What makes a man remember for a lifetime is often the woman who has given him these feelings

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It is said that meeting the right person at the right time is love; meeting the right person at the wrong time is regret. And regret is always worrying.

Just like a man may love many women in his life, but the only one who can really make him remember his life is the one who leaves the most regrets and regrets in his life.

This man is not particularly good, but the feeling given to him is irreplaceable by anyone.

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The first love of adolescence

The woman who made him understand love for the first time

The first love of youth is like an unripe green apple, bitter with a slight sweetness, and full of sourness.

But it is such a sour relationship that can make men store it in the depths of their hearts for a long time.

In the TV series "Meet the Season", Jian Hongcheng has a first love that has always been in his heart - Ning You.

The two are college classmates, Jian Hongcheng fell in love with Ning You at first sight, but Ning You avoided him like a snake and scorpion, because she recognized Jian Hongcheng and knew that the two families were enemies.

But in the end, she did not resist the temptation of love, and she finally stayed with him with a fluke mentality.

However, there is a relationship of hatred, and in the end, Ning Yu still chose to break up.

Jian Hongcheng was unwilling, but Ning Yu insisted, and he could only bear to let go.

He chose to seal this feeling in his heart, even if he later got married and had children, he would still think of her from time to time.

In the emotional world of men, the person who first appears is always the most memorable.

Because, the impact of "first time" is the most profound.

The first time to be thrilled with a person, the first time to fight for a person, the first time to cry for a person... Many of the firsts were given by the woman, and it was she who made him understand love for the first time.

The first love for him is a bright color of the entire youth, not the world, not asking about the future, only because of the initial heartbeat, even if the ending is regrettable and broken.

This kind of unadulterated feelings, love and unsuccessful regrets, beautify the memories, but also give birth to a lot of romance and fantasy.

So that no matter how the years change, the original throbbing and affection will still remain in the man's heart.

Of course, women don't have to worry that one day, the man will rekindle his first love.

After all, times have changed, and men understand very well that even if some feelings are repeated, they will no longer be yesterday.

The reason why I often remember it is more often because of nostalgia.

Especially after experiencing the big waves of society, learning to weigh the pros and cons, and no longer having the courage to be desperate at that time, I naturally miss that innocent and hot first love.

Therefore, it is not so much that a man cannot forget his first love, but rather that he misses the youth that can never go back, and misses the real self who is obsessed with love.

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Accompanied him through hardships,

A woman who has given him warmth and help but can't love him

In addition to the youthful first love, what can make a man remember his life is the woman who has suffered with him at the lowest point of his life and has given him warmth and help.

Just like Xiao Xiao in the movie "Later Us", she and Jianqing worked hard in Beijing together, accompanied him to live in a narrow rental house, ate instant noodles with him, and encouraged him to accompany him when he was ridiculed and looked down upon.

To Jianqing, she was like a small sun, the only light in his gray life.

But her own inferiority and good face, self-abandonment behavior hurt her, and eventually lost her.

Even if the later career of See qing has improved, the two cannot come back, and in the end, he can only choose to silently hide Xiao Xiao in his heart.

In love, the most sad thing is often not a breakup, but a regret that cannot be loved. As the play says: "Later we had everything, but we didn't have us." ”

It has always been deep, but the fate is shallow. The true feelings of being in the same boat through thick and thin, and the regret of being powerless to keep each other, have left heavy regrets in men's hearts, and this feeling is still difficult to forget even if men enter new feelings in the future.

After all, the woman who accompanied him through hardships was the only color in his unhappy years, and she had accompanied him around the most difficult times, accompanied him to work hard and suffer together.

So that the regret and remorse that could not be reconciled deepened the memories and emotions of the past over and over again, making it often remembered.

However, as the woman next to him, there is no need to panic too much, although the man has some memories in his heart, but that is all.

He knew very well that no matter how beautiful it was, it could only be a story, and a story was only suitable for collection. It is true that feelings of fate and indistinguishable are indeed difficult to give up, but he will not let the past affect the present.

He will only dust her in the corner of his heart and then love the people around him.

03

Stetson wrote in "Me and the Temple of Earth":

"I haven't forgotten anything, but there are some things that are only suitable for collection, and I can't say or think about it, but I can't put it away."

The same is true of feelings.

I think every man will have a "white moonlight" living in his heart, a woman who can't love, can't forget, and only thinks in his heart.

She may be his first love in his youth, or she may be the person who has suffered with him but has no chance to stay with him.

But no matter how good the past is, men must remember not to be too immersed in the memories of the past and hurt the people in front of them.

Women should also understand that what can make men remember is often not in people but in feelings, this feeling will make men grow, he will take a better self, to love you later.

So what a woman should do is not to mind, but to give trust, to give space, and to live the life in front of her with him.

Finally, I would like to share a love sentence written by Wang Xiaobo:

"You are a very lovely person, you really deserve the best person you have met, and I wish I were."

On the road of life, I hope that everyone can meet their own lovers, you make my heart move, I let you feel at ease, and work together to see the flowers in the world blossom and fall, and the clouds are cirrus.

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