the perspective of students, as well as classmate relationships, teacher-student relationships, parent-child relationships, and wars.
With very delicate brushstrokes, the author describes the "war" between hollin, a seventh-grader, and his teacher, Mrs. Baker.
After a series of events, with Mrs. Baker's help, Hollin ends up being transformed into an independently thinking teenager. The language is warm and humorous, suitable for children's psychology, teaching children to love and understand, and is of great educational significance.
Another great feature of the book is the fusion of Shakespeare's works, which are of very high literary value.
Unlike some designated reading lists, it has both literary value and reading pleasure, and is a book that is truly suitable for children to read.
In this book, from the perspective of children, in a relaxed and interesting way, Shakespeare's works are cleverly integrated with the storyline, which is very enjoyable to read, which is not only a perfect reading experience, but also triggers people to think deeply, which is a real "edutainment".
5. "Little Green"
Little Green has the joys and troubles of a teenage girl, but she is different from others - she is a little witch!
The book vividly depicts the true psychology and life of adolescent girls: Xiaolu will soon be eleven years old, and her mother feels that it is time for her to work hard and show excellent qualities. But Xiao Lu didn't want to be a "good" person at all, she was only interested in the boys in the class. She thinks it's good to be an ordinary person, why doesn't her mother understand her? The mother was mad by Xiao Lu, and did not understand why her daughter was so "unmotivated", but it was her mother's biggest expectation for Xiao Lu...
Is such a scene familiar to everyone? Reading this book with the whole adolescent child, discussing and discussing the troubles of little green, may help us discover the secrets hidden in the hearts of children
The story of "Little Green" is deeply loved by teenagers, and the author brilliantly grasps the psychological transformation of children from the same year to the adolescent period, so that children learn to think in empathy and grow up in reading.
6. "Incomparably Wonderful Pain"
In the cancer support group, haizhen, a 16-year-old girl, meets Augustus, a boy whose limb has been amputated due to bone cancer, and in the monotonous life of perennial hospitalization, they gradually get to know each other because of a book they like together.
The seriously ill girl Hai Zhen fell in love with the boy Augustus, who was sick with the same disease, and the figure of the god of death accompanied by the beauty of youth made the two young people snuggle up to each other in the shy physical torture and emotional test.
Tass believes that the meaning of life is to live vigorously, so that it is meaningful; Haizhen, on the contrary, is afraid of being remembered and hurting those who love her like a time bomb.
Hai Hao wanted to complete the journey to the Netherlands in the last moments of her life, and the boy endured the pain of illness and helped her complete her wish, so she bid farewell to this world and gave the girl eternal love in limited days. The girl read the letter left by the boy and burst into tears...
The novel is full of witty dialogues between 16-year-olds, and there is no lack of heartbeat and beauty of young first love. The writing is both elegant and humorous, easy to understand and evocative.
After reading it, you can feel a strong breath of love and life, telling children what is love and responsibility, what is the meaning of life, and what is eternity.