Author: Bookworm
Wei Guan said: Parents and children are the best gifts to give to each other.
But can you imagine these two sentences being said by a son to his own mother?
"I'm also very helpless, I don't want to fight with you."
"Do you have a conscience?" Touch your own conscience yourself. ”
In court, a 21-year-old man sued his mother.
What was so serious that it took this child to get into such a fight with his mother?
Xiao Liang is a child of a single-parent family.
When he was only 3 years old, his parents divorced, and Xiao Liang was sentenced to his father.
Because the family needs to be supported, Xiao Liang's father has been working in other places all year round and rarely returns.
His father did not want Xiao Liang to drift outside with him at such a young age, so he sent Xiao Liang, who was still 3 years old, to live with his grandparents.
The feelings between their grandparents are very deep, Xiao Liang and her grandparents sleep in the same room, and they have slept for 18 years.
Xiao Liang's grandparents' house is not big, but the love given to him by his grandparents fills the "hole" in his heart.
But these warmths could not eliminate the resentment of Xiao Liang's mother in his heart.
When he was a child, Xiao Liang did not feel the love of his parents, and even always thought that his mother did not want him, which was a thorn in Xiao Liang's heart.
"My mother didn't want me when she was very young, and when the court ruled for divorce, she gave me to my father, and my mother didn't want to fight for custody of me, I felt that she had no motherhood at all."
But is this really the case?
In fact, Xiao Liang's mother fought for the custody of her children at that time, and even decided that after the divorce, as long as the color TV, Hongyun electric fan and child custody, nothing else.
In the early days of the divorce, Xiao Liang's mother also visited the child, but Xiao Liang's father and grandparents did not want them to meet.
Even in the end, Xiao Liang's father specifically told the school not to let Xiao Liang's mother and son meet.
Xiao Liang's mother did not buy clothes, tutoring books, and computers for Xiao Liang, but these memories were so strange to Xiao Liang.
In his heart, his mother was the "bad guy" in his grandparents' mouths, and he was even more disgusted by his mother's behavior.
This time, I went to court because of the encouragement of my grandparents.
Xiao Liang's grades were average, but only his Japanese scores were outstanding, and Xiao Liang wanted to go abroad to refine, but he was opposed by his mother.
Without her mother's financial support, Xiao Liang simply could not study abroad.
So he took his mother to court and demanded that she pay for his study abroad.
The court finally ruled that Xiao Liang's mother won, but she lost the child's last feelings for her, and even got a sentence: "There is no humanity, no motherhood." ”
Children have no ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and many times the influence of his relatives around him is more serious than imagined.
Xiao Liang is a "victim" of the war between his grandparents and his mother, but what they don't know is that letting children grow up in hatred is the most cruel thing in the world!
There was once a sample survey conducted by an institution, and more than 3,000 middle school students did the relevant questionnaire.
One of the questionnaires was: "Attitude towards Parents", and up to 56.28% of children chose the option of "extremely disgusted or hated parents"!
This set of data is shocking! This means that one in two children has a "grudge" towards their parents.
And many times, this "hate" seed is planted by the child's relatives.
Xiao Yu, a single-parent girl in "Hear Her Say", grew up in her mother's "hate parenting".
Xiao Yu's mother hates her father to the bone because of her father's cheating, and even demands that her daughter must also hate her father.
The most my mother said to Xiaoyu was, "Your father is the worst person in the world, and he ruined your life and our lives." You're a fatherless kid! ”
Even in order to get revenge on Xiaoyu's father, she actually put pesticides in her daughter's favorite eight treasure porridge and wanted to die with Xiaoyu.
"Sometimes I really want to be able to have a superpower like the protagonist in the movie -- so that I can go back 26 years and kill myself."
Ignoring the child's feelings, forcibly instilling one's own emotions into the child, and immersing the child in pain and hatred will eventually ruin the child's life.
It is often said that children are the mirror of the family.
Correct education can cultivate children to establish a correct outlook on life and values, and it is also an important link between parents and children!
The mother Ning You in "Meet the Season" has made a good example!
Ning You's husband cheated on her, and even repeatedly asked her to borrow money, in order to give her children a complete home, she put up with everything.
Like many traditional mothers, she can wronged herself for the sake of her children.
Regardless of whether she should be so reclusive or not, Ning Yu's textbook parenting style is worth learning from many parents!
After her husband cheated, the son Gray Discovered his father's suspicious behavior and questioned his father: "The place you went to is a hotel!" ”
Ning Yu did not cover up the matter in the face of Ash's questioning, but only told Ash what his father was facing.
She did not transfer her emotions to the child, but let Ash judge and think for herself.
When Ash saw that his father was arrested by the police, Ning Yu did not deceive Ash ash and informed him of ash's father's corruption, so that Ash could face this matter correctly.
"Dad has never spent money on the family all these years, and we are innocent. Punishing yourself for the mistakes of others is the most stupid thing to do. ”
Even, at the end, when Ning Yu divorced her husband, she still told Ash Ash: "He is not a good husband, but he is a good father, and he will always love you!" ”
Whether it's marriage or divorce, educating children is always about love, not hate.
Only children who grow up in love will become brave and warm, and their hearts will be planted with the seeds of "goodness".
Please be kind to every innocent child!
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