In the next decade, change the way of life: only love can withstand the long years

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As the author said, at this moment, listening to the theme song of "Please Answer 1988", my heart is calm. The show has been on air for a long time, and looking back, we've been off campus for a long time, and we've been in the crowd for years.

In fact, in the middle of many nights, when I have time to be in a daze, I will still be grateful to myself over the years. Although I still haven't been able to live the self I wanted most, I am slowly getting closer to that self. As Wang Lubin, the author of "The Next Decade, Change the Way of Life", said, many times, life is really like a dream, I hope that one day when the dream wakes up, we will sigh, this is a dream that makes people feel moved.

In this book "The Next Decade, Change the Way of Life", the author tells the story of three girls after graduation and enters the society, different people have different encounters, but in the tenth year, perhaps there is too much backlog of thinking over the years, and people will also think about how to pursue the transformation from quantitative change to qualitative change. So, they started to try, and although it didn't go so well at first, fortunately, in the end, they found their way back to the direction of their efforts for the next decade.

The story takes place in a small courtyard in the Beijing Courtyard, where there are different scenery and colors throughout the year, but it is also in this ten-year period that they have witnessed the comings and goings of people in life, the birth and death of the old, the sick and dead, and the cold and warm of the world that everyone can talk about while drinking wine many years later.

Some of the plots in the story are always so familiar, and then I thought about it, in my ten years, I have also witnessed people coming and going, people's life, old age, illness and death, and the cold and warmth of the world. I also like to record things, because I am afraid that some people and things will be forgotten like this, and I am afraid that the marks of those growth will be smoothed out by the years, and then one day I will forget the way I came.

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01 Later, are we still us?

I have seen the movie "Later Us" led by Rene Liu, perhaps we guessed the ending at the beginning, and the "we" many years later may not have been the original us.

In this way, we are not only lovers, but also may be friends. I used to swear that I could make everything the same. Later, I learned that when the time was right, I had to learn to let myself go. Therefore, whenever I see those friends who have been in the relationship for many years, I will still be envious in my heart. It's like a sentence in the book "The Next Decade, Change the Way of Life": "There are so many people in this world, how lucky I have a us..."

This book tells the story of three girls from the north and south of the world after living together in the courtyard in Beijing, including the later entrepreneurship, their respective growth, and everyone's transformation. In every small life of fireworks, there are still some people who are silently working hard for the original persistence.

In the end, with their persistence and hard work, they realized their dreams and did what they wanted to do most. Perhaps, dreams are expensive, life is very ordinary, but on the road to slowly becoming better, those few people who have been with you are the people who want to be grateful in their hearts when they become famous after many years, because in many nights that they know that they cannot do it, their words, a hug, and even a dinner will warm your heart.

So, if you're still around us years ago, it's a pleasure to tell you that you're lucky. If not, don't be discouraged, maybe at the next intersection you will meet people on the same frequency as you.

And I should be more lucky, or I am a slower person, fortunately there are always a few familiar people around, in many ritual days of life, have their company. Some are friends, some are close friends, some are like-minded people, so although people come and go, they are always there, so I always feel that I am a lucky person.

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02 Did you also have a moment when you wanted to leave everything behind and start over?

Whenever we see teenagers full of spirit, we always think of a word "vigorous", and always feel that at that age is the best look in our lives.

We have also had that stage of life, about love, we have perfect fantasies; about the future, we have the ambition to achieve; about the future, we feel that everything can be expected.

However, as we gradually reach the age we were looking forward to, we found that suddenly we were a little different. The fast sister in the book feels that everything around her is a business opportunity, but after tossing and turning, she finds that she wants everything, but it seems that she can't grasp anything.

Although Binbin's job is good, he is a journalist and a career of his dreams, but watching the people interviewed succeed one by one, he still feels that he is not what he imagined.

Why shouldn't we? If it weren't for the little bit of blood left in our hearts, we probably wouldn't have anything left. When we were young, we could say very neatly: "It's a big deal that I'll start over." When I grew up, I found that it was a sentence that I had accumulated a lot of luck to dare to say.

Many times we have the idea of leaving everything behind and starting over, but just like Slow Na, there are old and small, and the risky ones are bigger, and we dare not try easily.

This is probably also the helplessness of adults. But even so, I hope that we can remember what our original intention was when we worked so hard, although we could not do what we wanted to do immediately, but we can save the country, do the current things well, and then slowly approach our dreams.

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03 Is your heart still as pure as before?

When you first graduated, if you are doing things with a heart, in the eyes of others, you are pure, young and energetic.

After ten years, if you still maintain that original intention of doing things, maybe this matter itself will make others suspicious, are you artificial? Or is there some other purpose? Or is it stupid?

Perhaps, in the later time, everyone pays attention to everything with a purpose, and people who repeatedly pay attention to no purpose and have feelings have become strange.

Just like in this book, a few girls opened a small courtyard, and the original expectation was to bring warmth to the people in the city. But the marketing philosophy of this era is to make your shop into an internet celebrity shop and let the internet celebrity promote it for you. In the original intention of Slow Na, the matter of eating things, the ingredients should be picked, the pots and pans for filling things should also be used well, and the taste of food should also pay attention to the time point of eating.

Suddenly, one day two little girls came and said that they were visiting the shop, but as soon as they entered the door, they began to take various poses, and the same was true when things were brought up. So that in the end, the thing is cold and smelly, but it is still blamed for not eating well.

The development of the web itself is a good thing, allowing us to discover something new faster. But it has also become a tool for some people to make profits, and there is no bottom line for the profession as a recommended person. Once we also saw a store recommended by others, said a lot of good, and then we also personally tasted it, and the taste was really unimaginable.

Later, regarding this kind of recommendation, I just held a mentality of just looking at it.

If everyone's mentality is purer, is the world much more beautiful? Shopkeepers focus on the quality of the food, and foodies focus on the taste of the food. Anyway, "the wine is not afraid of the deep alley", isn't it very good?

After the years of war and chaos, those who can precipitate are those who have feelings, so mature people do not like routines.

The impact of life is too great, perhaps you want to be like others, abandon the original pure self, into this vast crowd, but this time, after all, pure and clean things are the most beautiful.

Therefore, I hope that each of us can still retain the original pure heart and be a pure self.

Ten years, not long or short, but can change a lot of things, send away a lot of people, forget a lot of people, forget a lot of things. But, when it comes to growth, it's engraved on everyone.

And I suddenly remembered a sentence, only love, can withstand the long years.