What really attracted me to the drama "Meet the Season" was not Ning Shu's revenge, but the emotional state of Ning Shu's sister Ning Yu.
The noonday sun is best at shooting the detail psychology of the characters, but it must also be the kind that a good actor can control.
Yuan Quan really played the role of Ning Yu.
The lives of several middle-aged people in the play are far away from us, one by one are the bosses of the company, but they seem to be very close, and their emotional entanglements are the same as everyone else'.
What are people most afraid of losing in middle age? And look at Ning Yu.
The three stages of Ning Yu
Ning You's childhood is not called this name, and a few shots can be seen that Ning Yu was a very well-behaved and timid child when she was a child.
Unlike her brother, she will only escape when she encounters things, and she does not know how to fight.
When she was a teenager, Ning Yu met Jian Hongcheng, the child of the Qiu family, at school, and it happened that the two were still in the same class. The cowardly Ning Yu wanted to flee at the first moment.
Jian Hongcheng chased after her with a dead face, which touched her heart, but she still failed to persevere and took the initiative to break up.
Then the plot jumps directly to middle age.
How she met and fell in love with Hao Qinglin did not have ink, but directly cut into the pain points of middle-aged couples.
Family income disparities, affairs, ineffective exchanges, separations...
Each one hits the soul.
Ning You's annual salary is 2 million, and her husband Hao Qinglin's income is not mentioned, but according to the sentence "Mother's salary is several times higher than that of father", Hao Qinglin may not have an annual salary of more than 500,000.
Later, he partnered with others to open a company and lost a lot of money.
Otherwise, I wouldn't even have to go to my parents for hundreds of thousands. It is equivalent to the status of debt.
The huge income difference made Hao Qinglin gradually "perverted". He felt that he had no status at home and could not submit to his wife in terms of work ability, so he moved his mind to have an affair, and indeed did it.
Speaking of which, I would love to complain.
It seems natural that men in the family have higher incomes than women, and once the other way around, some men will feel fed soft and feel extremely humiliated.
Is this machismo?
Ning Yu himself was not wrong, but he also had to take care of the other party's psychology, for fear of stinging his self-esteem. In front of his son, he also had to maintain a good image of his father. Tired is not tired.
Ning Yu consciously took good care of the other party, and as a result, Hao Qinglin said something very.
The gist of it is: if you don't let me subsidize my family, you are disgusted with my low income and hurt my self-esteem. I am also a member of this family, why don't you let me supplement the family. You are giving me charity and looking down on me.
The audience felt that Hao Qinglin said this kind of thing too badly, and he borrowed money from his wife without pulling out a dime, and in the end blamed his wife for not letting him supplement the family.
From the perspective of men, Hao Qinglin said that there is some truth, no matter how high or low the income, how much to contribute to the family, that also has a sense of participation.
Ning Yu really didn't do anything wrong in this regard.
The estrangement is built up from these trivial little things.
The first affair, Ning Yu's treatment was separation.
The separation did not bring the opportunity for the two people to break the mirror and reunite, but let Hao Qinglin feel more cold treatment, and thus be more outward.5
A man who is already extremely dissatisfied with the state of the family, separation will not make him reform.
The second time it was even bigger, Hao Qinglin was suspected of financial crimes, which caused a disaster to the family.
Being handcuffed out of the house in front of his son, the image of the father is completely collapsed.
Looking at Ning You's attitude, I, as the audience, were anxious for her: a gentle personality, indecisiveness in handling things, and a bursting heart of the Virgin.
In fact, from her point of view, it is difficult to do a quick knife to cut the mess.
It is interesting that I also saw netizens commenting on the bullet screen: any man will feel pressured to face her.
That's what I want to say, although Ning Yu is not strong on the surface, he always has a feeling of rejecting people thousands of miles away. She could not make a mistake in her words or actions, but she was like an iceberg, both oppressive and oppressive.
Living with such a woman is also very tiring.
Hao Qinglin is faced with an extremely perfect woman who does not rely on him for anything, and really has no sense of existence. This kind of conjugal relationship is not advisable in marriage.
Middle-aged people are most afraid of losing something
Ning Yu had always behaved very depressed and made people feel very uncomfortable. There is a state of affairs precisely because she desperately wants to maintain the integrity of the family, and she is afraid that her son will face a broken family, but she cannot accept the father of the child.
What middle-aged people are most afraid of losing is a complete family.
Ning You's children are already teenagers, accustomed to the days of a family of three, even if her husband has an affair, she is willing to swallow her anger to create a superficial harmony.
Family changes are the most difficult for middle-aged people to accept. It has less to do with love, but more from the separation of the family relationship network.
Divorce involves both the husband and wife's years of love and the parents of both parties.
What is really is the degree of disorganization.
On the one hand, it is difficult to teach children to still respect grandparents or grandparents, and on the other hand, to completely cut off emotional relations with the child's biological father (birth mother).
In the long run, personalities are split.
Look at Jian Hongcheng's marriage.
I don't know why the two divorced and haven't seen the latest episode yet, but his ex-wife is really scary and feels like a brain isn't quite right.
The child is carried by his ex-wife, and Jian Hongcheng not only has to pay the entire living expenses of the mother and son, but also visits the children under the age of 3 every three to five years. Create the illusion of a complete family in front of your children.
All for the sake of children, they all choose to hide. Adult love really can't be solved in one shot or two.
So I really admire those celebrity families, and the angry divorce, and then go back and forth as usual.
It's not the average heart.
Usually, instead of encountering a situation of emotional betrayal, it is difficult for middle-aged couples to reach the point of divorce. Because they are already in a family-like relationship, many daily habits are difficult to change.
Even if one party occasionally betrays feelings, there are many people who choose to be patient, and they don't need love anyway, just know that it is good to go back to this home.
The most important thing at this time is not the loyalty of the other party, but the integrity of the family.
Children are their weaknesses.
epilogue
Although most people choose to be patient, I still insist on my own view, that is, it is better to crush the jade than to be completely destroyed.
Referring to Ning You's family, all she did in exchange for concealing her children was self-deception. The child feels that he has been deceived, and his mood fluctuates greatly.
Let the child live in a delicate family environment, and the child can only feel the repression.
Words can be made up, eyes cannot be deceived, the harmony of husband and wife will make children happy, and pretend harmony will make children feel confused.
It is better to spread out and let the child know that the parents will always be the parents of the child, but they have to change the way they get along.
Talking with children like friends is exchanged for children's respect and empathy.
The crisis of middle-aged feelings is indeed very bad, but we must also look forward, barely maintaining a maddening marriage relationship, the harm is far greater than the harm caused by divorce.